What Thai Women Are Really Like

Last updated: October 15th, 2018 | in Thai Girls

What Thai Women Are Like

Most people discover this site by searching for all sorts of topics related to Thailand on google. But from what I see in my site stats the majority of first time visitors are typing in phrases like “what do thai girls think”, “farang and thai woman” or “sex with thai girl”. And even though I don’t have a specific article to each and every single search phrase out there, a lot of you guys then hit up one of the most read articles on Thailand Redcat: Are Thai Girls all about money?

What I’m basically saying in this piece is that not all Thai girls are about money. While this is just half of the truth and a somewhat general statement as well, what I really meant to say there is: You can have a hell lot of fun here in Thailand and meet and sleep with beautiful Thai women over and over again without paying much money. You might even find your girl paying the bills in the cinema, restaurant or for the taxi back to her place.

That’s especially true if you’re dating women who are around your age or older. You should always be aware that age matters a lot in Thailand and the fact that the words “pîi” (พี่) for older person and “nɔ́ɔng” (น้อง) for younger person always replace the actual name of someone you don’t know yet. It’s not just that the older siblings are the main caretaker in the family both for the parents and also for the younger brothers and sisters – but this also applies to relationships where the man is usually older than the woman.

One side note before we get into the interesting part: Of course we are talking about “normal Thai women” here, means girls with day jobs, office girls and students. If you fall in love with any sort of bar girl, you’re paying 98% of all bills from day one with the exception being the 8 Baht a person for the non-airconditioned bus ticket in Bangkok (supposing she’s cool with hopping on one) and the rare occasions she walks to the 7-Eleven by herself and doesn’t ask you for a couple of notes to get her daily supply of snacks and toiletries.

Anyway, thanks for still reading. Maybe I have lost a few of you guys already after these first paragraphs as I basically made two completely contradictory statements. First I said you can have fun with Thai women for free and then claiming that since age matters a lot in Thai society and men are usually looking for younger women (and vice versa) it’s us guys who pay most of the time. So what the heck do I mean by that? Let me start by saying:

The longer you are dating a Thai woman, the more you take on your role as the caretaker in the relationship.

And yes, by caretaker I mean the financial caretaker in the relationship. It’s really as easy as that. Thai women simply still don’t have the ambition and chance to earn more money than the guys or make career in one of the (very few) big companies. Yes they can earn some good money by working as pretties and hostesses at events and do model jobs here and there or sell beauty products on facebook as long as they’re young and gifted. But they know if they want to keep their current lifestyle they need to find a guy who takes care of them once they passed their 20s.

Maybe a few of you guys now think hey I know some chicks who work as real estate agents and are doing really good. But then ask yourself how many of them are olden then say 35? Yes, there are always exceptions but I bet you don’t know a lot who are over 35 and make more money than their husband, no matter whether Thai or Farang.

In that regards, I would compare the situation in Thailand with the one in western countries some 50 years ago when it was the man who worked full time and the woman taking care of the household and children at home. I tell you this is still the case in my own home in Germany where my dad always supported our family financially while my mom prepared the meals, did the laundry, cleaned up the house and was always around when me or my sister needed her (while still working part time).

Taking Care of your Thai Woman

And yes, this is exactly how it works in Thailand. Some guys ask their Thai women to still take up a job or buy her a small business like a coffee shop to keep her busy while others just want to have her around all the time and give her some pocket money every other day or on a monthly basis which is then called “ngǝn dʉan” (money month, เงินเดือน) and yes that’s exactly the same word as the salary for employees.

If you are ever thinking about marrying a Thai woman then what you should be aware of is that you are not marrying only one person but a whole family and are supposed to take part in all sorts of social gatherings but also the moment you are asking her parents for permission to marry her you need to promise them to take care (in Thai “duu lɛɛ”, ดูแล) of her always. In many cases they even want to have a look at your bank book (or book bank) to check on your savings and regular income.

And there’s more to the marrying part: Ever heard of Sin Sod (sǐn sɔ̀ɔt, สินสอด)? That’s the amount of money you need to pay your future wife’s parents in addition to promising of taking care of her and it’s not uncommon that you’re looking at a 6-figure number here as a form of expressing your gratefulness to the family. Okay, I think we shouldn’t go in too much detail here, the whole marriage topic really deserves its own article.

So now that we’ve talked quite a bit about the money aspect and sure, that’s what most people are interested in anyway but let’s have a look at some other things to find more answers to the initial question what Thai women are really like.

Are Thai Women Doing the First Step?

I remember during my working holiday in Australia and not even planning on visiting Thailand at that time an Irish work colleague told me “man you must go there, you can sit in a bar and the chicks come over talking to you without you doing anything!”. By now I know by bars he meant beer bars and by girls working girls or to be more precise prostitutes since in the regular bars it’s still the man who is supposed to do the first step.

