Having Sex With A Thai Bar Girl

Last updated: March 30th, 2020 | in Thai Girls

Every year thousands of airplanes land on Thailand’s airports and they are packed with single men of all ages or men in unhappy relationships or marriages. When they get asked by people back in their home countries what they like about Thailand and why they are going there for holiday every year the answer usually goes like the beaches are so nice, it’s always warm and Thai people are so friendly.

What they are not telling is the main reason for coming to Thailand and that’s because of Thai girls. Some are just out for sexual adventures while others are looking for a girlfriend or wife, but what most of them have in common is they go for bar girls. I’d say more than 80 percent of the foreign men coming to Thailand (who are not in healthy relationships) are having sex with a Thai bar girl or any kind of Thai hooker – and out of all these guys not more than 10 percent would admit that to their friends back home.

Thai Bar GirlsA lot of foreigners don’t even want to call them “prostitutes” because they think it’s just so different here in Thailand where you can pay for a girl the first time, then get her phone number and arrange the second date for free and the only thing you have to pay for is dinner and whatever she randomly picks up at the 7-Eleven while you go buy the condoms. Thai bargirls don’t make you feel bad and guilty by what you are doing, they even give you the feeling that they really like you – which is actually no lie in most cases.

If you haven’t made any experiences with Thai bar girls yet, maybe you haven’t even been to Thailand – this is how you hook up with a Thai bar girl. If you have, just skip reading the following five paragraphs.

You walk into a go go bar or beer bar and take a seat. If you come without female company it will not take long until one of the girls spontaneously comes over to you (not the one that takes your order) or you make eye contact with one of them and when you return her smile she will come over. Standard what she says is like “Hi what your name where you from you come to Thailand for holiday I like you you buy me drink?”

By “drink” she means lady drink and this is one of the three sources of income for bar girls in Thailand and the only reason they call it like that is because these drinks are more expensive than drinks for the customers at around 150 Baht (and her share is around 50%, if at all, usually it’s 50-70 Baht) usually no matter if she orders coke or tequila. It will not take more than five minutes for the girl to ask for a lady drink and then usually for a second one before she asks you where you stay and if you want to go to your place together.

There comes the second and most significant part of the Thai bar girl’s income: her price for sex. You usually have two options: Short time, means one shot and for about one or two hours and long time, means several shots and she stays with you until breakfast the following day (or brunch). Short time is between 1,000 and 2,500 Baht and long time between 2,000 and 4,000 Baht. Some girls let you make an offer and just ask “how much you give me” and when you arrange say 1,000 Baht (and she likes you) she sleeps at your place anyway – unless you tell her to leave after which is absolutely fine.

You also have to pay the bar fine (between 500 and 1,000 Baht), that’s the money you pay to the bar so you are allowed to take the girl outside – and it doesn’t include the girl’s share. The third source of income for a Thai bar girl is her salary which is usually quite low if she gets any at all at around 6,000 Baht per month.

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Once it’s time for the girl to leave your place (or short time hotel which are common all over Thailand and rooms cost between 300 and 500 Baht for one or two hours) she usually gives you her phone number or other contact detail if you ask her for it. Like this you can arrange to meet and bang her again before she starts or after she finishes work or on her day off (they usually get 3 days off per month, if she takes more the bar will cut her salary or, more commonly, she has to pay the bar fine for every day she takes off).

Like this a lot of foreigners initially see their new Gik as a cheap and fun fucking friend, but then after a while they start developing feelings for her. “She doesn’t ask for money anymore” is what they often think, but then forget that she will be gone once the restaurant bills, transportation, accommodation, little presents etc. aren’t paid for or provided anymore.

You see a lot of these couples walking hand in hand around town and the guy proudly showing her off like a trophy when the more experienced foreigners and locals are just shaking their heads or making fun of them. The market of prostitution for Thai men is far bigger than for foreigners, but Thai men would never let anyone see them hanging out with a hooker in public or walking around with her in the shopping mall as it would totally damage their reputation.

A lot of foreigners even go as far as marrying bargirls and / or taking them to their home countries – but that should be a different story.

Many foreigners don’t know what differentiates a good Thai girl from a bad Thai girl.

It’s not just the newbies to Thailand but even a lot of expats that live here for years and just don’t get out of the bars of Nana, Pattaya and Patong. Often they think it’s just so much more easy and fun to hang out with the bar girls instead of making some effort to learning Thai and approaching a girl with an ordinary job.

But maybe another reason why a lot of foreigners fall in love with a bar girl too easily and then don’t get to learn Thai is because the Thai bar girl’s English is generally decent – at least better than the standard office girl’s – and bar girls are too lazy to teach you Thai anyway, often they don’t even want their Farang boyfriend to speak Thai so they can continue gossiping about him with their friends right in front of his face.

If you have just a couple of Thai girl friends with normal jobs like most expats in Thailand do using Thai Cupid, even uni girls that do no sideline and learn to speak Thai you will easily be able to tell the difference between a good and bad Thai girl not only by how they speak, but also by how they behave.

One easy, obvious but true thing even beginner students of the Thai language can watch out for is how regularly she uses the polite particle “ka”. Bargirls use it very rarely while Thai girls with a good character do use it in every other sentence – especially when talking to strangers and getting to know new people.

