Do Thai Girls Only Want Our Money?

Last updated: January 24th, 2020 | in Thai Girls

I meet so many guys that have been living in Thailand for several years and tell me: “The girls are all the same, they only want your money!” What I then usually figure out is that just by looking at their girlfriend (or wife) I know she has been working in a bar or was just another sort of hooker.

You can meet two different types of girls in Thailand: Those that don’t have a job (hookers included of course) and those that do have a job. Student girls are not included as they are still figuring out what type of girl they wanna be once they’re finished with their thesis.

If you are going for a hooker, sure why not, but then of course she has a bad character and even if you can bang her for free she will try to get some money another way. Like ask you out for shopping, tell you about her family’s “small” problems, or just expect you to take care of her. If you are only out for some fun and don’t want to meet her again after the first night, no problem she will find someone else or even has several other sponsors already.

But then if you are really out for some serious relationship of course you are better off looking for a girl that has a regular job. I have been working for two different Thai companies in Bangkok and met so many beautiful girls that can take care for themselves. They like foreigners because they think they are white, handsome, and maybe more faithful than Thai men. Of course many Thai women are looking for a Farang with money to have more financial security. But then, isn’t it the same with a lot of women in our home country?

Do Thai Girls Only Want MoneySo many guys think it’s just so more convenient to get some bar girl than just walking around public places like the mall and smiling at a girl they like as she often looks at you like an alien. If you do smile however chances are that she will smile back.

It’s really a phenomenon, often Thais look at you dead serious and if you give them a smile they change completely and smile back immediately. Go meet a “normal” girl with an ordinary job (e.g. by using Thai Friendly, the most popular dating site among expats in Thailand) and you will make a whole different experience than with a bitch that is good enough to bang a few times but then would only start sucking your money.

The truth is there are lots of foreigners that have a happy relationship with a Thai woman and the only reason why a lot of people don’t know about it is because they are hanging out in the bars all the time and get to hear the sad stories that have started and ended in the red light district (often if a Thai hooker breaks up or divorces with her guy she goes back to beach road even though she has enough money just because it’s so much easier than looking for a real job).

I know so many people that had better experiences with their relationships, like once I had a business meeting with a rich English restaurant owner that speaks Thai and has been married to a Thai woman that is a high-ranking manager at CP, for more than 30 years already. Or my ex-coworker that is married to a Norwegian guy, she has a pretty good job and income and now decided to quit and follow her husband to Norway to take care of his sick mum.

And I have student girlfriends who never ask for money but clean my room and do my laundry every Sunday. Which kind of hooker would do that for you? None, with no exceptions. Believe me I tried. Why would they they are not used to work anyway. Just stay away from the bars for a month and you will meet those foreigners telling you different stories.

One of the easiest methods to figure out if you’re talking to a hooker or not and you speak to her in Thai is by listening if she uses the polite particle “ka”. Normal Thai girls are polite when you first talk to them and use “ka” in every other sentence. Hooker’s don’t! One of the advantages of being able to speak Thai.

The truth is that the general saying of guys that had bad experiences with Thai girls, been cheated, squeezed for money and ended up with a broken heart have made this experience with hookers most of the time. Of course there are also “bad” girls with a normal job that are out for money only, but once again that kind of girl you have in every country in the world and if you get divorced with a woman in Germany, Australia or the United States it will normally be a lot more expensive than it is with a Thai girl (unless you have given her a 51% ownership of your Thai Limited Company or bought property under her name).

If you stay in Thailand for longer you can also observe and experience how Thai guys are dating the girls. And they often don’t have much money at all but date several girls at a time and even let them pay the bills! Why? Because they know how to date a Thai girl without spending much money (or just pick up karaoke girls after they finished working, not just motorbike taxi drivers like to do that).

You can say a lot about Thai girls, that they have some really weird habits and stuff, but it’s definitely not right generalizing and saying that all Thai girls are bad and only want your money. You can make a Thai girl fall in love with you and money has never bought any girl’s heart.