Generally, not always. You can still be flirting (in Thai “jìip”, จีบ) with the girl at the coffee shop without you actually knowing it. It’s just so much more easy to get in touch with the women here in everyday situations than it is back home and yes if she likes you she might also ask you first for your line or facebook contact but if you’re out in the bars and clubs it’s still the men who make the first move.

Do Thai Women Like to Lie?

The headline of this section could more appropriately be called “Why are Thai Women lying so much and easily?”. Because no one really doubts that the girls here like to lie in every other situation, sometimes without even having a reason for it.

Just a few days ago I told my girlfriend “hey, I didn’t know Jum (her friend) is single again. She said her guy had too many giks.” She laughed and said “no, she was just joking, they’re still together. He just picked her up from the shop last evening after work.” Then she explained me that if you have a conversation with a Thai (no matter whether male or female) and it’s not work-related, you can believe like 50% of what she or he says.

Why did she lie about that? I think this is because Thai people like everything that is associated with the verb “to play”: gin lên (eat for fun, snacking), dǝǝn lên (walk for pleasure), nâng lên (hanging out) and in this case the girl was pûut lên (พูดเล่น) – speaking for fun. Doesn’t really make sense does it but I don’t have a more appropriate translation for this term probably because that behavior is just not common in the western world and when someone does just that we would call it lying for no reason.

This article is getting quite long already and I still want to talk about a couple of other points so let’s finish this part with a short list of the most common reasons why Thai girls are lying to Farangs:

  • In order to avoid conflicts (don’t make anyone lose their face)
  • She’s too lazy for a discussion that will arise with telling the truth and thus takes a short cut by lying or also very common just changing the topic
  • Thai Women think that by ignoring a problem it will get solved by itself
  • Your girl thinks you wouldn’t understand as a Farang anyway
  • There is no reason at all

What do Thai Women Think?

That’s a good question. I don’t want to do the mind reader here but one thing is certain: Thai Women think a lot and all the time. Even when dancing in the club or while having sex, most of the time they’re unable of really living in the moment. A few days ago I was lying on the bed with my girlfriend watching an animal series and five seconds after she admired the penguins she was like “oh, I think the work schedule for next week is out” (she works rotating shifts at Chester’s Coffee).

I know this may not sound like the common thought of most westerners that Asians and especially Thai people enjoy their life how it is and don’t worry too much about problems or what might happen in the future, but in my opinion they do think and worry a lot more than we do. The difference is they just don’t talk about it all the time. And if they do then usually it’s their best female friend that they talk about how they really feel instead of their boyfriends.

Are Thai Women Hiding Their Real Face?

This brings us to the final point of this piece. And what I just explained should answer that question quite easily. Yes, it doesn’t take a lot of dates with a Thai girl to sleep with her but it will take a lot more than a few days, weeks or months until she really wants to talk with you as her boyfriend about what she really thinks and feels like.

I wouldn’t even say that’s negative, imagine it is the other way around like with our western women who pour out their heart relatively quickly and tell you all sorts of stuff you don’t even care about when she just wouldn’t “feel ready” to have sex with you for weeks.

I hope by now you have a better understanding of what Thai women are like and if you already knew before, than still thanks for reading all the way through and I guess you also agree with most of my points. Any way, this should be one of the best topics on Thailand Redcat for an open discussion so go down to the comment section and let us know what you think about what I just said. Or maybe you have some additional things to add that I didn’t mention here on the interesting topic of Thai women’s nature and habits.

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Andy noel
Andy noel

it’s very simple . white man want sex and maby love .thai women want money and family.
so give thai girlfriend a monthly allowance of 1 or 2 k USD. the trick is keep her in your country on your turf. as long as she sending money home.every month she get sense of purpose. do not live with thai women in thailand she will eat you alive !

Judi
Judi

My Canadian brother married a Thai girl when he was 60. His first wife. She took him to the cleaners. Farangs beware! I loved Thailand but can’t get past the money grabbers. Do not marry a Thai girl. You will regret it down the road.

Stupid Guy
Stupid Guy

Absolutely correct! I was married to a Thai woman who used me and took everything I had… then when there was nothing left, walked out the door. I was so good to her and her family for the 10 years we were married. What a piece of shit.