Are Thai bar girls bad girls?

It’s important to know that there is only one reason why Thai girls decide to work in the bar: Because they come from very poor families with the majority from the northeastern region of Thailand (Isaan) and so they are working not just to support themselves but basically the whole family. Does this make them bad girls? I’d say no. You just have to be honest with yourself and don’t believe them too easily that they really like you because it’s their job to make you feel that way so they can get at your money.

Of course there are always exceptions and you can have a successful long term relationship with a Thai bar girl, though you have to be aware that you are most likely supporting her financially all the time because she hasn’t got a CV to apply for a normal job (except if you buy her a Thai restaurant or massage shop here or in your home country – but then it’s also you who makes all the investments and owns the business so she is kind of your employee that way). Or maybe you are just lucky enough to find a girl who just recently started to work in the bar.

Well that’s a lot of different thoughts on this hot topic. I know there is so much more to write and discuss about but I think that should be enough for now. Well, maybe one more thing:

Is Sex With Thai Bar Girls Safe?

Thailand is among the countries that have the highest rates of people infected by the HIV virus. Obviously the majority of these people are working in the “entertainment industry”. So don’t even think about having sex with a Thai bar girl without using a condom. Every 7-Eleven in Thailand has a wide selection of condoms right at the cashier for as low as 35 Baht for a package of three.

Speaking about safety in terms of the bar girl stealing from you, this is usually not a risk if you pick up the girl from a beer bar or go go bar where she is employed at so you know where to find her in case there are problems – and she knows that too. It’s a different story with freelancers and it does happen regularly and in various ways that these Thai girls steal money from foreigners.

40 Responses

  • Conman says:

    Have you even fucked her? Doesn’t sound like it. Pretty sure she had been sucking ten other dicks in between your drinks and cuddling.

  • Ged says:

    I did 3 two week long trips this year and going back for new year. Thanks for a posts Redact Interesting to read some comments, I’m 35 yo, and it’s really nice place to have a gooood time, as long as you looking after yourself and be respectful to a girl as lots of guys there acting as complete d**k heads. But it’s not a place to find love, get married etc. Redcat, i really like Phratamnak area . Beach is less crowded and depending on your mood you easily get to Pattaya or Jomtien.

  • Imran says:

    i spent two nights in Pattaya with 2 different girls i hired from a website and negotiated for 5000 BHT for 24 hours, First girl Jane was very sexy and fun loving. She took me to walking street and we really enjoyed there she was really good and showed great intimacy. we came back late night to hotel for the real play and she was awesome in the bed. the best part is that she was very neat and clean and i literally licked every inch of her body. although i hired her for 24 hrs but i let her leave in the morning after breakfast as i wanted to go out and visit different places without distraction :). 2nd night i hired girl Bam again for 5000 BHT for 24 hours but we didnt go out as i was tired from day. at first i didnt find her attractive as jane but boy o boy she gave me awesome massage which got me hard as a rock for the longest time in my life as we make love till she make me cum like never before as i felt my bones are getting emptied inside the condom i wear. Next morning i get her along to Koh Larn Island and she was great company and fun. 3rd morning before i left for Bangkok Airport i just strolled near my hotel at Soi Buakhao and just wanted a full body massage to get off the tiredness and found a sensual massage parlor with a pretty girl Dee offering BJ only other than full body massage, although i wanted one last ride before i leave pattaya but i liked the girl and she was really sexy and showered me first and then give me amazing massage before she showed her awesome skills of BJ. she really left me satisfied with her skill. Now after having all these experiences in only three days all i can say is THAI GIRLS ARE THE BEST :D

  • Bella says:

    My partner spent a week with a Bar girl in Patong, when he was younger, I am so grossed out by it.

  • Jim says:

    Okay, I just spent the past hour or more reading this article and most of the comments. What surprises me the most, is the lack of comparisons of apples-to-apples, or home-women to Asian women. Why do men, of any age, go to Thailand or the Philippines, or wherever to meet women when presumably there are available women at home?

    Let’s begin with an assumption: ALL women are prostitutes – they just take their payment in different forms, sometimes. By extension, that makes ALL (heterosexual) men walking ATMs. Think about the women in your own country for a minute. How much money did you have to spend on her before she would sleep with you, if she slept with you? Do women at home judge you by your clothes, your job, your car, your bank accounts? How much did your wife take you for? (If you’re on this website, you’re looking for a new woman.) Are your parents “expecting” you to help take care of them as they get older? Are you supporting any children, either because you want to or because of a court-order or both? How long will you be supporting them? How is this any different from what most people have commented on here regarding the Asian women?

    Alright, maybe I sound bitter to some of you, or perhaps just realistic to others. I’m in my mid-50s, have one daughter (in her 20s), and been divorced since she was in diapers. I’ve been living with a “girlfriend” for almost 20 years now, but we are more friends than anything else – no romance or anything else. We (I) am just existing, not really living. I might add that I’m not really bad looking either, but I’m tired of the “what do you have to offer me” mentality of American women, of all ages, so I simply don’t bother. I just save my money instead, and I expect to retire early (by age 60) as a multi-millionaire.

