Having Sex With A Thai Bar Girl

Last updated: September 11th, 2017 | in Thai Girls

Every year thousands of airplanes land on Thailand’s airports and they are packed with single men of all ages or men in unhappy relationships or marriages. When they get asked by people back in their home countries what they like about Thailand and why they are going there for holiday every year the answer usually goes like the beaches are so nice, it’s always warm and Thai people are so friendly.

What they are not telling is the main reason for coming to Thailand and that’s because of Thai girls. Some are just out for sexual adventures while others are looking for a girlfriend or wife but what most of them have in common is they go for bar girls. I’d say more than 80 percent of the foreign men coming to Thailand (who are not in healthy relationships) are having sex with a Thai bar girl or any kind of Thai hooker – and out of all these guys not more than 10 percent would admit that to their friends back home.

Sex with Thai Bar GirlA lot of foreigners don’t even want to call them “prostitutes” because they think it’s just so different here in Thailand where you can pay for a girl the first time then get her phone number and arrange the second date for free and the only thing you have to pay for is dinner and whatever she randomly picks up at the 7 eleven while you go buy the condoms. Thai bar girls don’t make you feel bad and guilty by what you are doing, they even give you the feeling that they really like you – which is actually no lie in most cases.

If you haven’t made any experiences with Thai bar girls yet, maybe you haven’t even been to Thailand – this is how you hook up with a Thai bar girl. If you have, just skip reading the following four paragraphs.

You walk into a go go bar or beer bar and take a seat. If you come without female company it will not take long until one of the girls spontaneously comes over to you (not the one that takes your order) or you make eye contact with one of them and when you return her smile she will come over. Standard what she says is like “Hi what your name where you from you come to Thailand for holiday I like you you buy me drink?”

By “drink” she means lady drink and this is one of the three sources of income for bar girls in Thailand and the only reason they call it like that is because these drinks are more expensive than drinks for the customers at around 150 Baht (and her share is around 50%, if at all, usually it’s 50-70 Baht) usually no matter if she orders coke or tequila. It will not take more than five minutes for the girl to ask for a lady drink and then usually for a second one before she asks you where you stay and if you want to go to your place together.

There comes the second and most significant part of the Thai bar girl’s income: her price for sex. You have usually two options: Short time, means one shot and for about one or two hours and long time, means several shots and she stays with you until breakfast the following day (or brunch). Short time is between 1,000 and 2,500 Baht and long time between 2,000 and 4,000 Baht. Some girls let you make an offer and just ask “how much you give me” and when you arrange say 1,000 Baht (and she likes you) she sleeps at your place anyway – unless you tell her to leave after which is absolutely fine.

You also have to pay the bar fine (between 500 and 1,000 Baht), that’s the money you pay to the bar so you are allowed to take the girl outside – and it doesn’t include the girl’s share. The third source of income for a Thai bar girl is her salary which is usually quite low if she gets any at all at around 6,000 Baht per month.

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Once it’s time for the girl to leave your place (or short time hotel which are numerous all over Thailand and rooms cost between 300 and 500 Baht for one or two hours) she usually gives you her phone number or other contact detail if you ask her for it. Like this you can arrange to meet and fuck her again before she starts or after she finishes work or on her day off (they usually get 3 days off per month, if she takes more the bar will cut her salary).

Like this a lot of foreigners initially see their new Gik as a cheap and fun fucking friend, but then after a while they start developing feelings for her. “She doesn’t ask for money anymore”, is what they often think but then forget that she will be gone once the restaurant bills, transportation, accommodation, little presents etc. aren’t paid for or provided anymore.

You see a lot of these couples walking hand in hand around town and the guy proudly showing her off like a trophy when the more experienced foreigners and locals are just shaking their heads or making fun of them. The market of prostitution for Thai men is far bigger than for foreigners but Thai men would never let anyone see them hanging out with a hooker or walking around with her in the shopping mall as it would totally damage their reputation.

A lot of foreigners even go as far as marrying bar girls and / or taking them to their home countries – but that should be a different story.

Many foreigners don’t know what differentiates a good Thai girl from a bad Thai girl.

It’s not just the newbies to Thailand but even a lot of expats that live here for years and just don’t get out of the bars of Nana, Pattaya and Patpong. Often they think it’s just so much more easy and fun to hang out with the bar girls instead of making some effort to learning Thai and approaching a girl with an ordinary job.