Tipmonta
Tipmonta
I am Thai woman and i have read what foreigner think about Thai women. Most i read say bad things about Thai women, I have to say bad experience of you guys got in Thailand about Thai women because you come here and go to nightlife at bar girls. Maybe you fall in love with bar girls? I know when you love someone you don’t care what she work or her past but how you expect from bar girls? Just make sense! A lot of good Thai women looking for good foreigner because they heartbreak from Thai men, and we… Read more »
john
john
First of all, the western farang you see does not represent the western men. It is less than 1 % of 1 %. And this farang is substantially off from normal distribution of population. Just like most Thai man marry with Thai women and raise families, so do the westerners. Keep in mind that the westerners you see in Thai are not the median or average westerners. I personally know so many cases of these farangs go east to find women, a lot of cases. My coworkers, friends of friends, etc. I will tell you honestly that most of these… Read more »
Martin1
Martin1

Hi Tipmmonta!
I really liked your comment, so much in it is true!
I am a European married with a Thai woman from Songkla. I treat her very well, and our relationship goes very well.

I guess the problem is that many foreigners are in a relationship with people from Isaan.
They are known to be greedy, and work on bars.

Gary
Gary
I am an American man, 65 now. Have been living in Thailand for the most of 10 years. Although I still have a home in America. Women in America are just plain hard to get to know, and the time I have to put into it is not worth it. I am fit and have the funds to live a life in America. But, it is just a pain in the ass for me. Keep your wits about you, and South East Asia can be a very nice and rewarding experience. Just remember you are the man, and you have… Read more »
paul
paul

Hey Gary you make sense; the way you describe yourself is what i picture myself saying in 10 years..glad to hear your sage advice..

Ibrox
Ibrox
I don’t profess to be the leading expert on Thai girls but I have been in long term relationships with 3 spanning a period of 15 years so guess I know a thing or 2. To give the issue some context I have known many friends and colleagues in the west who have lost a major part of their wealth due to breaking up with their western girlfriends/wifes. Often they were the innocent party but that hasn’t stopped the women taking them to the cleaners. That’s why I do not begrudge paying my Thai girlfriend a monthly allowance / salary… Read more »
john
john
I had an occasion which needed an immigration lawyer. He told me how clever the women from SE Asia, especially from the island. They have their social network to exchange information about how to seduce the old farts from the west and how to take advantage of the rules and regulations of host countries once they land on the coast of the western countries. So do not fall into the trap of thinking the Asian ladies are the replica of your grandma in 1940’s. It all depends. And they know very well the difference between the men of the west… Read more »
Martin
Martin

I would exspecially warn you of Philippina women.

That is the scom of the world, and usually you can’t trust them at all.
Never “borrow” them money. You wil NOT get it back. They never keep word.

Tinman
Tinman
Hi guys, Sorry for the long post in advance! I desperately need some advice. I just came back from my trip in Thailand, and like a little research machine I am, before my trip I read a lot of articles here (btw good job, a lot of good info here) and got informed well for my trip there. My initial plan was normal, me and my friend traveled to Bangkok and around it for 4 days, and then settled in Kata beach near Patong for the remaining 6 days and we would party, and I would maybe hook up with… Read more »
C.
C.
Hi Tinman, I really feel with you and i understand you and this sounds like a very complicated situation. All i can tell you is that im in a similar situation and i also dont know when i will go back to thailand. My plan now is to stay in contact with her but at the same time just live my regular daily life. I think if you two manage to stay in touch regularly for a longer period you will see if its worth going back and taking a chance with her. I hope this helps you. Let me… Read more »
Tony
Tony

Be very strong, follow the signs for the exit door ASAP and don’t EVER look back. It is by best advice I can give you. Vanish and become irretrievable.
If you don’t it will screw up the whole of your life till the very end.

Kevin E LaBar
Kevin E LaBar

It is love. Sell everything you own and move to Thailand. I recently rid myself of all physical possessions except clothes, technology, and golf clubs. It is liberating. I spend 1/3 of my time in LOS, and more as time goes by. Best thing I ever did. She is waiting for you. And if the doomsayers are right, you will have many other opportunities. Yes, i could bash the situation as others do, but live for today. You could die tomorrow.

jerkalot
jerkalot
She could be “the one” .. or just another Thai girl having multiple boyfriends. Why was she alone at Iluzion when you met ? Sounds like a freelancer. To my knowledge (I have lived in Thailand 1 year) Thai-girls lives in the moment and she could easily meet someone else in Phi Phi. How old are you ? If your about the same age I think she really likes you, but you should facetime a lot to get to know her. If it feels right, go there for a longer period, maybe 2 months. This I think would give you… Read more »
Gordon
Gordon
Well. I had that experience too. Sweet girl. Beautiful and so so cute. Living in Asia as a German, divorced a girl from Borneo. All the same. Anyways. Met a few girls in Thailand. This particular one was so sweet. Paid her off, went shopping for my daughter, bought a few pieces for this girl too, cinema, Japanese dinner, went back to my apartment and just slept. Next morning woke up and ate her only cos I ran out of rubbers. We kissed and parted and I promised to see her again. But I didn’t. Stupid I know. She was… Read more »
Stan
Stan
Hi Tinman I have been through this exactly kinda situation 5 years ago . It is not for real, expect her to ask you take care of her. In the meantime she might talk to other guys as well, god knows how many. I am not saying all Thai girls are bad , not at all. But they cannot love at the distance , they think life is too short to wait too long. They want fun right now. If you come to stay in Thailand with her for life you may be very happy couple, but I guess it… Read more »
Kathleen Guate
Kathleen Guate