    So why am I on this website, reading the article and the comments? Let me take you back in time to the 1980s, when I was in the US Navy and the US still held Subic Bay Naval Base and Clark Air Force Base, and the best two weeks of my life during a port call. First off, probably 10-20% of the other guys on the ship were married to Filipinas, and happily so. Thus, seeing a white man with a Filipina was no big deal. Across the bridge, in Olongapo, a shipmate and I decided to use the buddy system as we explored the bars down the main strip. Sure enough, it wasn’t long before we had each found ourselves “attached” to a couple of very pretty young women who just simply came over to us and sat down. (A new experience for me, as I had never been approached before – in the US men are expected to be the hunter instead of the hunted.) We thought they were nice girls so we bar-fined them and left. The first stop was a restaurant. The girls were shocked that we wanted them to eat too, rather than sit there quietly watching us eat. The sex that night was good (not great), but that didn’t matter. My friend and I returned to the same bar the next night and paid for the same two girls for long time – the remainder of the two weeks we would be in PI. Instant girlfriends.

    Now the next surprise: they watched our backs! They knew all the scams on the streets, the pick-pockets, and so on, and they covered for us – alerting us to danger we hadn’t noticed, and once going off on some guy who was trying to get my wallet while his co-conspirator diverted my attention. Besides the sex, they played tour guide for us, and took us all around that part of the Philippines, including secluded waterfalls, beaches, etc. Near the end of our stay, they invited us both back to their village (I only remember it was nearly an hour by Jeepney.) That is when my heart broke. Her family (she was the oldest child) was literally living in a shack, complete with a dirt floor. Her father was dying from tuberculosis and couldn’t work anymore. She was helping to support (via prostitution) her parents and younger siblings. I had money burning a hole in my pocket – just from what I had in my pocket would have taken care of them for an entire year – but never once, did anyone ask me for money, in any amount, and I knew to offer would have been a big insult. The day we left PI, the girls gave my buddy and I gifts!

    I would have married her, but then I found out that she had really only been 16 years old instead of 18, and that ended that. But I still have her pictures and the fond memories. No woman since Jennifer has ever treated me as well, and certainly no American woman who is far, far more interested in what is in my bank accounts than in me. So, is it really a crime to want a better life? I don’t think so. And when I do retire, I will be heading to Thailand and the Philippines in search of a real woman – one who is capable (and willing!) to treat me the same way she wants to be treated in return. After thirty-plus years living in the West, I’m convinced that the only place to find such a woman is overseas. And I don’t care if she is/was a bar girl, or if she is four years of forty years younger than me. We only get one shot at this thing called life, and I want to spend whatever time I have left living as well as giving.

    • Ian Hirst, Cambridge England. says:

      First class overview Jim. Common sense and good knowledge on the subject. You seem like a really nice guy. I’ve arrived today in Bangkok, staying/travelling for a couple of months. I’m 68, retired healthy and still looking good – twice divorced and loving living the life I’ve always dreamed about living. Thanks for the all advice in your post. Ps. I’m a well off oldie and a softie – Only thing I’d do different ? I’d have had tears in my eyes, I’d have given that young lass all in my pocket (and more besides) before I went.
      If it happens to me this holiday, I’d buy somewhere cool nearby with a pool as a holiday home with a decent guest annex. Give the annex to the family permanently in return for them looking after the house when I was travelling the world with a loving young companion.
      Life sorted.
      With your knowledge Jim, at my age – is that realistic ?

  • ThaiJ says:

    Lol..have to agree with that! Unapproachable, loud mouthed, opinionated fat feminists who think that she are the bees knees,and they wonder why we spend so much time here. Thailand reminds me of that old TV show Wonder Woman. WW lived on an island full of gorgeous woman, but with no men. The odd bloke/s that called by..well, you can imagine lol!
    Kiwi chicks..lose the attitude otherwise you’ll only be left on the shelf.

  • Younglife says:

    Lol I bet this whole conversation is from old white guys. I fucked 4 girls in 3 days and 4th girl 4times. So 8 bangs in a week. But I’m 24 sleep with 30-40age lol. Why the 4th girl many times? Because she attached to me I aint even rich. I provide the good sex. Good to be young haha

    • Deejay says:

      Lol a 24 year old man bragging about easily having sex with 30 – 40 year old women in Thailand is like a sexy 19 year old girl bragging about having sex with 40 – 50 year old men for free; of course its easy because you are diving into a pool that very few other men want to swim in hahahahahaha. Cheers!

  • Josh says:

    She sucks all types of cocks and eats assholes all day long. Dont be fooled
    She will fuck your neighbours in front of you.

  • John Appleseed says:

    Does a shot counts as blowing your load from a blowjob before you even go for intercourse?

