What Thai Women Are Really Like

Last updated: February 5th, 2017 | in Thai Girls

What Thai Women Are Like

Most people discover this site by searching for all sorts of topics related to Thailand on google. But from what I see in my site stats the majority of first time visitors are typing in phrases like “what do thai girls think”, “farang and thai woman” or “sex with thai girl”. And even though I don’t have a specific article to each and every single search phrase out there, a lot of you guys then hit up one of the most read articles on Thailand Redcat: Are Thai Girls all about money?

What I’m basically saying in this piece is that not all Thai girls are about money. While this is just half of the truth and a somewhat general statement as well, what I really meant to say there is: You can have a hell lot of fun here in Thailand and meet and sleep with beautiful Thai women over and over again without paying much money. You might even find your girl paying the bills in the cinema, restaurant or for the taxi back to her place.

That’s especially true if you’re dating women who are around your age or older. You should always be aware that age matters a lot in Thailand and the fact that the words “pîi” (พี่) for older person and “nɔ́ɔng” (น้อง) for younger person always replace the actual name of someone you don’t know yet. It’s not just that the older siblings are the main caretaker in the family both for the parents and also for the younger brothers and sisters – but this also applies to relationships where the man is usually older than the woman.

One side note before we get into the interesting part: Of course we are talking about “normal Thai women” here, means girls with day jobs, office girls and students. If you fall in love with any sort of bar girl, you’re paying 98% of all bills from day one with the exception being the 8 Baht a person for the non-airconditioned bus ticket in Bangkok (supposing she’s cool with hopping on one) and the rare occasions she walks to the 7-Eleven by herself and doesn’t ask you for a couple of notes to get her daily supply of snacks and toiletries.

Anyway, thanks for still reading. Maybe I have lost a few of you guys already after these first paragraphs as I basically made two completely contradictory statements. First I said you can have fun with Thai women for free and then claiming that since age matters a lot in Thai society and men are usually looking for younger women (and vice versa) it’s us guys who pay most of the time. So what the heck do I mean by that? Let me start by saying:

The longer you are dating a Thai woman, the more you take on your role as the caretaker in the relationship.

And yes, by caretaker I mean the financial caretaker in the relationship. It’s really as easy as that. Thai women simply still don’t have the ambition and chance to earn more money than the guys or make career in one of the (very few) big companies. Yes they can earn some good money by working as pretties and hostesses at events and do model jobs here and there or sell beauty products on facebook as long as they’re young and gifted. But they know if they want to keep their current lifestyle they need to find a guy who takes care of them once they passed their 20s.

Maybe a few of you guys now think hey I know some chicks who work as real estate agents and are doing really good. But then ask yourself how many of them are olden then say 35? Yes, there are always exceptions but I bet you don’t know a lot who are over 35 and make more money than their husband, no matter whether Thai or Farang.

In that regards, I would compare the situation in Thailand with the one in western countries some 50 years ago when it was the man who worked full time and the woman taking care of the household and children at home. I tell you this is still the case in my own home in Germany where my dad always supported our family financially while my mom prepared the meals, did the laundry, cleaned up the house and was always around when me or my sister needed her (while still working part time).

Taking Care of your Thai Woman

And yes, this is exactly how it works in Thailand. Some guys ask their Thai women to still take up a job or buy her a small business like a coffee shop to keep her busy while others just want to have her around all the time and give her some pocket money every other day or on a monthly basis which is then called “ngǝn dʉan” (money month, เงินเดือน) and yes that’s exactly the same word as the salary for employees.

If you are ever thinking about marrying a Thai woman then what you should be aware of is that you are not marrying only one person but a whole family and are supposed to take part in all sorts of social gatherings but also the moment you are asking her parents for permission to marry her you need to promise them to take care (in Thai “duu lɛɛ”, ดูแล) of her always. In many cases they even want to have a look at your bank book (or book bank) to check on your savings and regular income.

And there’s more to the marrying part: Ever heard of Sin Sod (sǐn sɔ̀ɔt, สินสอด)? That’s the amount of money you need to pay your future wife’s parents in addition to promising of taking care of her and it’s not uncommon that you’re looking at a 6-figure number here as a form of expressing your gratefulness to the family. Okay, I think we shouldn’t go in too much detail here, the whole marriage topic really deserves its own article.

So now that we’ve talked quite a bit about the money aspect and sure, that’s what most people are interested in anyway but let’s have a look at some other things to find more answers to the initial question what Thai women are really like.

Are Thai Women Doing the First Step?