39 Responses

  • noel says:

    good people . the point here is to get your Thai women to come stay in your own country.
    what i do is get 2 girls ( not bar girls) to come live with me half the year and other half in thailand .when they on your turf you have the advantage. and of course they want money to take back home.if you can’t afford a thai women or women’s .
    stay in boring Europe and get a boring white women … all women I’ve problems
    but 2 thai women in my bed is worth it 100%

  • Mark says:

    At the end of the day, they want a foreigner for money, simple, does not matter if she is a bar girl, accountant, nurse, etc, all the same

  • Sunio says:

    I’m sorry that most of Thai girls are not really into black guys, but I guess gen Y Thai girls like me would?? maybe??
    So, it is like a rumor at the very ancient time about lighter skin Thai people and darker skin Thai people. Lighter will always be in their house or work in somewhere that would get the less sun ray, for darker will be in the fields to work, then…. But I believe that nowadays this will be away from Thailand right soon.

  • LILITH says:

    What do you do with her? Why do not you tell all the details? Or maybe you’re too good to be impressed lol . But it is so surprising that only a few people can compare to the whole country. I am amazed by your vision.

  • Kin says:

    I’ma Thai women, I like white guys cuz he think they are attractive. Anyway thai women are not all the same, it depends on theirs background. I came from an upper class family who runing a business in Thailand. I graduated from a private university and now working on my master degree in San Francisco. Most of my surrounding friends are educated and have a decent job thay are capable of taking care of themselves, and not hungry for money. You guys would have completely different experience when you choose to date with educated thai women not bar girls. I’m in a relationship with an America guy and we share everything, no one pay more than others. We separate every bills and we are a very happy couple.

    • Kevin Steele says:

      Kin….where are the best places to meet nice, personable, well-educated girls. I will be in Bangkok JUNE, and do some people watching at Soi Cowboy, etc…..but I would really like to meet someone relationship-worthy (I will be relocating)

  • Jim says:

    I have no idea what real men see in Thai women, unless they have a unhealthy fixation with child porn!
    They really aren’t that attractive, and you will never know one deep down!

    I put it to you this way, i have friend that works and lives in Thailand for the last 10 years
    In that time, there is NOT ONE Thai national he would call a friend, not one!

    He has a house there, its more like a small resort, of course he has his Thai women to facilitate this house purchase.
    But he honestly could not say he has a friend he could trust after living there 10 years!!!!

    What does that say about the Culture and the Thais attitude towards a Westerner?

    Personally, i don’t blame them, i think it is disgusting what White Westerners do and thing they are in Thailand….. If that happened in my country, i too would be outraged and hate them.

    And that is what you white guys are, exactly that!!!!
    You are hated by all and a money train to the one you think your in love with.

    I’ll leave you with this……
    You wouldn’t go to a brothel to looking for a wife, why wouldn’t you go to Thailand?

    Honestly, these men deserve all they get, if they are that stupid to part with their money, then good luck to them, you cant help a moron.

    • LILITH says:

      Even though it may sound a bit irritating and shaken in the sense of Thai women like me. But I can not deny that you are right. It is fair to Westerners to look at Thai women in disdain. But to talk about the charm and interest of the individual. I must admit that the likes and dislikes of each person is not the same. You may not like us Thai, but for some people, we may be attractive for foreigners at least some more or less. So I feel bad when you talk about Thai women That ” They really aren’t that attractive,”
      I using Google translate to reply your comments because I’m bad in English, apologize for my bad English.
      # I working on regular job BTW# not a hooker.

  • CB says:

    Your friend is a complete idiot to fall for pussy thrown at him by a professional pussy thrower that sized him up as a meal ticket from day one. Oldest trick in the book to start off with “free” pussy then charge his dumb ass later. Bet you anything, no one else has spent the total amount of money that your dumb ass friend has. If you’re a TRUE friend, you will convince him to cut his losses and dump her whoring ass!

  • CB says:

    You say lawyer like that means something over there lol. She was not making jack shit compared to some western lawyers so OF COURSE she wants your money lol. Be glad she left.