I am a Western woman who lives in SE Asia. I lived in Thailand for 6 years and have some male friends who after several tries and rip-offs found an older Thai woman who makes them happy. However, I know so so many men who have been taken to the cleaners. Just be realistic: if you are not attractive or overweight or old, it is a scam. You cannot imagine how many times I have heard one of my buddies say, “Oh, but this one is different.” LOL

ThaiJ
ThaiJ

I was married to a Thai for 9 years, so I have knowledge of them. This situation, err on the side of caution and forget her. Believe me..you met her in a nightclub on Bangla rd?
To me ,that says it all. Good luck with your decision.

Mark
Mark
Nice article. I would like some advice if you could be so kind. As a first time visitor to Bangkok I spoke with my tour guide who was 28 and I am 39 and asked her out to eat after the tour. She accepted and we met and had a nice time out, no sex. The next night after her work we went out to eat and had sex on the second night and she spent the night in my hotel. We then continued to meet each night I was there and went out to eat at different places. She… Read more »
Adam
Adam

Hi Mark, from my experience of Thai women I would tread carefully if I was you. Fair enough if she wants to come to your country and you would have to sponsor her. You saying she’s been to a lot of countries and having a shitload of friends on FB would raise concerns. I’d say you are of many temporary bfs to her or maybe not… Just have fun and not get too serious with her, time will tell.

Nancy
Nancy

Thai women should stop going to Bahrain posting up in karaoke bars to hunt for and knowingly sleeping with married men whilst using fake names. They should also refrain from stalking those men and posting photos of their trysts at the nearest hotel on facebook and instagram for wives and children to see once the pathetic men have ditched them in their 3-world pit of hell. Perhaps then they wouldn’t have such disgusting reputations. These women should stop looking for a one way ticket out of the third world by way of married Westerners and find regular employment.

Velizar Iliev
Velizar Iliev
Hi Nancy, I am married a thai lady and can tell you that the thai culture has been more worthy than western has ever been till the western people and companies have taken control of all natural resources and make thai people like foreigners in Thailand. I am from Bulgaria and ame..rican companies take much gold away from here without any benefit for bulgarian people. Who creates 1st world, 2nd and 3rd? Thai women are the best in the world and you need to talk to them and make clear the important details before big step. Jon Jandai – Life… Read more »
mark hanli
mark hanli
Hi I am dating a Thai woman who works as a property agent. She is giving me many mix signals. She is saying she is keen to focus on her career and that she wants to know me slowly. We get by everyday with text and LINE and nightly video calls. Spend weekends on outing and a weekday meeting. She is from Issan and she claims that she is very conservative and want to get the next relationship right – failed with 3 foreign bfs and the last was a Thai man who 2 timed her. My question is –… Read more »
Alice
Alice

From my point of view as a Thai woman, I think she’s serious about the relationship with you right now. It’s obvious from seeing that she introduce you with her friends. So now I think the question might be are you serious or picture yourself with her in the future as well? maybe it’s better to ask her directly and discuss about the situation.

Peter
Peter

Mark the story of “i need time to know you better” is the oldest trick in the book. She wants time to get to know your wallet my friend. I bet she always says “its up to you”. Meaning “lets see how clever you are”. Get yourself familiar with the low EQ problem in Thai’s and you will not need advice in future

Mr-K
Mr-K
Hello redcat, Is it common if Thai girl doesn’t speak as much? She doesn’t even lie! :D I started dating thai girl recently (and just like you described your ex white and brown gf we had sex on 4th date) and every time we have a conversation it’s me who talks 85% of the time. She is always saying – my life is just normal, nothing special to talk about. She is from southern part of Thailand and lives in Bangkok alone for few years. She’s got no friends here just a job. She did tell me something about her… Read more »
Raj
Raj
Thai girls are so bad that that never feel shame on lie they lie like anything I mean they can eat lie they can sleep lie they can dream lie ….. as I have a Thai gf who tells me that she lives with her brother which after few months of our relationship I find he is not her brother but another bf in Thailand and he is staying with her for past 4-5 years .now when I asked her about that bf she gets angry and stop talking to me now when I say ok that means you lied… Read more »
Sasa
Sasa

Please not think total Thai girl did like your gf, people on world good and bad not only Thai girl.