I remember during my working holiday in Australia and not even planning on visiting Thailand at that time an Irish work colleague told me “man you must go there, you can sit in a bar and the chicks come over talking to you without you doing anything!”. By now I know by bars he meant beer bars and by girls working girls or to be more precise prostitutes since in the regular bars it’s still the man who is supposed to do the first step.

Generally, not always. You can still be flirting (in Thai “jìip”, จีบ) with the girl at the coffee shop without you actually knowing it. It’s just so much more easy to get in touch with the women here in everyday situations than it is back home and yes if she likes you she might also ask you first for your line or facebook contact but if you’re out in the bars and clubs it’s still the men who make the first move.

Do Thai Women Like to Lie?

The headline of this section could more appropriately be called “Why are Thai Women lying so much and easily?”. Because no one really doubts that the girls here like to lie in every other situation, sometimes without even having a reason for it.

Just a few days ago I told my girlfriend “hey, I didn’t know Jum (her friend) is single again. She said her guy had too many giks.” She laughed and said “no, she was just joking, they’re still together. He just picked her up from the shop last evening after work.” Then she explained me that if you have a conversation with a Thai (no matter whether male or female) and it’s not work-related, you can believe like 50% of what she or he says.

Why did she lie about that? I think this is because Thai people like everything that is associated with the verb “to play”: gin lên (eat for fun, snacking), dǝǝn lên (walk for pleasure), nâng lên (hanging out) and in this case the girl was pûut lên (พูดเล่น) – speaking for fun. Doesn’t really make sense does it but I don’t have a more appropriate translation for this term probably because that behavior is just not common in the western world and when someone does just that we would call it lying for no reason.

This article is getting quite long already and I still want to talk about a couple of other points so let’s finish this part with a short list of the most common reasons why Thai girls are lying to Farangs:

  • In order to avoid conflicts (don’t make anyone lose their face)
  • She’s too lazy for a discussion that will arise with telling the truth and thus takes a short cut by lying or also very common just changing the topic
  • Thai Women think that by ignoring a problem it will get solved by itself
  • Your girl thinks you wouldn’t understand as a Farang anyway
  • There is no reason at all

What do Thai Women Think?

That’s a good question. I don’t want to do the mind reader here but one thing is certain: Thai Women think a lot and all the time. Even when dancing in the club or while having sex, most of the time they’re unable of really living in the moment. A few days ago I was lying on the bed with my girlfriend watching an animal series and five seconds after she admired the penguins she was like “oh, I think the work schedule for next week is out” (she works rotating shifts at Chester’s Coffee).

I know this may not sound like the common thought of most westerners that Asians and especially Thai people enjoy their life how it is and don’t worry too much about problems or what might happen in the future, but in my opinion they do think and worry a lot more than we do. The difference is they just don’t talk about it all the time. And if they do then usually it’s their best female friend that they talk about how they really feel instead of their boyfriends.

Are Thai Women Hiding Their Real Face?

This brings us to the final point of this piece. And what I just explained should answer that question quite easily. Yes, it doesn’t take a lot of dates with a Thai girl to sleep with her but it will take a lot more than a few days, weeks or months until she really wants to talk with you as her boyfriend about what she really thinks and feels like.

I wouldn’t even say that’s negative, imagine it is the other way around like with our western women who pour out their heart relatively quickly and tell you all sorts of stuff you don’t even care about when she just wouldn’t “feel ready” to have sex with you for weeks.

I hope by now you have a better understanding of what Thai women are like and if you already knew before, than still thanks for reading all the way through and I guess you also agree with most of my points. Any way, this should be one of the best topics on Thailand Redcat for an open discussion so go down to the comment section and let us know what you think about what I just said. Or maybe you have some additional things to add that I didn’t mention here on the interesting topic of Thai women’s nature and habits.

About Redcat


Redcat lives his dream by living and traveling in Thailand. On Thailand Redcat he shares his experiences and advice to all aspects of (night)life in Thailand. Redcat is also fluent in Thai both spoken and written and is author of the books Thai Beginner’s Course and Thai Love Course.