But maybe another reason why a lot of foreigners fall in love with a bar girl too easily and then they don’t get to learn Thai is because the Thai bar girl’s English is generally decent – at least better than the standard office girl’s – and bar girls are too lazy to teach you Thai anyway, often they don’t even want their Farang boyfriend to speak Thai so they can continue gossiping about him with their friends right in front of his face.

If you have just a couple of Thai girl friends with normal jobs like most expats in Thailand do using Thai Cupid, even uni girls that do no sideline and learn to speak Thai you will easily be able to tell the difference between a good and bad Thai girl not only by how they are speaking but also by how they behave.

One easy, obvious but true thing even beginner students of the Thai language can watch out for is how regularly she uses the polite particle “ka”. Bar girls use it very rarely while Thai girls with a good character do use it in every other sentence – especially when talking to strangers and getting to know new people.

Are Thai bar girls bad girls?

It’s important to know that there is only one reason why Thai girls decide to work in the bar: Because they come from very poor families with the majority from the northeastern region of Thailand (Isaan) and so they are working not just to support themselves but basically the whole family. Does this make them bad girls? I’d say no. You just have to be honest with yourself and don’t believe them too easily that they really like you because it’s their job to make you feel that way so they can get at your money.

Of course there are always exceptions and you can have a successful long term relationship with a Thai bar girl though you have to be aware that you are most likely supporting her financially all the time because she hasn’t got a CV to apply for a normal job (except if you buy her a Thai restaurant or massage shop here or in your home country – but then it’s also you who makes all the investments and owns the business so she is kind of your employee that way). Or maybe you are just lucky enough to find a girl who just started to work in the bar recently.

Well that’s a lot of different thoughts on this hot topic. I know there is so much more to write and discuss about but I think that should be enough for now, I’m curious how you see the whole Thai bar girl topic and look forward to reading your comments on this. Well, one more thing before that:

Is Sex With Thai Bar Girls Safe?

Thailand is among the countries that have the highest rates of people infected by the HIV virus. Obviously the majority of these people are working in the “entertainment industry”. So don’t even think about having sex with a Thai bar girl without using a condom. Every 7-Eleven in Thailand has a wide selection of condoms right at the cashier for as low as 35 Baht for a package of three.

Speaking about safety in terms of the bar girl stealing from you, this is usually not a risk if you pick up the girl from a go go bar where she is employed at so you know where to find her in case there are problems – and she knows that too. It’s a different story with freelancers and it does happen regularly and in a lot of different ways that these Thai girls steal money from foreigners.

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103 Comments on "Having Sex With A Thai Bar Girl"

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Big Tony
Big Tony
Having seen things from the other side as a former bar owner, I think there are really two sides to the coin. First, many of these ladies are there to earn money (or marry a farang = same thing) and people delude themselves that this is not the case and even marry them. Many work there because they do not have the brains, the sense of responsibility or the willingness to hold a real job for long. They are like children in that way. This is why they call each other ‘dek’ meaning ‘kid’. When they go with a customer… Read more »
Pigus
Pigus
No experience win Thailand, but some in Philippines. Life’s a bitch everywhere if you are poor, so there are similarities. I did the round of dating sites (52 at the time) and met some good friends and had a good web-chat time with many. Then I decided to go a step further and arranged to meet up with three of them in Phils. Of the three, I knew one, Ash, had been a bar girl and was barely surviving on web cam work now that she had a kid. The second, Mitch, was a married and separated web chat girl… Read more »
Martin
Martin
Hello, I have read all the comments and I agree with many of although the experiences are varied. I am from the UK, working in the Middle East & recently divorced, I am 61 yrs old, slip and fit. I did the round of bars in Bangkok, then decided to join Thai Cupid. I communicated with a 36 yr old lady in Phitsanulok went to meet her and fell in love. She is a country girl never sold herself for sex, had Thai husband who gave her two children then fucked of and never saw them again. I can sympathize… Read more »
Shaun
Shaun

There are some really good comments on here. Interesting to hear the different experiences.
I think bar girls are not much different to other gals: Some are very good, some are terrible.
That guy on here who said to be polite and kind and to shave is good advice.

Also not to smoke and try to stay fit, although in my experience Thai girls don’t mind guys a bit overweight if they are handsome.

I think for guys 50+ if they want to find a bar girl to be a GF it’s better to find one over 30. Just my opinion.