Km
Km

Where is your girlfriend raj. Your story has got some resemblance with me.

pax
pax

so eventually after nearly a year what is the outcome?

Ryan
Ryan

No thanks the odds are not good, besides I don’t like to uneducated farmers, I prefer myself some Eastern asians, not bad hybrids

Kristina
Kristina
I am not into dating site nor any had interracial relationship before. But I fully understand why you thought that way about filipino women. I read a lot of blogs and even bad comments about Filipino women, I cannot blame as I know that they are just speaking through their experiences (bad experiences) but the few bad women don’t exactly represent the whole. There are still lot of women here who value trust, respect and truthfulness in a relationship. Though on the other hand, i dont fully agree on what Victoria says because anywhere there are bad and good women.… Read more »
lindsay
lindsay
Fella’s don’t be Gullible, no matter what Asian country, there are beautiful ladies all looking for a partner, many will do anything to connect as means of a passage to get out of their 3rd world country, and there are many decent/honest ladies prepared to stay in their own country. I’ve lived in the Philippines for more that 6 years, and I have seen all types. Even in OZ, there are some women you wouldn’t give the time of day. Be choosey, take you time, DON’T choose one with large age gap, don’t flash the coin around and perhaps you… Read more »
Gerry
Gerry

No matter where they come from it takes a special man to stop a woman from fucking him over and a truck load of good luck

Mats
Mats
Hi guys! Can someone help me out with my situation? I wonder if i’m being fooled, or if my situation is common amongst other thai/farang relationstips? I met my lady on thai cupid in september. After a few mail, she suggested LINE. There we have had daily contact and videochat. I made clear from the beggining i’m not a wealthy guy, and she says she have her own money. She asked if I talked to other girls, I didnt, and also ended my account at TC. She said I was the only one for her and that she had given… Read more »
Alan Malone
Alan Malone

Got introduced to line myself this yr (1st time been Thailand in 6 yr). Met the most stunning woman I ever seen and seen many but as she a bar girl sadly I can never see a future as told me she never be able come England. Do hope all works out for best in end for you. I just reading other people’s comments why sort my head out as wanted get a loan and go off sick so could visit her in April.

Steveyam
Steveyam

“-own business but very small, and even then she has a luxuary condo, brand new SUV, jewellry, etc.. ”

Massive massive alarm bell. Of course they could be the spoils from a previous relationship, but she could be planning the same for you. Or they could be from another (current) relationship.

I wouldn’t end it yet but I’d dig a whole lot deeper.

Longfellow Rogoczy
Longfellow Rogoczy

My suggestion to you is Drop Her Like a Hot Potato!
She only wants BAHT and will milk you dry if you marry her
As what this article eludes to:
THAI women are habitual liars

Naowarat Wongyai
Naowarat Wongyai

I really think you have been set up….
There are many Thai girls out there who want to stay in Thailand and take turn of her several boyfriends….

I am currently writing about life in foreign country … not of course Thailand…
Pointing out that foreign countries and men are not only answer in life…
So good luck guys …. and thanks for your generous answers….

Alex
Alex

yes mate move on and quickly…go after university educated women you stand a better chance of meeting the right type, little business lots of material possessions that should speak volumes to you..no sex? After months online your a boy friend she should have banged your brains out the first night, at least the second…your being played by an expert.

Rich McAllister
Rich McAllister
I have a similar situation except she has friended me on Facebook and contacts me in all situations at work with friends and family. We video on LINE apps 3 to 4 times a day. I have been talking with her for almost 2 months and going to see her in December. I am fifty and she is 38 with no kids and very beautiful I myself look much younger than my age and very fit. I have tried to find something about her that is fake or not the truth. As weird as it may be we have fallen… Read more »
Gregory
Gregory

Just give it some more time.

Stan
Stan

Oh Matt, you were conned mate, it is very common case in Thailand.
Yes , while you are thousands miles away they are dating other men, it is normal for freelancers.

Gregory
Gregory

Why not let her come and visit..
Forva longer time if possible…perhaps suggest she pay half the ticket.