38 Responses

  • Ryan says:

    No thanks the odds are not good, besides I don’t like to uneducated farmers, I prefer myself some Eastern asians, not bad hybrids

  • Kristina says:

    I am not into dating site nor any had interracial relationship before. But I fully understand why you thought that way about filipino women. I read a lot of blogs and even bad comments about Filipino women, I cannot blame as I know that they are just speaking through their experiences (bad experiences) but the few bad women don’t exactly represent the whole. There are still lot of women here who value trust, respect and truthfulness in a relationship. Though on the other hand, i dont fully agree on what Victoria says because anywhere there are bad and good women. Its not the race, the culture or education that affect their behavior but the upbringing of their parents. So when choosing someone to be your lifetime partner, try to see first her relationship with her family and with other people. Because what kind of person she is to others will definitely shows what kind of character she has.. Personality will be shapened up through good education but remember not all educated are well mannered.

  • lindsay says:

    Fella’s don’t be Gullible, no matter what Asian country, there are beautiful ladies all looking for a partner, many will do anything to connect as means of a passage to get out of their 3rd world country, and there are many decent/honest ladies prepared to stay in their own country. I’ve lived in the Philippines for more that 6 years, and I have seen all types. Even in OZ, there are some women you wouldn’t give the time of day. Be choosey, take you time, DON’T choose one with large age gap, don’t flash the coin around and perhaps you will end up with a partner for life, Good luck

  • Gerry says:

    No matter where they come from it takes a special man to stop a woman from fucking him over and a truck load of good luck

    • Mats says:

      Hi guys!
      Can someone help me out with my situation?
      I wonder if i’m being fooled, or if my situation is common amongst other thai/farang relationstips?
      I met my lady on thai cupid in september. After a few mail, she suggested LINE. There we have had daily contact and videochat. I made clear from the beggining i’m not a wealthy guy, and she says she have her own money. She asked if I talked to other girls, I didnt, and also ended my account at TC. She said I was the only one for her and that she had given up TC aswell. Yesterday I came home from visiting her for 2 weeks, and my impressions are a bit confusing.. for example
      -she wont let me be her friend on FB
      -from the things I can see on FB, it’s obviuos she dated at least 4 guys before me, with the same setup, visiting same places etc.
      -she is a single mom, never married (she says anyway)
      -hate her ex (kids father) and thai guys.
      -good english
      -own business but very small, and even then she has a luxuary condo, brand new SUV, jewellry, etc.. basically she must have more money than me!
      -she says she wants to get married, most important for her
      -and she wants a good father for her kid
      -before I went, she made clear: No sex! And i didnt get it.. but we had oral 3 times
      -we have 14 years age difference, and yes, she is really Beautiful.
      -she have never asked for money (yet) but of cource I paid for all during these days.

      I once read somewhere,, if it’s too good to be true? Then it is so! So my question is, someone out there who can set my mind on eace, and maybe give this a few months more? Or, should I end it quickly??
      Can also add, that next step is that she should come visit me with her kid.. although she says the kid has no passport.. so i’m thinking, ok, lets see if she works it out, and actually coming, or if the question about money for ticket will come up…

      Thankfull for any response

      • Alan Malone says:

        Got introduced to line myself this yr (1st time been Thailand in 6 yr). Met the most stunning woman I ever seen and seen many but as she a bar girl sadly I can never see a future as told me she never be able come England. Do hope all works out for best in end for you. I just reading other people’s comments why sort my head out as wanted get a loan and go off sick so could visit her in April.

      • Steveyam says:

        “-own business but very small, and even then she has a luxuary condo, brand new SUV, jewellry, etc.. ”

        Massive massive alarm bell. Of course they could be the spoils from a previous relationship, but she could be planning the same for you. Or they could be from another (current) relationship.

        I wouldn’t end it yet but I’d dig a whole lot deeper.

  • Victoria says:

    Marry a Filipina woman – loyal, hard working, highly educated, speaks English (fluently), family oriented, and beautiful. We always win the Miss Universe pageant. We have a temper ONLY IF you abuse us and go behind our backs. We earn our own money and don’t need a man to take care of us – all while taking care of the household chores.

    • lindsay says:

      My goodness Victoria, do you really expect people to believe what you wrote. I don’t believe there is much truth in any of your topics. 3rd largest English speaking country but not many speak fluent English. Family orientated and beauty, yes. Earn your own money, where and how you doing that? very few well paid work in the Phils. Trustworthy, No, Honest, No, Faithfull, No, Good cook, No, Texting/Social networking, Excellent, Shopping, Excellent, take advantage of Foreigners, Yes.Sadly I’ve spent too much time in the Philippines, and unfortunately married one

    • Steveyam says:

      I agree with lindsay. My last Filipina gf cheated on me while lying aswell about what she was doing (going away with her “cousin” for Easter….ahem!!).

      Agree with everything Lindsay says and nothing Victoria says.