  • Big Tony says:

    Having seen things from the other side as a former bar owner, I think there are really two sides to the coin. First, many of these ladies are there to earn money (or marry a farang = same thing) and people delude themselves that this is not the case and even marry them. Many work there because they do not have the brains, the sense of responsibility or the willingness to hold a real job for long. They are like children in that way. This is why they call each other ‘dek’ meaning ‘kid’. When they go with a customer that person will always be a customer though. Alas people forget this. If you are on the other side of the coin though, i.e. part of their daily circle of friends, even though most are not reliable, they are generous and trustworthy for the most part. I have always found them to be a good friend in need. The author mentioned “ka” and politeness. In this they are the same as other Thais but outside of “work” when they are back in their normal life. Both worlds are usually kept separate though.

  • Pigus says:

    No experience win Thailand, but some in Philippines. Life’s a bitch everywhere if you are poor, so there are similarities. I did the round of dating sites (52 at the time) and met some good friends and had a good web-chat time with many. Then I decided to go a step further and arranged to meet up with three of them in Phils.

    Of the three, I knew one, Ash, had been a bar girl and was barely surviving on web cam work now that she had a kid. The second, Mitch, was a married and separated web chat girl with two kids, as was the third, Janet.

    I spent time with each, including sex.

    Janet, 27, was useless in bed, overly shy and more boring in real life than on cam. We parted ways. But she never tried to scam me for anything.

    Mitch, 33, was erotic and oozed sex when I met her. Her shyness made her even more thrilling to be with – she could barely find words to say – she seemed genuinely overawed and to meet me. The sex was not ‘wild’ by any means, but something about her, her raw femininity, turned me on like nothing before. On first meeting we had sex twice within 30 minutes and I came both times – we were both amazed. However, there was a lack of social engagement and we eventually parted. The main point about her was that she claimed she got pregnant after that first meeting and then had a miscarriage. Of course, I paid for her care. I am 50/50 split on whether she told the truth. I bare no grudge however – I was so sexed up that I foolishly didn’t use any protection. BIG lesson – these girls’ eroticism can drive you so crazy that you really can lose your mind.

    Finally, sweet Ash was the youngest at 20. I had always had the best connection with her – fun, easy, fresh, cheeky and of course, sexy. However, I knew she’d spent time in Angeles from about age 15 by working backwards from things she had told me, old photos, bf etc. So I was aware that she lied like breathing and eating. I suspected that there was a boyfriend on the scene and that I was just another western mug good for cash. No problem, eyes open, I had fun. We met twice. The sex was pretty lame, but I really enjoyed my time with her, dancing, eating, walking, talking. Deep down I knew this would not work because of the age difference. But what I did not realise initially was how her bar girl background would also have made that impossible.

    I kept getting messages and even phone calls from anonymous ‘friends’ telling me she has a local boyfriend and not to waste my money. Later however, I learnt that she was even an easy lay where she lived. It became apparent that she had numerous partners for easy sex. I was sent copies of her Yahoo chats where she told her friends that she missed all the cock in Angeles! Eventually, I suspected that she was pregnant again and of course she could not hide it. We finished up on that note. No bad feelings – I was too far away and let;s face it – too old!

    Looking back now, of course I was foolish and delusional from various points of view. I had my fun at a time in life when I needed to break out and explore. I was lucky not to get infected and lucky also not to get one of them pregnant. I was also lucky not to get married.

    I know many other guys have better experiences, so good luck to those who try. But please read my experience and learn from my mistakes. I would definitely say to stay away fro bar girls. One guy in Ash’s network who phoned me was a past bf whom she dumped to sleep with others. He said to me ‘Paul, she is nice and fun, I know. But really she is hooked on sex from her bar days – she can not resist.’ As they say – “You can take the girl out of the bar, but you can’t take the bar out of the girl”

  • Martin says:

    Hello, I have read all the comments and I agree with many of although the experiences are varied. I am from the UK, working in the Middle East & recently divorced, I am 61 yrs old, slip and fit. I did the round of bars in Bangkok, then decided to join Thai Cupid. I communicated with a 36 yr old lady in Phitsanulok went to meet her and fell in love. She is a country girl never sold herself for sex, had Thai husband who gave her two children then fucked of and never saw them again. I can sympathize with all the bar girls as, there is only one way to support themselves and their family. Please please treat them with respect. I am lucky I have found the most sincere loving person and will be getting married soon and living in Thailand permanently.

  • Tam Tam says:

    Steve, marry her!!! Look, you probably only have 15 good years left and 25 years to live. She knows she will be still be young enough at 45 to continue to enjoy her life with another guy long after you’re gone. My husband is 30 years older than me and I am faithful and honoring him now because I will live comfortably when I reach old age because of his generosity and love.

  • Shakermaker says:

    Dude, you’re just one of many Western guys she has wrapped around her little finger. They pretend to like you, its what Thai girls are good at. She bangs probably 20 guys a week and thinks nothing of it.

  • Shaun says:

    There are some really good comments on here. Interesting to hear the different experiences.
    I think bar girls are not much different to other gals: Some are very good, some are terrible.
    That guy on here who said to be polite and kind and to shave is good advice.

    Also not to smoke and try to stay fit, although in my experience Thai girls don’t mind guys a bit overweight if they are handsome.

    I think for guys 50+ if they want to find a bar girl to be a GF it’s better to find one over 30. Just my opinion.

  • Shaun says:

    You can have a Thai GF but only spend what you can afford to lose. That goes for a bar girl or ordinary Thai ( or any Asian ) girl.