  • kevin says:

    after reading most of these comments and myself 1 year into a relationship with a thai lady i see arguments both for and against. i think us westerners or “ferrangs” forget to notice that when dating or in fact marrying a girl from our own countires, towns, cities we pay far more for them than we realise in the long run. your girlfriend/wife,.. want the fancy motor the designer shoes, handbags, dresses. she wants the hair doos the nails the holidays and the keep up with the joneses bollocks. ok granted your native lady wont outright ask for money ( most of the time ) but they have a more sophysticated way in doing it sub conciously and we never think twice and cough up time and time again. How many times you been on a night out and ended up buying some extra from the only way is essex drink all night to find out shes done a disappearing act by the end of the night!. we on average spend 20 grand to marry these girls and if you dont look out!. so think of this picture you spend 10 years with a childhood sweetheart probably spent the best part of 10 grand on her up to this point birthdays christmases holidays bla bla bla probably a shit lot more in fact then you then marry her another 20 grand ish. she wants a new car your paying she wants a bigger house your paying you have kids then it all goes pete tong she gets half the assets and then maintanance for the kids untill they leave full time education which were now into 100s of thousands perhaps. im sure your starting to get the picture here but what my take on everyones comments are the totall outrage that your lady has the cheek to outright ask for some coin to help. now for those who go to thailand and fall in love with a bar girls then hell mend ya but for us who meet a so called normal girl this is where our cultures and attitudes clash. we are shocked when our partners ask for money and instantly the back goes up and we think they only want our money. that was my attitude before i had even went to thailand i wont lie but its not untill you see it first hand and really think about the culture in thailand the shit they go through just to feed the family and the lack of support they get you begin to think about it differently. i will be moving to thailand in the new year and will be with my partner. she knows that my initial thoughts were that all thai girls only want your money and because of this has never asked me for a penny through fear that i will think this of her. she works as a hairdresser and earns very little depending on the season. Has 3 kids and finds it very difficult to cope at times on such low earnings. i pay for a house over there i bought her a new motorbike for getting about and going to work. when she has had a bad week at work and cant put food on the table for her and the kids she does not ask me for money but i can just tell when she is skint and i finally get it out of her so i send money. sin sod theres another thing that put my back up in the begining and i was like what? your family are selling you? so wrong people this again comes down to the culture and thai men pay it too not only ferrang. We pay so much to marry in the west and sin sod will be nowhere near as expensive trust me. I know not all thai girls are good but on the same hand not all thai girls are bad there are those who choose to move from ferrang to ferrang for money but if you stay away from ago go and lady bars and even out of pattaya you will reduce the chances of finding these girls by 99.9%. if you want to party and have a good time so be it leave it for what it is and go have fun in pattaya but if you want a meaningfull relationship and to fall in love why would you go to such places. would you go down the local titty bar and fall in love?. my journey has not been an easy one with my relationship but when you begin to understand the thai people the culture and their values it actually makes the western woman look like the crooks. never forget western woman will hurt you financially just as much if not more than a thai lady ever will. Peace!

  • Mink says:

    Not all of thai girl want money . It just only girls in bar . Everybody different please don’t decited like that. you just only know about bar but really it has something bigger than it.
    Every country have got bitch or bad girl not only in thailand .
    Eeverybody maybe bad and good it the same not only in thailand want money .
    #iam a student.

    • jerkalot says:

      My experiences with BAR-girls, if you can’t see them right in front of you, don’t trust what they are saying or messaging you. You hear a lot of western media say, “oh the men go there and prey on the poor women”, I feel that like 80 % of the women in the bar-business prey on the sometimes lonely and naive men coming there, a LOT of lies there to get you to pay this and that.
      Ordinary Thai girls is another subject that you can read about elsewhere on this great forum’s sites.
      Go for happy times and don’t fall in love, or go for love but NOT in the bars ago-go’s. Take care out there :)

  • Chris says:

    Do not go for a thai women nothing but headaches. U be working for nothining supporting her hole family send money back home and a lot off lies. They are just good for fun that’s it,

    • Sober Man says:

      Chris you are so right. For the fools that believe their wife’s or girlfriends loves them please read the book named “wondering into the Thai culture” when you wake up.