    • Niki says:

      What ?? Bit of a weird thread isn’t it ? Your a Filipino ? But your on a site for wjat are thai women like .. ? Strange

  • Paul says:

    Guys… Any girl in the bar and club scene is trouble everywhere in the world. Stay away from these girls if you want a relationship! If she regularly drinks or parties, very bad news…

    I run day game in Thailand and go to shopping centres and get numbers. I find most of these girls don’t drink and have had less than 5 partners. These women are the for a relationship!! Very innocent and are good girls!!

    Bad idea to bring her back to the west cause Feminism is mainstream and toxic for their innocent soul!

  • HM says:

    I met this Thai lady aged 35 who was a performing artist (singing and dancing) in a very well-known big nightclub in my country. Not the coyotes or bar girls type in Nana/Sukhumvitk. We exchanged numbers on the 1st time we met as she was a friend of my friend’s Thai gf and we have been communicating daily via Line for a good 8 months. I have visited her in Thailand 3 times in this 8 months and herself 2 times in my country for holidays with her family. Myself, I am 40 and consider myself quite a looker with boyish young looks than my actual age (have been told I look more like 30) working as a director in an MNC.

    There is a nagging concern here that whatever we have is based on a transactional basis, goods and services exchange rather than an actual relationship, so I should be going with my gut instincts? Basically, she did not ask money for her sick buffaloes or sister/brother being hospitalised but will ask for luxury brands or shopping and the likes, in return, she really took care of me, washing, cooking, taking care of my needs as I am unable to speak a word of Thai. No sex yet as she gave me a long lecture into our 3rd month of courtship how she is a prim and proper lady and will not just sleep with someone she met and went on to say how her ex bf courted her for 9 months before they have sex and that she finally regarded him as a bf. It was because of this lecture that I actually respected her and court her like a lady. I have met all her family members except the matriach of the house. At times she will ask for money about 30K baht for her business that she is starting up or she will ask if I could help a little with her expenses for her orthondontic treatment which would cost about 50-60k baht over a period of 2 years.

    She is a Bangkok native, Chinese-Thai, very good command of English through sheer hardwork and diligence to strike it out on her own in a foreign country to earn enough keeps to set up her own business back in Bangkok. Her family all seems well to do, middle class family. Is this how dating a Thai girl works? Taking care means buying gifts, shopping sprees and air tickets to holiday with her family etc? Right now we are still in the ‘courting’ stage and I have said no to some of her requests which she was OK and did not throw up any fuss at all and will always apologise for requesting the monies and such. However it did make me feel bad for not helping her out or rejecting her requests. I have been testing her out and will continue to do so for as long just to make sure that she is in it for having a partner for life not just the monies or luxury items.

    It is my first time dating a Thai lady and has opened up a world of different cultures and just wondering if I should pursue on with this courtship, kind of getting impatient on the sex front (now I hope this does not make me like a sex fiend). She have stopped working the night life as she have done so for the past 7 years and have saved enough money to set up her own business(es). Any advise would be greatly appreciated.


    • professor says:

      She is full of shit. You don’t invest in ANY woman regardless of who her parents are or her ethnicity. A whore is defined by her nature. If you have to pay you better be getting some play. If it’s a serious relationship you’re looking for then be sure she will not ask for extravagances.

      And guys need to stop flashing their dough. It doesn’t impress women that you make good money. It only attracts gold diggers. Hey if she doesn’t know you make good coin and she still hangs out with you then maybe you’ve got something.

      Lastly if she’s not giving it to you she’s giving it to someone else. Women, like men, enjoy sex. There’s no way she’s waiting 9 months for a guy she’s horny for.

      Good luck!

  • Peron says:

    Okay … I have a Thai girlfriend and she confuses the hell out of me. First shock was discoving that giving her my contact information was equivant to asking her to marry me. It is now the weirdest relationship I have ever been in. I fly back and forth between Vancouver and Bangkok, we spend a couple of hours everydy talking on Line, and while she is not overly emotional and upfront about her feelings, I alwas know how she felt, until lately. The next time I go over, she has told me she wants me to stay with her, at her place. Okay! Sounds good, but now I am more confused than ever as now that I have agreed to stay there, the nature of our talks has changed. Rarely do I get an I miss you anymore, goodnights used to take forever, with all kinds of cute emojis being passed on. Now it feels like I have been married to her for 5 years. A couple of friends told me that when I gave her my email and facebook info after talking to her for a while, as I did like her and wanted to keep in touch, that she sized me up right then and there, and decided that I was the man for her (I am 58, she is 46). All that I had to do was realise that she was right, she is the woman for me. And just like that, her feelings and emotions are under lock and key and I am wondering what is going on … very confusing.