    These men who buy them houses in the countryside and cars etc are just fucking stupid. Have a short term Asian GF for two or three months, fuck her two or three times each week,move on.

  • Jey says:

    I was 26 and had been living in the Pattaya area for nearly 4 years but 2 of those were in an unhappy relationship.
    After I ended that relationship, I went on a sex rampage in single man’s Disneyland.
    I signed up for a dating website, downloaded Tinder and Badoo as well as visited the occasional bar or gogo girl on weekends when I had no other plans. All in all, over the next six months I banged about 30 girls aged from 18-40.

    I learned to build a rapport with any bar/gogo girl before leaving with them. Have fun and make them like you, they will perform much better or be more inclined to give more. If they aren’t fun, drink up and move on. I learned this the hard way after barfining the sexiest (but not necessarily the nicest) girls in bars, only to have them give one round of boring standard sex then fall asleep, giving another round of mediocre sex in the morning before hurrying to leave immediately after I paid them, keeping the lights off or staying covered up with a towel the whole time. The most standout bargirl I met at an unexpected time.

    After one particularly dull tinder date strikeout and disappointing flake on one of my booty calls, I found myself horny and alone down Walking St at 3 oclock in the morning. Most of the bars were closing up or closed already so I wasn’t holding my breath. That was when I encountered Fon.

    Fon was 25 years old and from Isaan. She spoke excellent english from her previous relationship to a farang and had spent 6 months in his country where he then left her heartbroken and alone, she was forced to return to Thailand and with no money to support her young child, became a Pattaya bar girl.

    I barfined her and she gave me some of the best sex I’ve ever had, she let me do anything I wanted, all night. She never pressured me for anything and between sex rounds she was quite honest about telling her life story. She was a very intelligent girl with worldly knowledge and interest. We saw each other for a couple of weeks and always had fun. She was quite aware of my “butterfly” ways and joked with me about it. She was never jealous and we would talk about her customers or she would give me advice for dealing with Thai girls. I became quite good friends with her. I kept a golden rule with myself to never fall in love with a bargirl but she was an incredible fuck buddy, I eventually had to stop seeing her before I did develop feelings for her. If she wasn’t a bargirl I would have dated her on the spot, I shouldn’t be judgemental but with anything in Thailand, you have to be careful and looks can be decieving. I stayed friends with Fon on facebook and would talk occasionally even after I left Thailand.

    I learned to simply treat bargirls like you would any other girl. Just because they’re prostitutes doesn’t make them subhuman. And like any other girls, some are better than others.

    I still sometimes look back in nostalgia to my adventurous ways in adult Disneyland!

  • Thai girl says:

    I hope you dirty men to have HIV and enjoy sex with that kind of women. I believe there are many Thai girls are smart and intelligent. Prostitution is small population. Don’t even think to all Thai girls.

  • Northerner says:

    A lot of funny comments here about bar-girls and love. Hmm, never used these two words in the same sentence before.
    I have only one wish when it comes to Thailand and fun. I’m old, passed 50 some years ago and even if I look ok I never think any bar-girl of 25 will ever think of me any other way tahn a walking wallet.

    So my philosophy is to stay calm, have fun as many years ahed I can – and when I’m not longer in shape to have sex with a beautiful bar-girl I will buy 10-15 pills of viagra, order 5 young girls and make then fuck me until I pass away.
    In my wallet I will leave information for the coroner on what to do with my body.

    I shall be burned and my ashes shall be put in the top of a festival rocket and this rocket shall be shot up over Pattaya beach. Living there forever, hahaha :)

    • Lardy says:

      Just read your comments still laughing now, how so true your words are about bar girls,lovely beautiful things they are, but just keep it light and fun, that’s what you learn after many years coming to the Land of smiles ha!! I Love Thailand, feel so at home there,peaceful and calm if you can drag yourself away from the the bars, I spend alot of time in Lamai/samui I find it a good mix of girl bars and peaceful beaches to chill on, and when that day comes I hope this is where I watch the last sunset with a beer I my hand and great memories of many years of Partying, in Bangkok, pattaya, samui and the island’s, All the best to you my fellow Thai traveller enjoy your later years Keep smiling,party till the END of days.

  • Janne Andersson says:

    I’m 30 years older then my little go go girl. I have feelings for her. I lived in Bkk for almost 5 years. She gives me good sex and I think she also enjoys it. She’s totally honest I think in many ways. She like her “work” and most customers she enjoy having sex with. She even say she have orgasm with more than 20%. She say she prefer white middle aged white males. If she like the customer and “feel good” and he have a big dick – 19 to 23 cm – she comes more easily (I’m smaller). Totally honest but maybe rare. I helped her with some money before to finish her house but now I don’t pay her nothing anymore. Just pay for dinner and she Sleeping over 3-4 times a week.