Shaun
Shaun

You can have a Thai GF but only spend what you can afford to lose. That goes for a bar girl or ordinary Thai ( or any Asian ) girl.

These men who buy them houses in the countryside and cars etc are just fucking stupid. Have a short term Asian GF for two or three months, fuck her two or three times each week,move on.

Jey
Jey
I was 26 and had been living in the Pattaya area for nearly 4 years but 2 of those were in an unhappy relationship. After I ended that relationship, I went on a sex rampage in single man’s Disneyland. I signed up for a dating website, downloaded Tinder and Badoo as well as visited the occasional bar or gogo girl on weekends when I had no other plans. All in all, over the next six months I banged about 30 girls aged from 18-40. I learned to build a rapport with any bar/gogo girl before leaving with them. Have fun… Read more »
Thai girl
Thai girl

I hope you dirty men to have HIV and enjoy sex with that kind of women. I believe there are many Thai girls are smart and intelligent. Prostitution is small population. Don’t even think to all Thai girls.

Northerner
Northerner
A lot of funny comments here about bar-girls and love. Hmm, never used these two words in the same sentence before. I have only one wish when it comes to Thailand and fun. I’m old, passed 50 some years ago and even if I look ok I never think any bar-girl of 25 will ever think of me any other way tahn a walking wallet. So my philosophy is to stay calm, have fun as many years ahed I can – and when I’m not longer in shape to have sex with a beautiful bar-girl I will buy 10-15 pills… Read more »
Lardy
Lardy
Just read your comments still laughing now, how so true your words are about bar girls,lovely beautiful things they are, but just keep it light and fun, that’s what you learn after many years coming to the Land of smiles ha!! I Love Thailand, feel so at home there,peaceful and calm if you can drag yourself away from the the bars, I spend alot of time in Lamai/samui I find it a good mix of girl bars and peaceful beaches to chill on, and when that day comes I hope this is where I watch the last sunset with a… Read more »
Janne Andersson
Janne Andersson
I’m 30 years older then my little go go girl. I have feelings for her. I lived in Bkk for almost 5 years. She gives me good sex and I think she also enjoys it. She’s totally honest I think in many ways. She like her “work” and most customers she enjoy having sex with. She even say she have orgasm with more than 20%. She say she prefer white middle aged white males. If she like the customer and “feel good” and he have a big dick – 19 to 23 cm – she comes more easily (I’m smaller).… Read more »
fresh
fresh
Coming to Thailand since ’91… Back then i was a handsome young bloke (27 yo). Lived at Bang Saphaan and Thap Sakae. Banged 25+ local girls (not hookers) but never comitted to one. Am 53 yo old now and 13 years together with farang woman (aged 41). She gave me great sex as well as intellectual input. I could never stay any longer than 1 shot (ie. 3 minutes) with a Thai girl. Their bodies are heaven (at least 15% of them; the rest is obese these days or unfit), and they do whatever u ask them (licking asshole kha?… Read more »
Loony
Loony
Visited Thailand in 1995 as a 21 year old, felt embrassesed back home being with LBFMPBR ( beautiful girls ) I got involved with a westerner. 14 years later that hoare has cost me half a million dollars. 12.5 million baht. Stole my 11 year old daughter. Still going through Court. As a male nurse after separation l have listened to many dying soles. My understanding is! Life is all about company and sex. Being honest to yourself. fuck the rest, if they care they will not care. It is what is Is. At 42, my dollar will be converted… Read more »
ben
ben
yep that’s the western world off today. getting married and starting a family isn’t a good idea in the western world. western society is totally gynocentric. the laws are staked against men. and feminist have brainwashed all the women too a point that there’s just no living with them. just go mgtow and you’ll be much happier. have some fun on holidays in thailand or move there. good luck with fighting for your daughter man. hope you have better luck then most in your position. this is wy i advice all young men to avoid women in the western world… Read more »
Niki
Niki
There are lots of different story’s on here… Good bad and ugly… Saints and sinners… We go over there looking for one thing no matter what you tell your wide or girlfriend or family I’m soul searching I’m exploring what I didn’t in my youth I’m fishing I’m seeing the jungle… Bulls hit your going over there because of one thing young and old thin and fat ready available girls at a drastically reduced price to the rest of the western hemisphere where the price of an escort for one hour can buy you two days with one of these… Read more »
Robert
Robert

yup, you have seen it too. I have been told that many of the girls have one or two daughters and the father leaves to try for a son with another woman (or he just leaves anyway..). Daughters cannot look after you in old age, so many men just abandon their wife/girlfriend. Truly the most despicable thing a man can do to a woman – and his own blood. In my instance the aunt took the daughter in, but the mother is expected to pay for the upkeep and education of the children.