    Oh … and I know she lies to me, because I have caught her doing so. She is also is very good at avoiding the hard questions, like how much will the rent, electricity, water, internet, etc cost? I have had to confront her on a few things, gently, and it is amazing how easily she sidesteps an issue, and after all this time, spent on line and face-to-face, I have yet to really understand what she is thinking about. The only thing she has ever said to me about us is that she hopes we work out?!? Can anyone tell me what that means?

    Whatever, I have some better understanding of her now, reading this artical, and posts. This next year is going to be interesting.

  • Boxter says:

    If you must have a Thai partner, pick one with the same or higher education than yourself. I didn’t and I’m paying for it now.

  • Adam West says:

    My Thai wife (from near Phayao not Isaan… Phew!)) is 5 years older than me and we got married when I was 21. That was over 18 years ago and we have an excellent relationship. Yes she worked in a bar but was not one of those actively seeking customers/clients and I did not pay her anything etc… It was love at first sight so to speak and I also did not pay her father any cash either or ask his permission to marry. We did it informally at a registry office and that was it.. No ceremony, no reletives..(sweet)
    She doesn’t lie but at times just delays telling me when she knows she’s done the wrong thing. She has to work and does a lot as we live in Oz and have investments. The kids are nearly finished high school so we are working towards a healthy retirement..
    She gets western concepts and gets angry when some of her friends do stupid stuff with money and their husbands trust etc…There are issues as in any marriage but Thais seem to exaggerate these such as staying angry for weeks and not talking where as I stay angry for a few minutes..

    There is one thing which is hard to convince them of and that is family… Luckily she has only her father and one sister, and she’s not interested in the rest of her extended family.

    My marriage is successful and we are a team and Thai women are very feminine which is what men like.. But they can be extremely self centred as well but also hard working but lazy in some respects. They don’t seem to be driven to be successful in a western sense but rather more so for there family such as parents and siblings who just can’t make it happen.

    I could go on but that would require more space than here…. cheerio

  • Thai women says:

    Nobody is perfect!
    We are all different.

    “Love ” is not a formula that will give only one answer!

  • Nuad says:

    Sometimes love can happen. .

    But she must have business , and you guys must have plan together.

    My fiancee, from Isan gave me 50% of her shop , we did papers with lawyers and witnesses.

    We will get married when it is correct time.

    It is hard to be in relation with bar girls , it really is.

    You will pay forever.

    Best thing to do, like my Norwegian freind did, he meet one girl who was working in bar, they had feelings for each, loved each other. .and just took her to his country. The end.

    If you will be with bar girl, trust me, it is hard to trust them , unless you are friggin handsome and visit like every month or 2 and pay her at least 30-40 thousand Bhat per month.

    If you really want to marry a girl, say Isan girl, then go in Isan villages and marry one.

    So, conclusion:

    Relation can work if she have business.


    Take her to your country if she is a bar girl.


    Go to the villages and marry real girl.

    Best women in the world hands down, even the prostitutes climax easly becuase no girls like them in the world.

    Bad things about Thai women:

    1-Over over jealousy.
    2-Worry about ur feeling to the point of getting tired.
    3-When they get angry, they can be aggressive.
    4- Can’t trust any, I mean any Thai girl that drinks alcohol, so no Alcohol.
    5- Get drunk easy and get crazy with mao , meaning drunk.

  • Gojira says:

    Hm I actually met a bar girl. It was difficult at first, because she lied a lot at first, and the first time she was very eager in getting me to pay for all sorts of things. I thought that it would be over when i got home. But then we talked and i promised her to come back. She was even crying in front of me.
    We talked over skype everyday for a few months and slowly as she became better at english i liked her more and more. 3 months later I came back and we visited her family. She still lied but didn’t like ask for money anymore as she saw that I did not approve. Instead she didn’t tell me that her family didn’t have enough money for food. I saw it though, but she was scared I would leave her. I didn’t love her though. I told her that I thought we should break up as I saw some of her darker sides. Hitting her siblings. we were also so far apart. She became devastated. She told me that for my sake she would leave now. But I told her I still wanted to talk to her. And then I decided on the plane home that I would still stay with her, and for some reason she was happy. She didn’t care if I was in Thailand or Denmark, as long as I was her boyfriend.
    I’m btw 100 % sure she haven’t cheated, as i can talk to her whenever i like.