  • fresh says:

    Coming to Thailand since ’91… Back then i was a handsome young bloke (27 yo). Lived at Bang Saphaan and Thap Sakae. Banged 25+ local girls (not hookers) but never comitted to one. Am 53 yo old now and 13 years together with farang woman (aged 41). She gave me great sex as well as intellectual input. I could never stay any longer than 1 shot (ie. 3 minutes) with a Thai girl. Their bodies are heaven (at least 15% of them; the rest is obese these days or unfit), and they do whatever u ask them (licking asshole kha? no porrrrbpleeeeem kha) but fucking is sooooooooooo 90s. i love my femaled educated and critical. thàt turns me on. not some petite thai whore :-)

  • Loony says:

    Visited Thailand in 1995 as a 21 year old, felt embrassesed back home being with LBFMPBR ( beautiful girls )

    I got involved with a westerner. 14 years later that hoare has cost me half a million dollars. 12.5 million baht. Stole my 11 year old daughter. Still going through Court.

    As a male nurse after separation l have listened to many dying soles. My understanding is!
    Life is all about company and sex. Being honest to yourself. fuck the rest, if they care they will not care.

    It is what is Is.

    At 42, my dollar will be converted to baht at least once or twice a year till I die for Quality and Quantity to fuck LBFMPBR over unsatisfing limited contact with expensive white trash, sorry mum, bad luck dad! love you both.

    LBFMPBR loony is coming back…

    • ben says:

      yep that’s the western world off today. getting married and starting a family isn’t a good idea in the western world. western society is totally gynocentric. the laws are staked against men. and feminist have brainwashed all the women too a point that there’s just no living with them. just go mgtow and you’ll be much happier. have some fun on holidays in thailand or move there. good luck with fighting for your daughter man. hope you have better luck then most in your position. this is wy i advice all young men to avoid women in the western world and save as much money as they can in their teens and twenties. so they can get out in their thirties and start a new life in asia. the west is lost. i’m moving to thailand next year.

  • Niki says:

    There are lots of different story’s on here… Good bad and ugly… Saints and sinners… We go over there looking for one thing no matter what you tell your wide or girlfriend or family I’m soul searching I’m exploring what I didn’t in my youth I’m fishing I’m seeing the jungle… Bulls hit your going over there because of one thing young and old thin and fat ready available girls at a drastically reduced price to the rest of the western hemisphere where the price of an escort for one hour can buy you two days with one of these girls…. Now there’s nothing wrong with that is there? You want to buy it and she wants to sell it… She could be providing for her entire family or just herself but just bumping into her is a lie these girls belive it or not are very religious well in most part they have strict upbringings and have morals and mostly very shy but that’s not to say it can’t happen… If you want to pay a lady for sex and belive she loves you because she said so then do what your heart and head tells you to do no amount of information will help you when your finally in that position and any man that says he hasn’t been is either a liar or stone cold mother fucker because some of these girls will melt your heart.. Beautifull funny and no matter how many old and young dudes have ploughed them they still retain this innocent look. Now to all the guys that have had to pay for love and pictures and all that shit the minute they ask you for money for a picture would a girl in love do that? And you actually dumb enough to belive it… The first time I went to pattaya I was 28 years old fit young and healthy and a decent looking guy I may add and I did the same thing J paid for gogo girls bar girls strip joint girls everything I must have had a different girl for every night of the week it was great no emotions just amazing body’s and some great sex others were mediocre at best I made one girl cry as I finger Ed her which shocked me to the core and talking to her she was 20 years old and been St the bar 6 weeks and I was her first long or short time customer I had her story and like nearly all thai girls it was the same story the fuck head husband got her pregnant and fucker of and left her and this shit is true thai men are not useless wastes of space not all but the main majority.. Now from that night I paid her for about four more days and not to once did I have sex with her again I started to look at her like my little sister one night at the bar she was introduced to these to Indian men and if it wasn’t for a random guy I met and talked to I would of hit them over the head with the bottle of Heineken I had in my hand not out of jealousy but protection.. Now again the guy I was with told me you have to let it go she needs to do this or her family won’t eat…. I had to walk away and I never seen her again but I will never forget her.. So guys please remember your out there to get drunk and Fuck your brains out but these girls are still human beings imagine that was your daughter or sister or Niece Jesus’even your mother’s… Treat them a little better then just meat and maybe you can save a little bit of someones soul and even your own.. Now with a different metality I met another girl in a strip joint we spent a few days together and I went home… I got in touch with her and we spoke every day for nine months.. We shared everything our daily lives our kids our hopes and dreams and never once did she ask me for anything… Everytime I go back i don’t stay in a hotel I stay at her place which isn’t much but it’s hers I have my own space in her closet for my clothes to save on luggage and she introduced me to her family which Is no small thing she even has my pictures on her walls along with some of her friends and family I printed for her.. Now this is week you loved up guys need to listen… When I go I pay her bar fine and u still pay her for the time we are together even though we do love each other and the reason is she needs to feed her family you need to learn shit about thailand because it’s not the same as the west she’s not a money grubbing whore she is in love but if she doesn’t work her family goes without… To me that’s unacceptable now remember she’s never asked me for money ever only when we’re together now in Thai bar girl standards that shit is love.. And again you got to listen and understand unless you fall in love and can afford or want to move across there and set up a home and everything else and take her away from it all when I go home she goes back to the bar… It breaks my heart to know this it really does but she never lies to me never she tells me and she always apologises for it… And my response is always the same part of love is understanding each other and don’t you ever apologise to me for doing what you need to do

    • Robert says:

      yup, you have seen it too. I have been told that many of the girls have one or two daughters and the father leaves to try for a son with another woman (or he just leaves anyway..). Daughters cannot look after you in old age, so many men just abandon their wife/girlfriend. Truly the most despicable thing a man can do to a woman – and his own blood. In my instance the aunt took the daughter in, but the mother is expected to pay for the upkeep and education of the children.