Edgar Atiles
Edgar Atiles
Hahaha(555) u win internet comment of the day ,so true bro ! Most guys r lazy n clueless to even try to become a “special man”. Smarten up guys ! break the indoctrination of the slave mentality you’ve been immersed in your whole lives ,learn n be free n conquer.Take pride n work on becoming special,don’t devote your emotions so readily n don’t grovel from behind a computer screen to a girl when your 5000 miles away.Then you won’t need to lick your wounds n mend your broken heart because a 3rd grade educated farm girl from Issan outwitted you.… Read more »
Victoria
Victoria

Marry a Filipina woman – loyal, hard working, highly educated, speaks English (fluently), family oriented, and beautiful. We always win the Miss Universe pageant. We have a temper ONLY IF you abuse us and go behind our backs. We earn our own money and don’t need a man to take care of us – all while taking care of the household chores.

lindsay
lindsay

My goodness Victoria, do you really expect people to believe what you wrote. I don’t believe there is much truth in any of your topics. 3rd largest English speaking country but not many speak fluent English. Family orientated and beauty, yes. Earn your own money, where and how you doing that? very few well paid work in the Phils. Trustworthy, No, Honest, No, Faithfull, No, Good cook, No, Texting/Social networking, Excellent, Shopping, Excellent, take advantage of Foreigners, Yes.Sadly I’ve spent too much time in the Philippines, and unfortunately married one

Steveyam
Steveyam

I agree with lindsay. My last Filipina gf cheated on me while lying aswell about what she was doing (going away with her “cousin” for Easter….ahem!!).

Agree with everything Lindsay says and nothing Victoria says.

Niki
Niki

What ?? Bit of a weird thread isn’t it ? Your a Filipino ? But your on a site for wjat are thai women like .. ? Strange

Ben
Ben

I’ve had terrible experiences with Filipino women that rival some of the worst stories from Thailand. Dated two women, one after the other. Both turned out to be compulsive liars. The first that stole my phone and was using it to blackmail other men and work as a prostitute on Craigslist (truly). The second, after a pleasant vacation with her in which I left on good terms, stole my replacement phone also and immediately started dating a new guy within a week after I left the country, dumping me.

Edgar Atiles
Edgar Atiles

Yeah Filipinos r weird like that ,true they’re lovely people but many have this massive narcissistic streak,very strange. They opine on things like its gospel n when you don’t agree they go apeshit hahaha. I live in Cebu for going on 3 years n I can’t help but love the people n the women r total charmers ,but like all women- tread very carefully,not all is what it seems my friends.

Paul
Paul

Guys… Any girl in the bar and club scene is trouble everywhere in the world. Stay away from these girls if you want a relationship! If she regularly drinks or parties, very bad news…

I run day game in Thailand and go to shopping centres and get numbers. I find most of these girls don’t drink and have had less than 5 partners. These women are the for a relationship!! Very innocent and are good girls!!

Bad idea to bring her back to the west cause Feminism is mainstream and toxic for their innocent soul!

Simon B
Simon B

Nice comment Paul, I think perhaps the smartest one on this thread. Good luck.
p.s. I married a Thai lady in Oz that I didn’t meet in a bar!

HM
HM
I met this Thai lady aged 35 who was a performing artist (singing and dancing) in a very well-known big nightclub in my country. Not the coyotes or bar girls type in Nana/Sukhumvitk. We exchanged numbers on the 1st time we met as she was a friend of my friend’s Thai gf and we have been communicating daily via Line for a good 8 months. I have visited her in Thailand 3 times in this 8 months and herself 2 times in my country for holidays with her family. Myself, I am 40 and consider myself quite a looker with… Read more »
professor
professor
She is full of shit. You don’t invest in ANY woman regardless of who her parents are or her ethnicity. A whore is defined by her nature. If you have to pay you better be getting some play. If it’s a serious relationship you’re looking for then be sure she will not ask for extravagances. And guys need to stop flashing their dough. It doesn’t impress women that you make good money. It only attracts gold diggers. Hey if she doesn’t know you make good coin and she still hangs out with you then maybe you’ve got something. Lastly if… Read more »
Naowarat Wongyai
Naowarat Wongyai
Yes Professor ,, I a greed totally …. she is full of shit…. and she have taken you and have been… There are such a gang who acts like being her family and has / have probably taught her to respond when the very request being rejected…. overall money is only a part of making life more comfortable but it is not all in life… Don’t forget some women just only concentrates on earning money … sex can be put aside when she has a whole family is waiting for … Sad situation indeed …. but it’s how it is….… Read more »
Peron
Peron
Okay … I have a Thai girlfriend and she confuses the hell out of me. First shock was discoving that giving her my contact information was equivant to asking her to marry me. It is now the weirdest relationship I have ever been in. I fly back and forth between Vancouver and Bangkok, we spend a couple of hours everydy talking on Line, and while she is not overly emotional and upfront about her feelings, I alwas know how she felt, until lately. The next time I go over, she has told me she wants me to stay with her,… Read more »
Alex
Alex
hahahaha….there same as white girls just better looking younger and sexier…..they still have issues then the culture crap hits in…Thais in general don’t give off to many details and its all about not making waves, you my friend should be asking questions of yourself not her, are you needy? what do you want? why put up with something that dont sit well with you? I from day one only have ever dated women in Thailand that have been to university and its saved me a lot of trouble and I still had a lot of trouble so work that out.… Read more »
Boxter
Boxter

If you must have a Thai partner, pick one with the same or higher education than yourself. I didn’t and I’m paying for it now.