    Now I’m thinking of going back again. She still have desire for me to pay for things. Also a bit too much, but she genuenly cares for me. I’m happy with her. It’s not perfect but she is interesting and very caring about everyone.

    My point is: My current girlfriend started out as a typical bargirl, who had crush on me, and as time went she became more and more sensible and she fell in love with me. But she started out a typical bar girl.

  • Calum says:

    I don’t know what kind of Thai girls you have been dating but my experience is very different. My Thai girl friend is a nurse and works in Bangkok. She lives a very strict, honest and faithful life. She never asks me for money and once when she needed medical treatment it was a real struggle for me to get her to take money to pay for a scan she needed. I even offered a buy her second hand laptop and bring it from the UK on my next visit and her reply was I do not need charity. She sends half her wages home to her mother every month to take care of her mum, grandma and younger brother who is still at school.

    She does not lie to me and is very straight talking but has a good heart also. She even refused my help when I offered to help get a wheel chair for her 90 years old Grandma who can’t walk very good now. She told me it was her family and she would manage and take care of them and did not need my money. She is a proud lady and sacrifices many things for the sake of her family.

    • Steve says:

      Your getting set up mate there are none that don’t see Ferlang as money. Granny 90 in a wheelchair would be cheaper to take her out fishing what aged 90 she overdue for the box old son lol to hell with the relatives they only cost you money ! and there is too many of the bastards . Fugg em !! Do what I did marry 1 only not the 48 relies all on the lamb no balls to that my god never never they are not really such good wives they really are not they too uneducated to life itself , mine is 41 with the. Education of a person 14. And that’s being generous ! Very backward after being there for years I can’t say I’ve ever met one that could count to 59 many faults with them I can’t say I find them interested in paying their own way in life ! They want to pay for their lives ! I should married decent euro woman that’s for sure

    • John says:

      After reading all these posts yours was a breath of fresh air, I’m in the beginning stages of a relationship with a Thai girl from C.M. she seems really sweet and a little shy, I wish you the best because she looks like a woman you can devote yourself too which is really hard too find, cheers

  • JohnBoy says:

    This is a good topic to read.I have a Thai gf for the last 6 months( I am in Canada).
    She is cute,loving and very good ☆☆☆☆……Almost everything I read in this article is true…now she keeps telling me to understand her……I was lost as to what she meant after we’ve done everything…..this article helped me “understand her” change in attitude with me.

  • Roland says:

    I have lived i Thailand for more then five years and I enjoy bar life so I think I have some experience. (I have maybe more than 800 bargirls since 1988). I believe that the majority of the “bar girls” don´t have to do that work. most girls don´t want to work many hours i a factory for small money and many don´t mind to have sex. On the contrary. Most of them will tell you what they think you want to hear. I have sometimes come very closed with girls that speaks very open (to open) why and how they feel about their “work”. One go go-girl told me she have orgasm with 20% of her customers (if he is nice, not to drunk and, an advantage if big dick. If to big, more than 22 she don´t let him penetrate! :)) ). I don´t think a western girl going for a one night stand can looking forward to the same. Many “bar girls” ARE genually horny or
    don´t mind and don´t se sex for money so serious.That´s why they go for free if they like you, handsome and young sometimes. They get bigger face in the bar if a popular guy chose them.

    Believe me. But it doesn’t mean everybody is same.

  • Bob Voorhees says:

    Many Thai women are “bar girls” because they have to be. The “safety net” is thin in Thailand and many of the men are self-focused. The vast majority of the Thai women I have met (ones over 30) are gentle, sweet, slow-to-anger, a bit shy, and kind. A man looking for a wife couldn’t find a much better place. Chances are, if you wish to speak English with her, you will need to teach her. Avoid living too near her relatives. Be a gentleman. If she seems overly concerned with money, you know what to do.

  • marmot says:

    I’ve been married for 10 years to a well educated (computer engineer with master’s degree) Bangkok woman who is 25 years younger than myself. We met in Thailand. We ended up traveling to 12 other 3rd world countries for several years. Having met several of her friends and knowing another 2 farang/Thia couples, I’m not convinced that there is one catch all phrase to describe Thai women. They seem as varied as westerners. I have heard of gold diggers here, but also seen that in the U.S. I was married for 21 years in the U.S. to a U.S. woman, and we parted as friends.
    Also, having spoken to a U.S. attorney here who handles many marriage requests from farang, I’m not at all convinced that its necessary to pay money to most Thai parents when marrying their daughter. My wife’s parents are not rich, and initially asked for a large amount of money, but I flatly had my wife tell them that we needed the money to live (true), and they accepted that. I’m sure that some Thai’s would refuse marriage without money, but the attorney said that a small amount should suffice. My wife is more careful with money than I am.
    That’s my story, and many are different, but we are happy.