  • Michael says:

    Durex 56 is a nice fit.

  • Michael says:

    Dump and burn bro. Youve had your holiday fun leave it at that.She’s sending those very same sweet emails and pics to a lot of guys for cash and prizes. you don’t really think she’s your for real gf do you? Wake up!!

  • Robert says:

    Yet another story !

    Guys I went to Thailand only because the flight to Bali was cancelled due to a volcanic ash cloud. Phuket, the Jetstar agent said, OK then. So I went to Kata beach away from the madness in Patong. I did not want to meet a girl in a bar and kept away from them. Walked up and down the roads in Kata beach and found the prettiest masseuse and went in.

    Met this girl, sweet and very beautiful, I asked for a happy ending and she said yes. I said no, I will see you after work. … And now three trips later, have learned this about her – She left school at 15 to go to work in a factory to support her mother and younger brother, she never knew her father, was a mother at eighteen, had a violent husband, she nursed her mother through sickness who died six years ago, went into deep debt to pay for her mothers hospital costs, now has a sixteen year old daughter and a younger brother deeply traumatised by his mother death. She worked in Bangkok for ten years as a seamstress and doing clerical work and walked out when a manager very aggressively tried to sexually assault her. She went to Phuket because her cousin was working there. When I met her she had been there for about three months. She could hardly speak any English at all.

    I pieced all this together from her and her first cousin who also works with her. I have spent six weeks with her over the past year and skyping almost everyday. I have been to her house in a village near Korat (yes, she is an Isaan girl), met her daughter in Udon, met her extended family and her cousin at the house in her village and visited her childhood school where her niece is a student. When we went into the small town near her village and every day we would bump into at least half a dozen people who would immediately light up at seeing her and start a conversation.

    She has never asked for money. The first time I saw her I slipped 4,000 baht into her pocket. Because I took her away from work she forfeited a weeks income. She was a bit offended, a few days after I got home her facebook page had a picture of her in the temple making a huge offering to the monks of food and toiletries. The second time I saw her I gave her nothing, last time I gave her 20,000 baht. I kept an eye on what she was earning (she would tell me every few weeks how she was doing) and I knew she was going to be off target to repay her mothers medical bills. The mortgage on her house was on this. I paid the final 10% of the loan, it was not a lot. Many times we would go into a restaurant / shop and she would grab me by the arm and lead me outside – I do not want this – you must save your money she would say. Apart from those times she would never take the initiative, she always would say “up to you”. Now I will not take her to a place which looks more than modest or average.

    So twelve months down the track I know she has other suitors – at what level I am unsure, (and I know she would be foolish to throw all her eggs into one basket). Then you look at her terribly unfortunate background and you forgive her. Who am I to expect her devoted loyalty. I never send her money – she never asks for money. She is a woman, she would be lonely where she is, everyday she is surrounded by women, she works eleven hours a day, seven days a week, there is no holiday pay or sick leave. She never ever complains. She steadfastly refuses to spend more than 200 baht a day on food, and will go without if she thinks she has not made enough the previous day. She sleeps on the floor in a room with her cousin and two other girls. Every single baht she earns goes to pay for her daughters schooling. She does not drink or smoke and has no tattoos. This is all very humbling stuff.

    People say a woman wants security above all else, yes I believe that – remember Thailand has no social security like we have. Only civil servants and a few others get a pension.

    The point I am getting to is this, respectfully listen to everything you hear and get rock solid proof independently. I would discretely ask questions to test her. Just recently I lost contact with her for about a week. Oh, well I thought, that was fun while it lasted. Them she skyped me saying she was in hospital and recovering from dengue fever. I phoned about six hospitals in Phuket town, and sure enough she was there.

    Everything I know about her I have confirmed by other means and/or seen with my own eyes. Only a fool accepts unconditionally what he is told. Never accept what a Thai girl tells you until you have proven it by other means. It makes you respect her even more when you find out that everything you know about her really is the unblemished truth. Bar girls are in an industry geared to offering pleasure to men, and you have to be extremely vigilant. Many massage girls are on the periphery of this too.

    From almost no English to now a very confident grasp of the language, she is an extremely intelligent woman. She remembers everything she hears, talk well, has impeccable manners, dresses beautifully in the few outfits she has and has let me buy for her. Like others have said Isaan girls are true gems, they live their life to make sure others are looked after and put their concerns after others.

    What does the future hold – I cannot answer this – I don’t know. Maybe one of the hidden suitors may take her away. One thing I do know is that most white skinned girls should bow their heads in shame when the see the silent sacrifice that some will make for family.