    • LILITH says:

      Sadly you have the opportunity in your whole life just to visit in such a low place. And I pray that you have enough merit to visit with the people of my beautiful and serious culture in Thailand. I used to have an American bf and my family was still poor. But I never asked him to send money to help my family, even a single US. But we have to break up because of the distance , my ex couldn’t waiting to see me again because he was so horny lol and that maybe you’ll be on his side and said he’s good because it’s normal for man to become like that, yeah? You should look at the other side of why Thai women are so pathetic that they can just fulfill your fun. Maybe I think they might meet the same type of guy as you, and think that she shouldn’t to give that kind of memorable to the guy. Because they do not deserve it. # Maybe you are making a new slut out of your own words, because it makes me change my attitudes to Westerners that are polite and compassionate. # Why do you think a woman wants to go to sleep with a stranger, if not because she is hysterical, or maybe because she really has no chance to get graduate and no better choice? Although the man is disgusting and disgusting.
      love it’s not the reward of good girl, but family’s the most important in the life.
      # I’m not a hooker BTW?

  • Edgar Atiles says:

    Your the rare exception not the rule . I congratulate you on your lucky roll of the dice but don’t forget the game continues and women are fickle my friend . Good luck

  • Edgar Atiles says:

    Agree never ever send money ,also once you leave cut off all contact ,hard to do but you will save your self much misery . When you resume get your glove n bat and get back anxiously in the game again. Guys learn from the vets , almost all these 3rd grade whores have forked tongues whose only purpose is to part you from your money! Are there exceptions? Of course,but do you really want to rely on those odds ? Good luck at the slots (555)

  • Edgar Atiles says:

    Not true, many women with lots of money do exactly this – its about power n dominance for many ,the money is just the vehicle to subjugate men .

  • Edgar Atiles says:

    Wow dude such honest emotion and raw truth,I feel for you brother.i know you wrote those words over a year ago but I sincerely hope you’ve overcome your struggle. The engineer whore was your outlet n escape from that hi so dragon lady you married n u got stuck on her emotionally. I had a similar situation in the Philippines when I left my wife in New York for a 21 year old philipina stunner that psychologically and emotionally tore me to shreds for years ,I’m still not 100% over her ! I recently saw her after a few years and I realized she didn’t hold the power over me that I had given her for so long any longer. Tough lesson but schooled me on life with dangerous women n Asia in particular.

  • Edgar Atiles says:

    Guys we have to stop stereotyping,yes it exists but it clouds our reasoning. Women r women everywhere,they’ve confused n manipulated men for millennia,they’ve brought down n destroyed kings n empires,yet we still can’t resist they’re deadly nectar. Whether lawyer or a soi 6 whore their natural imperative is to sniff out the weak n use them for whatever purpose suits them at the present time. You cannot be utilized if your a man of strength n character n hold your ground n principles. But if you fish in muddied waters be realistic about what can possibly be hooked on your line ! Your odds increase exponentially if luring “normal” girls,but are there any guarantees there as well ,of course not. Especially if you’ve ignored being the best version of yourself and haven’t honestly assessed what you bring to the table at this casino we’re all playing at. Good luck at the slots (555)

  • P says:

    Thailand… hmm… I went to Thailand to work. From living in Sweden raising 2 children till their age around 20s years. Come to Thailand cause of a friend of me started a company and wanted my help with good photos. I meet a woman who work in the same company, she make a decent amount per month regarding earnings in this company. Everything seemed to be wonderful, she wrote me love letters every morning we were together, telling me how much she love me… this lasted for about 1 month(I mean the love letters), suddenly one evening when she be at her home (3Km from my home) she calls, “ooooooooh I can not go on with this relationship, my parents are here visiting me now and they dont accept me to live a life with someone without a marriage”, it will make her family (specially her mom, seems her father didnt care to much, turns out he been around asia working, having numeros relationships, he probably understood?)
    Stupidity killed the cat they say… well, let me tell you, I am that cat…
    I can tell you a lot more if interested, probably a book to write about this.