  • I’m 68 years old and have spent most of my life working and living abroad. I have had many Thai ladies as GF’s you treat them with respect they treat you with respect. I have friends that have been married to Thai gals for 45 years and no problems. Thai ladies are like any ladies you get back exactly what you put into a relationship. There is no double standard when it comes to relationships, if you cheat they will cheat, if you’re cheap they will be cheap, if you’re not a loving mate they will not be a loving mate. Simple facts of life.

  • Thai women says:

    this kind of rubbish article…come on !!!there are over 70 million thai ppl in country..cannot just just all thai women they will have same stereotype….I nv judge farang also…but I knew there’s a lot of farang bird-shit lol

  • K says:

    It’s difficult for a American woman to play the same roles as they did in the fifties as suggested. Men don’t act like men anymore. They all need to be babysat and it seems that they want a submissive woman and a mommy at the same time. You try that.. Never to step up to the plate they want a personal lover and a breadwinner and a woman that will stroke his ego that much more to feel like a man. I think Western men or farangs love the lying as they (generalization) all seem to think its okay.. What happen to acting like a man in order to being treated like one. More and more I see men taking less responsibly and women taking on more.. I guess it’s expected that western women should just oblige… There are many factors of why men love Thai women I think and some has to do with preference, there own personal imbalance, lack of wanting to make any effort and a few more obvious reasons. Which is fine, everyone is different but quit making Western women the excuse as to why you really like having a 12 year old girlfriend. (though this is not true with everyone) I think the Thai culture is friendly and it’s a great place to visit or live for awhile for that matter. If a man or a farang as you call it wants to go to Thailand to find a woman that’s old fashion and more nurturing , so he will be able to pay the bills because the cost of living is so low, that’s one thing, but I find that everyone looks for Thai girls and always has something negative to say about western women as they are always being compared to one another. As if dating a Thai woman is a reaction. I personally couldn’t tolerate half what those thai ladies get dished out but they are probably unaware of whats going on seeing as how there is a language barrier.. And you wonder why they don’t respect men.. They have an acceptable culture where women are validated by men (we all need a little validation) unfortunately it usually means for survival.. Some of the Thai people that I have met have been try obliging and are looking for love – whatever that definition is – Once in awhile, I am sure they find good men and men find good Thai women.. Leave Western women out of it because you failed with them and its obviously their fault in your eyes because that is what the west male population does is point their finger at everyone else.. I don’t know when that started but it did. Hey whatever makes them happy it’s a different culture. We definitely live in a paternalistic world.. It’s illogical and selfish.

    • RH8X says:


      Thanks for validating my lifelong observations of western women. Unrealistic and Unreasonable!!


      Happy in Singapore!!

    • Bill says:

      Another Angry American women with a chip on her shoulders. Very passive aggressive, no one here was asking for her opinion.

    • Mike miller says:

      Lady you are mostly wrong. I am a 50 year old man still in America and never been to Asia but I can tell you as a old fashion guy who believes in working hard, paying all the bills and treating women with the utmost dignity and respect. I have dated to many women to count and been married twice and I can tell you statistically that American women are for sure – like spoiled children. They want a man who looks like a man but acts like a pussy. American women just want to be spoiled with no accountable for their childish actions. They are also hypocritical. Example :If they put a man in his place it’s needed but if we try to put them in their place we are sexist pigs. I’m done with them. Men are looking for women in Third World countries because were simply tired of the American woman and her liberal Ways. Don’t get me started.

  • steve says:

    Good post this here yes lot of strange mentality in Thai women, my wife is Thai I’ve been married for a long time but I tell you what, you need to be a Philadelphia lawyer to work them out.
    A lot of points to remember with Thais well I don’t keep the family” monies no not my job I’m Australian and its not our culture to provide for the rellies all on the lamb.

    My wife is good though she has adopted a few Aussie ways she says f—k the rellies if they want a quid go to work same as we do , everybody’s in charge of their own destiny! Thais have a hunger for money but mostly that’s because idiot ferlangs trying to buy love – it don’t work.