    If a girl asks for money or tells you something which you know is not true, cut her free as quickly as you can, never give her a second chance. Don’t let her looks cloud your judgement. I have come across quite a few already, and it gets easier each time to spot and discard them. Always have a suite of trick questions to throw at them, to get a feel for what they are about.

    Apologies for the long read !

  • Rollo says:

    When you’re away she fuck others. Sex doesn’t matter much to them. If you send her money she doesn’t have to fuck ugly guys but young handsome for free. And get big face with friends. Believe me.

  • Rollo says:

    I had I fun gogo as company for four month and paid her well. I beleive the start to have feelings real. I’m not naive and spend more than five years in Thailand since 1988. I’m 56 and she was 27. Found her in a gogo bar. My mistake was I started to have feelings. First time with a gogo girl. I offered her pay for a good education to be a cook. Not interested. She loved or liked her work. She didn’t enjoy fuck all customers but mostly felt ok. She even told me that she have orgasm with 20% other customers. No reason to tell me that. Sometimes she go for free if young and handsome fun guy. Many girls do that she claimed. Why lie about that to me? I’m older but maybe not to bad looking for some.

    I went home for business and she Vibered me all day. Only weekends she answer late the day after and even said goodnight at 9 am. No need to be Einstein to understand she was working in nightclub.

    One day she asked for help 1000 usd. I said no. “You’re working why ask me”? If you send money the only difference is she can afford not fuck us older guys and fuck younger handsome for free. Believe me. When I was young I had some girls like that.

    Don’t fall I love and don’t send money!!

    • Jim says:

      I had one gogo I know for long time also. She said if she drunk and have some “feeling” she enjoyed the sex. In 50 guys for 6 months she had orgasm with 25. No reason for her to lie to me at all because she know I can never accept o have a gf that is a whore. She spoke also very open, maybe because I never show I felt disgusted and a little jealous. She didnt like younger than 40 because “they wanna fuck to many times”. She also admit she come more easy if big dick over 18 cm. Unbelievable maybe but I believed her. No normal girl wanna admit al this. But she was not normal.

  • PB says:

    This has been a great lunch read for me, I love the infomation on this site and the comments are such a varation of ideas, Sad, confused, used , loved , scammed the list goes on,and it’s all GREAT. I don’t want to sound as though I know it all I DO NOT, but if we look at bar girls, freelancers or even dating site girls (not all the girls, but some), they are all trying to secure a future whilst there are still able, think about it when the beauty is gone so is the earning potential. So if you are reading this and you are in bussiness, these girls areeffectivly running a bussines and maximising profits . The only difference is they are not selling toothbrushes to cars, they are selling the the only asset they own. That right there body.
    Western cultures look down on prostitution, for anumber of reasons I won’t go into , but you know most of them, why got me beat.
    As for meeting the nice (they are all nice) respectable Thai girl as a life partner, I suggest you look at a few things first , Thai girls are very modest and respectful . If you are realy keen in meeting them then this might help.
    Work out, lose the belly and the tripple chin.
    Learn Thai, don’t expect good (what a horrible word) thai girls to be fluent, some that work in hotels or major shopping centers maybe, but thats not a given either.
    Do not expect that the girl will want to sleep with you on your first date, it may take weks or months, and if she dose sleep with you on the first date, give the relationship idea some thought.
    Expect to take care of her and her family, family is the strongest bond, never try to break it.
    Age has no meaning in Thailand so yes it can happen that a 20 year old will fall in love with a 70 year old, but if thats what you want and I am nobody to judge, spare a thought for her needs in life.
    I keep fit and work out every day, when I am in Thailand the only time I sleep alone is when I want to. I can’t remember the last time I paid for a companion ,bar girl , freelancer or normal working girl. My golden rules are,
    1. Keep fit
    2 Give up the smokes. (very few Thai girls smoke)
    3 Be clean, shave, shower , shit and shampoo andabove all smell nice.
    4 Always be polite, no matter what
    5 Be attentive,do not let your eyes wander, Thai girls are as jealous as hell
    6 Never swear
    7 Get involved in what she want to do, this point is interesting as Thai girls like a man to take the lead, but you will work that out.
    8 BE TOTALY HONEST, if you are in a relationship, for god sake tell her you are, rememer they are jealous as hell, heard of a lot of married men going home to an empty house.
    Well I am not sure if this will help anyone,and I am happy to take critisysm or to to f..k off, but I hope it has

  • PB says:

    I love what you have to say, you are so very right. I am 54 spent 3 weks in Thailand , didn’t see nearly half what I wanted to see, so back I go in March. For my age I look reasonable. Not ripped but no fat and still have most of my hair. at 178 cm and 105 kg (again no real fat). I got slammed at nightclubs but some real beauties, at first I thought they were frelancers , but they were not. Best 7 days in Patong and the same all over. You are 100% right in your comments. Women are just like men, they like someone who respects themselves . So to addto your comment. Gentlemen unless you a cripple JOIN A GYM

  • PB says:

    Hey Paddy, my Irish cousin and I just came back, met a girl from Thai Cupid and only went sight seeing with her. Mate I wasn’t back a day when I got a FR on Facebok andI didn’t tell her my last name ?. Just be careful with that shit it can fuck you up. Bar girls are more fun and harmless. Enjoy