  • Chuck says:

    I think Thai women are beautiful but Their reality is different than ours. We expect them to see the world the way we see it and vice versa. I have been to thailand 4 times and still haven’t met any sincere women yet maybe because I keep going to pattaya LOL!!!!! I had a thai young girl it didn’t work because her older sisters were lying on me and she believed them. So now I just want to enjoy Thailand not looking for A GF just a good time.

  • Professor says:

    You make a good case for foreigners to just come to Thailand and use the hookers. Everyone wants to have a good life. True. I expect my women to pay for things too so I can have a good life at her expense. And if she is a taxi driver or not is irrelevant to me. As long as I get a free dinner and I don’t need to have sex with her too!

  • Sasa says:

    Foreign men who come to Thailand for have sex. They is no different from a dirty asshole. They can have sex all over the world. But they come to Thailand because They just look for cheap dirty. and then foreigner women, she not choose them.

    Many foreign man wants to have a Thai wife but never interest in Thai culture before. They just want the sweet, good service and everything is good from Thai women, The most of these foreign man is so lazy man and love comfort. They just want the Thai women have free service for them until they die on the world.

    • Professor says:

      And how do you know this? You seem like an expert on foreign men. I guess you can say then that the Thai women who go for these lazy men only care about money? So? You get what you deserve.

    • Kouhei says:

      I agree. Mostly, wealthy pensioner however the quality of his life is empty, looking for the chance about one night love making.

      Certainly these types of men rush into Thailand. Very non sence. I can’t imagine the life for just having sex and wast our life just only for it.

      As far as we exist mankind, sexual instinction is our inevitable inherence
      but we should learn how to make our
      life more productive.

    • John says:

      I remember about three years ago, at Bilabong bar in Pattaya, a very ugly old foreign man who had obviously never been to Thailand before and had just arrived was sitting with about six bar girls who were being friendly, having conversation with a smile and generally being nice to him. He could not help himself, he was crying with joy. I could imagine he only got ignored or had girls look at him bad all his life. I remember it used to be much more common that bar girls in Thailand liked a man because he was a nice person, not a beautiful boy with a stupid hair cut who was an asshole. Unfortunately, girls in Thailand seem to be going more for these types now, just the same as so many women in other countries. I lived before in Pattaya but now only here on holiday. I have not much time for many of the Farangs who live here. They have no interest in Thai culture and do not even want to learn to speak Thai. They just want to live like they are back in England. I am interested in Thai culture and allways try to learn some Thai and speak it to people, but the main reason I like Thailand is because I can enjoy the company of girls who act nice and who probably will not ignore me or tell me to get lost because they spot some pretty boy with a gay stupid haircut who acts like an asshole. To some extent, the Thais should blame themselves for ending up with the type of foreigners who live in places like Pattaya, with their self destructive attitude of ” No like foreigner who know too much, no like foreigner who speak Thai, no like foreigner who come here too much”. Basically, the overwhelming attitude of most Thais seems to be, no like foreigner who interested in our culture, only like asshole foreigner. OK, leue theh koon, up to you, you want asshole foreigner who not interested in Thai culture, you get same same. Even the government visa rules reflect this. No like foreigner who come here too many time, only once a year for small holiday. Cannot keep coming to Thailand. You want asshole foreigner not really interested in Thailand, OK, you get what you want ( unfortunately ). One small other point. It is the Thais who are very lazy. Don’t want to work hard, get people from Cambodia for that. Cannot even walk five minutes down the road, must get motorbike taxi.

    • CB says:

      It does not matter what the men want. The Thai women do not have to accept them but…..they do, so whose fault is that???

      • LILITH says:

        Maybe my fault?‍♀️ because I came to reading the comments and actually I should laying down and watching cartoons but most of the comments here are really insulting it just because you can’t get what you expect but I didn’t see any comments from those Hookers to talking bad and insulting about foreigners. Or maybe they have but I didn’t see. Guys here they acted like they hate to eat the peanut butter but they can’t stop eat it because they are so hungry, and yeah it’s my fault to born in Thailand and see the disdain from human from other species.