    Westerners with Thais I give some advice , never say to them you have a quid and never pay more fore life than what’s needed day to day, don’t be a mug fall for the me want house me want land new car, do what I did I said to mine I have no interest in material crap or being in dep’t and more so in a country where legally I cant own it anyway. so I said you want such things then you go buy em, not me at 58 I’m not interested being tied to a stupid house . My wife replied fair enough its your money, not mine!

    Many comments on here are close to right , I live by the rule he whom pays for life makes rules if I’m paying its done my way , she pays by all means ill toe her line. One thing I don’t agree with , that’s time her to you no i find overall they have little time for the man,mostly when it suits them I find them quiet ignorant very very uneducated. In ways of business they don’t have a clue and unless you do business by western formula,well you just go broke.

    Thai women overall very scatterbrain, many have no idea what they want in life.
    Do they lie a lot well my wife does not il say that for her – and I think mines a bit out of the square as she has no time for Thais and even less time for what she refers too as the ”beggar ferlangs’ I’ve often said my love what are beggar ferlangs ???

    wife said ferlang not comes from Australia , England , Canada, Scotland, and maybe 1 or 2 other decent countries, this beggar ferlang.

    She stated my country now it full of trash ferlangs it become the garbage tip of the world , have to admit in part I do agree with her / Nothing worse than roaming a street, and its full of $2,50 drunken euro ferlangs all with hard luck stories —- they all rip themselves off !!!

    I think the greatest and most important point of taking on a Thai woman is this ………….never even contemplate taking one on that’s polluted … in other words one that’s ever been before with another ferlang because that’s pollution , gee id never tolerate that in life ”I mean how rude is that” nothing worse than a second hand rose’ ‘And never ever allow them to have any men friends, unless you know them and its by your approval.

    Married women in western countries even 70% sincere don’t bring other men to the relationship anyway why would it be needed . My wife lives to the letter as to what I say here she’s happy we never have a problem.

  • TT says:

    I liked this article as I am getting to know more Thai women. So far with my limited experience with three Thai women here in Australia: They seem strong in their personalities & opinions (yet they are easy going), they always have good hygiene, they all wish they had a much fairer complexion, they are quite organised & tidy with their home life…AND they seem to make real effort to have quality time with their partner. It is like they are raised to know that they need to contribute to life & to their relationship like the people years ago were raised — everyone has their bit to look after to keep life moving nicely forward…no matter what that bit may be. This is what I believe western culture has sadly lost now-a-days with both Western men and women to blame for the “disposable” nature of life & relationships. One question that I would like your guidance on: Is alcoholism a challenge in Thai culture as it is in the West?

  • crypti@yahoo.com says:

    they look like cryptkeepers too! amazing lookalikes, watch Tales of a cryptkeeper!

  • thibault says:

    yes this article deserves more comment. i ll do.

    interesting to see your mom stayeds at home. this is typically more common in germany.makes people think they ll introduce more feminism to rise the unemployment number. anyway with the reducing income, you ll need twoi salaries soon enough.

    sinsod deserves its own article. most will say you to not pay it, but if you re confronted to it (matrrying a isaan bargirl…) its probably too late.

    on lying, well, you re german. lying is typical of an eastern/ attitude.this pervades our society now. basically, they re telling you if you believe their lies you re to blame, still westerners (natives…) are weak.

    on thinking, oh god, i really think they live in the absolute present like a goldfish, probably bargirls are more subjetc to that though.

    on thai women speaking about uninteresting things to you: thats when you re a friend for them. if they are interested, they just want it now. and most of the time, men are worth jackshit for them: friend.

    all in all, what you basically describe most of the time is: thai girls are more traditional, and, well girls. this should never change and we better avoid lobotomised westerners that want woemn to be men, stockholm syndrome style.

    • maniack says:

      hehe yes lobotomised men in the west are ruled by women alas…
      to see sturcture of western society 50 years ago one must look at countries like russia, bulgaria, ukraine or romania where many is fully in charge of the house money job ect..

      these countries women western men laust after because of greater family harmoney and more female..

      western lady is mannish..

      about lying .. yes it is a tradition of asia.. even japan lying it is out of control… and everybody just ignore it.

      i noticed though in thailand thai men are controled by the women .. thai woman control the money… control the social activity.. ect.. but the thai many have many tricks how to get free from this :P

      one problem though is thai woman dont respect men.. so this can lead to many conflicts with men from more traditional cultures.. for exampe central asia.. middle east.. eastern europe.. ect..

      thai lady has a sharp tongue and to many opinions when they are not required :D

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