Naowarat Wongyai
Naowarat Wongyai

Not like go to supermarket…. and then choose…. love is feeling that just can’t buy ?.???

Gregory
Gregory

That’s true in any culture.

Adam West
Adam West
My Thai wife (from near Phayao not Isaan… Phew!)) is 5 years older than me and we got married when I was 21. That was over 18 years ago and we have an excellent relationship. Yes she worked in a bar but was not one of those actively seeking customers/clients and I did not pay her anything etc… It was love at first sight so to speak and I also did not pay her father any cash either or ask his permission to marry. We did it informally at a registry office and that was it.. No ceremony, no reletives..(sweet)… Read more »
Thai women
Thai women

Nobody is perfect!
We are all different.

“Love ” is not a formula that will give only one answer!

Nuad
Nuad
Sometimes love can happen. . But she must have business , and you guys must have plan together. My fiancee, from Isan gave me 50% of her shop , we did papers with lawyers and witnesses. We will get married when it is correct time. It is hard to be in relation with bar girls , it really is. You will pay forever. Best thing to do, like my Norwegian freind did, he meet one girl who was working in bar, they had feelings for each, loved each other. .and just took her to his country. The end. If you… Read more »
Gojira
Gojira
Hm I actually met a bar girl. It was difficult at first, because she lied a lot at first, and the first time she was very eager in getting me to pay for all sorts of things. I thought that it would be over when i got home. But then we talked and i promised her to come back. She was even crying in front of me. We talked over skype everyday for a few months and slowly as she became better at english i liked her more and more. 3 months later I came back and we visited her… Read more »
Calum
Calum
I don’t know what kind of Thai girls you have been dating but my experience is very different. My Thai girl friend is a nurse and works in Bangkok. She lives a very strict, honest and faithful life. She never asks me for money and once when she needed medical treatment it was a real struggle for me to get her to take money to pay for a scan she needed. I even offered a buy her second hand laptop and bring it from the UK on my next visit and her reply was I do not need charity. She… Read more »
Steve
Steve
Your getting set up mate there are none that don’t see Ferlang as money. Granny 90 in a wheelchair would be cheaper to take her out fishing what aged 90 she overdue for the box old son lol to hell with the relatives they only cost you money ! and there is too many of the bastards . Fugg em !! Do what I did marry 1 only not the 48 relies all on the lamb no balls to that my god never never they are not really such good wives they really are not they too uneducated to life… Read more »
John
John

After reading all these posts yours was a breath of fresh air, I’m in the beginning stages of a relationship with a Thai girl from C.M. she seems really sweet and a little shy, I wish you the best because she looks like a woman you can devote yourself too which is really hard too find, cheers

JohnBoy
JohnBoy

This is a good topic to read.I have a Thai gf for the last 6 months( I am in Canada).
She is cute,loving and very good ☆☆☆☆……Almost everything I read in this article is true…now she keeps telling me to understand her……I was lost as to what she meant after we’ve done everything…..this article helped me “understand her” change in attitude with me.

Roland
Roland
I have lived i Thailand for more then five years and I enjoy bar life so I think I have some experience. (I have maybe more than 800 bargirls since 1988). I believe that the majority of the “bar girls” don´t have to do that work. most girls don´t want to work many hours i a factory for small money and many don´t mind to have sex. On the contrary. Most of them will tell you what they think you want to hear. I have sometimes come very closed with girls that speaks very open (to open) why and how… Read more »
Bob Voorhees
Bob Voorhees
Many Thai women are “bar girls” because they have to be. The “safety net” is thin in Thailand and many of the men are self-focused. The vast majority of the Thai women I have met (ones over 30) are gentle, sweet, slow-to-anger, a bit shy, and kind. A man looking for a wife couldn’t find a much better place. Chances are, if you wish to speak English with her, you will need to teach her. Avoid living too near her relatives. Be a gentleman. If she seems overly concerned with money, you know what to do.
marmot
marmot
I’ve been married for 10 years to a well educated (computer engineer with master’s degree) Bangkok woman who is 25 years younger than myself. We met in Thailand. We ended up traveling to 12 other 3rd world countries for several years. Having met several of her friends and knowing another 2 farang/Thia couples, I’m not convinced that there is one catch all phrase to describe Thai women. They seem as varied as westerners. I have heard of gold diggers here, but also seen that in the U.S. I was married for 21 years in the U.S. to a U.S. woman,… Read more »
Tet Vet 1968
I’m 68 years old and have spent most of my life working and living abroad. I have had many Thai ladies as GF’s you treat them with respect they treat you with respect. I have friends that have been married to Thai gals for 45 years and no problems. Thai ladies are like any ladies you get back exactly what you put into a relationship. There is no double standard when it comes to relationships, if you cheat they will cheat, if you’re cheap they will be cheap, if you’re not a loving mate they will not be a loving… Read more »
Thai women
Thai women