  • Shaun says:

    I think a lot of this article and the comments are rubbish. Full of stereotypes. Western men who live in or often visit Pattaya all “bald fat and disgusting” old men. Well, a lot of young handsome men from the West and also Asia live in Pattaya or regularly visit.

    This stuff about all Thai women being money-hungry sluts is also unfair. Obviously all are not.. And if some men who have been married before and now divorced or who have had long term GF’s in the past just want to have fun with bar girls in Pattaya that is ok IMO.

    I think many women still just want money from men, but now in Asia a lot of women are well-educated and don’t want or need money from men. In places like Bangkok or Shanghai many women have very good jobs and some are even prepared to marry down with a foreigner if he is reasonably handsome and treats her with respect..

    As for Thai women being gold diggers, I think China and many Chinese women are much worse. I lived in China for 9 years. I was also married to a Thai woman from Bangkok for 7 years before that.

    I feel that in Thailand an average Western man can find a half decent GF, even in Pattaya. Not all Pattayan ex-pats or even bar girls are bad. SOME Pattayan girls really like foreigners and not just for the money. I’ve spent a lot of time in Pattaya over the years. I am actually very fond of the place. BTW, not all men in Pattaya treat bar girls like shit. Some guys are just lonely and want companionship.

    Feminist types need to understand that it is extremely hard for older Western men to meet women in their own countries. For me, I’m 48, a former model, good looking, not poor. but I have a bit of a paunch ( beer gut,, I like beer, but not obese by any means ) now. I would be quite happy to have a serious girlfriend in Thailand or China but I feel it is just too hard to meet women in Australia. I have tried and it’s not easy, and I’m not shy or nervous by any means!

    So let’s try to be a bit more understanding toward each other.

  • Sunio says:

    I’m Thai girl and I don’t want money from guys.
    I think they are SOMEONE not all Thai girl

  • PP says:

    I am a Thai girl! A lot of Farang man just like to go Bar, a night club, just want to have SEXXXXXXXXX. For sure!! You must meet some girl who want your money and sex from you. But you would like a love from her. And u decide all Thai girl being like that!!
    Many website said a bad thing about Thai girl. But u should know not all Thai girl bad. ok?
    Many of Farang man do the bad thing to Thai girl……………………

    • Professor says:

      That’s true. But how many Thai women try to learn about the culture of their foreign boyfriends? And how many Thai women want foreign boyfriends to learn Thai culture? It seems to me many Thai women who date foreign men – even the ‘good’ girls – only want their boyfriends to know the ‘important’ things about Thai culture. Like Sin Sod. Or respecting her parents and family. Much else most foreigners in Thailand learn about Thai culture by themselves.

    • daren shaw says:

      well said speak up for yourself girl.

    • PHILLIP PASSEY says:

      Hi,
      My first reason for me to reply to these comments was because my Initials are P.P. But secondly and more important I feel that the comments made are stereotyping Foreigners? In every Country in the world there are both good, bad, evil and indifferent people. Both sexes and all sexual stereo types. I have always treated “working Girls”, the same as I would treat anyone else. With respect, understanding, compassion and try to understand traits and cultures of many Nationalities.Yes the first time I went to Thailand was in 1985 and to be truthful it was for a sexual experience. But I spent more time talking and listening to the girls and guys and learnt so much from them. Yes I did meet many fellow falang, even from my country who treated the locals like they were not human. Even ending in fights with them because of their bigoted views. But thoughts like this cannot be fought over, just use understand and information to change views? I would not have any hesitation in marrying a Thai girl, but only for love. I am not the only person that feels this way. But maybe in the near future, bigoted views can be changed and compassion and understanding comes first. But you cannot “judge a book by its cover”.
      And although humans are classified into groups not all of us fit into any one group?
      Sorry you have a bad or many bad experiences with Falang.
      We are not all like that, and its been my pleasure to meet many similar minded Falangs from many Countries. Do not accept this bad behavior from anyone. Thanks for comments, and hope that I may have enlightened you to a “good Falang”!
      Take care.