Robert
Robert
Yet another story ! Guys I went to Thailand only because the flight to Bali was cancelled due to a volcanic ash cloud. Phuket, the Jetstar agent said, OK then. So I went to Kata beach away from the madness in Patong. I did not want to meet a girl in a bar and kept away from them. Walked up and down the roads in Kata beach and found the prettiest masseuse and went in. Met this girl, sweet and very beautiful, I asked for a happy ending and she said yes. I said no, I will see you after… Read more »
dantes
dantes

Every single working girl in Thailand had a sob story life by Western standards. If they didn’t. They wouldn’t be working girls. Pay for the immediate service. If she wants something for not -dump her and I promise there are thousands more even better waiting

Michael
Michael

Love this post.

Rollo
Rollo
I had I fun gogo as company for four month and paid her well. I beleive the start to have feelings real. I’m not naive and spend more than five years in Thailand since 1988. I’m 56 and she was 27. Found her in a gogo bar. My mistake was I started to have feelings. First time with a gogo girl. I offered her pay for a good education to be a cook. Not interested. She loved or liked her work. She didn’t enjoy fuck all customers but mostly felt ok. She even told me that she have orgasm with… Read more »
Jim
Jim
I had one gogo I know for long time also. She said if she drunk and have some “feeling” she enjoyed the sex. In 50 guys for 6 months she had orgasm with 25. No reason for her to lie to me at all because she know I can never accept o have a gf that is a whore. She spoke also very open, maybe because I never show I felt disgusted and a little jealous. She didnt like younger than 40 because “they wanna fuck to many times”. She also admit she come more easy if big dick over… Read more »
PB
PB
This has been a great lunch read for me, I love the infomation on this site and the comments are such a varation of ideas, Sad, confused, used , loved , scammed the list goes on,and it’s all GREAT. I don’t want to sound as though I know it all I DO NOT, but if we look at bar girls, freelancers or even dating site girls (not all the girls, but some), they are all trying to secure a future whilst there are still able, think about it when the beauty is gone so is the earning potential. So if… Read more »
Stephen
Stephen
Every situation is different, you shouldn’t judge from your own history of relationships even with Thai girlfriends. There are good and bad and even mad, you might be the same? I have met bar girls more honest than many supposed moral western women, more kind, caring empathetic and less interested in money, I have also met the master manipulator experienced pros. You need to understand Thai culture, it is very different, love is actually the same there as the West for females it is about a reliable, supportive partner who cares for their emotional wellbeing, yes this does involve financial… Read more »
DJombo
DJombo
Heya, I visited Patong Beach in July 2016. Good friend and me went to Bangla Road and on first evening I met this bar girl. She was really friendly and pretty, I got her a few lady drinks and we just talked and played bar games. The next evening we went to the same bar, I got wasted, she got wasted, we kissed and cuddled and she gave me her contact info. Next day we were chilling at the pool and she asked me what I was doing, I told her to come to my hotel and relax at the… Read more »
Shakermaker
Shakermaker

Dude, you’re just one of many Western guys she has wrapped around her little finger. They pretend to like you, its what Thai girls are good at. She bangs probably 20 guys a week and thinks nothing of it.

Michael
Michael

Dump and burn bro. Youve had your holiday fun leave it at that.She’s sending those very same sweet emails and pics to a lot of guys for cash and prizes. you don’t really think she’s your for real gf do you? Wake up!!

Rollo
Rollo

When you’re away she fuck others. Sex doesn’t matter much to them. If you send her money she doesn’t have to fuck ugly guys but young handsome for free. And get big face with friends. Believe me.

Pdaddy
Pdaddy
Wow i read this string and i must say im even more intrigued to get my 6 foot 4 frame bald head and 2000$ or so montly budget working for me! Heading apparently to soap opera land for some, and bliss for everyone else…..i havent read alot of posts of guys having a bad time so thats a good thing… I think ill check out thai cupid(even though its not free and some scammers it seems on there)and the bar scene of course….Would anyone reccommend a particularly fun and beautiful area for this? Seems like Cambodia could be good less… Read more »
PB
PB

Hey Paddy, my Irish cousin and I just came back, met a girl from Thai Cupid and only went sight seeing with her. Mate I wasn’t back a day when I got a FR on Facebok andI didn’t tell her my last name ?. Just be careful with that shit it can fuck you up. Bar girls are more fun and harmless. Enjoy

Snorbollen Cavallin
Snorbollen Cavallin

My Cambodian girlfriend who used to work at Ibar as a freelancer and only had western boyfriends, three or four at least. She’s the real thing. Even though she has low education it’s Sweden so once we pop out a few babies I can get benefits.