this kind of rubbish article…come on !!!there are over 70 million thai ppl in country..cannot just just all thai women they will have same stereotype….I nv judge farang also…but I knew there’s a lot of farang bird-shit lol

K
K
It’s difficult for a American woman to play the same roles as they did in the fifties as suggested. Men don’t act like men anymore. They all need to be babysat and it seems that they want a submissive woman and a mommy at the same time. You try that.. Never to step up to the plate they want a personal lover and a breadwinner and a woman that will stroke his ego that much more to feel like a man. I think Western men or farangs love the lying as they (generalization) all seem to think its okay.. What… Read more »
RH8X
RH8X

K,

Thanks for validating my lifelong observations of western women. Unrealistic and Unreasonable!!

Signed

Happy in Singapore!!

Bill
Bill

Another Angry American women with a chip on her shoulders. Very passive aggressive, no one here was asking for her opinion.

Mike miller
Mike miller
Lady you are mostly wrong. I am a 50 year old man still in America and never been to Asia but I can tell you as a old fashion guy who believes in working hard, paying all the bills and treating women with the utmost dignity and respect. I have dated to many women to count and been married twice and I can tell you statistically that American women are for sure – like spoiled children. They want a man who looks like a man but acts like a pussy. American women just want to be spoiled with no accountable… Read more »
Jill Nerby
Jill Nerby
Agree, well put.I despise mannish women and feminine men. Seems “PC” is what’s demanded to the level of absurdity here. For that I don’t blame him for his dislike of western women. Other countries have some of the same I’m sure, but more the exception than the rule. Here in the U.S. on the other hand…….I want my man to be a man. Gender roles don’t have to have negativity attached. There are facts that can be argued, but doesn’t change them. Muscle/brute force is naturally more pronounced in males. I LIKE knowing my husband is strong enough to take… Read more »
Troy Dteel
Troy Dteel

Hi K. If you think that I like Asian women because I have an imbalance then you’re delusional. And very misinformed. Yep. Lot of us got burned by a ” white western ” woman. Or 2….your generalizations are off base. Will you try to say that we all failed because it’s our fault? The women had no blame. Lol. You don’t know everyone’s story or what they’ve been through. There’s a lot of mental bat shit crazy white bitches in North America. Don’t deny it.

steve
steve
Good post this here yes lot of strange mentality in Thai women, my wife is Thai I’ve been married for a long time but I tell you what, you need to be a Philadelphia lawyer to work them out. A lot of points to remember with Thais well I don’t keep the family” monies no not my job I’m Australian and its not our culture to provide for the rellies all on the lamb. My wife is good though she has adopted a few Aussie ways she says f—k the rellies if they want a quid go to work same… Read more »
TT
TT
I liked this article as I am getting to know more Thai women. So far with my limited experience with three Thai women here in Australia: They seem strong in their personalities & opinions (yet they are easy going), they always have good hygiene, they all wish they had a much fairer complexion, they are quite organised & tidy with their home life…AND they seem to make real effort to have quality time with their partner. It is like they are raised to know that they need to contribute to life & to their relationship like the people years ago… Read more »
crypti@yahoo.com

they look like cryptkeepers too! amazing lookalikes, watch Tales of a cryptkeeper!

thibault
thibault
yes this article deserves more comment. i ll do. interesting to see your mom stayeds at home. this is typically more common in germany.makes people think they ll introduce more feminism to rise the unemployment number. anyway with the reducing income, you ll need twoi salaries soon enough. sinsod deserves its own article. most will say you to not pay it, but if you re confronted to it (matrrying a isaan bargirl…) its probably too late. on lying, well, you re german. lying is typical of an eastern/ attitude.this pervades our society now. basically, they re telling you if you… Read more »
maniack
maniack
hehe yes lobotomised men in the west are ruled by women alas… to see sturcture of western society 50 years ago one must look at countries like russia, bulgaria, ukraine or romania where many is fully in charge of the house money job ect.. these countries women western men laust after because of greater family harmoney and more female.. western lady is mannish.. about lying .. yes it is a tradition of asia.. even japan lying it is out of control… and everybody just ignore it. i noticed though in thailand thai men are controled by the women .. thai… Read more »