Live@BKK
I’m Thai and I have to say you are quite full of knowledge. When I have sex with women that is not my wife, I always wear condom. Keep that in mind every time when you have sex with someone else other than your wife. But then again I don’t even have a girlfriend so wear condom every time is a must. If you mistaken have sex without using condom then you need to do a HIV check which is very scary and I can say it is not a pleasant experience. (I once have to do HIV check because… Read more »
Michael
Michael

Durex 56 is a nice fit.

Newbi
Newbi
Update: So after 5 months I went back to Thailand for a holiday. By now over this girl as a fond memory but still hating the way we ended, it bothered me still. So I met with her just from my own curiosity as I’m in Thailand (What can I say I’m a sucker for an emotional roller coaster). Anyway bottom line was she was fine, same girl I meet before. Cold/ hard at first then normal girl again the next day. One night she gets very drunk and tells me although she really did like me because she’d never… Read more »
Steve
Steve
Hey Luke, Have you been reading my diary? That sounds so much like my first Thai GF. Let me just say it did not end well. Took me 18 months and 800,000 baht before I realized I was being scammed. I think she might have loved me but I think she loved my money even more. Almost word-for-word your story was my story, even the passport, visa and heading back to marry me in Australia. The only difference is that I DID SEND HER money every month. 20k baht a month plus heaps and heaps of extras. She was also… Read more »
Tam Tam
Tam Tam

Steve, marry her!!! Look, you probably only have 15 good years left and 25 years to live. She knows she will be still be young enough at 45 to continue to enjoy her life with another guy long after you’re gone. My husband is 30 years older than me and I am faithful and honoring him now because I will live comfortably when I reach old age because of his generosity and love.

Insei
Insei
Hi there and sorry in avance for my poor english. I’m just surprised that no one ever bring the question I am about to ask on thé table. I’m obviously not talking about guy like …. well … ‘guy’ because he is kind of the worst in my opinion but about you guys who are 45, 50, 60 or more. When you are falling in love for a girl 20 years younger than you (or more), did you ever ask yourself the question : Would I date à girl 20 years older than me even if she looks not bad… Read more »
Stephen
Stephen

Excellent mail and comments. I am guessing you might be a Thai female? You are balanced and polite despite some awful comments on here. I sadly enjoy reading them as they are a little bit addictive. People judge too much, was impressed you didn’t and sought to get people to understand

Jeff Mills
Jeff Mills
you have many good points–BUT—i remember when i was in my 20s and i knew a thai lady who was 20 years older than me and i would of done anything she wanted—i was her boy toy–when her 50+ year old lady friend came to stay for several months—i slept in the middle— this experience stayed with me to this very day— now–i am the older guy and i want young thai girls—i sure do not want the 80 year old girl i knew in the past now–shish– people are all different—some–the more you give the more they take— others—give… Read more »
Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart
Ok! First, a guy is not a girl! A guy is looking for beauty , love and young girls. A girls is always looking for security first. Of course she can love you, but do not expect too muck. I am over 60 and all my girlfriends were under 27 years of age. Why, because they want to be with a successful man who has that kind of life, trust me, she will never let you down, because she will be proud of you and do not want to lose you. She will be jealous and very passionate. Trust me.… Read more »
Ricardo
Ricardo
I see some pretty narrow-minded and self-centered comments here. Guy Bodart provides a supreme example of this shallow and simple minded attitude. He seems to feel that since he was born a male and traded his time and labor in a way that helped to keep his pimp – oops, I mean his “employer” – rich, that he can openly admit to being a slut who seeks to have sex with a series of young, girls he selects only for the way they look yet he feels superior and judges others negatively for the same behavior – even though they… Read more »
Alan
Alan
I was introduced to a Thai two and a half years ago,she has her own small hairdresser shop but admits that she worked as a bargirl for a short time but states that she didn’t go with anyone for sex.She seems a bit naive when it comes to sex,she has two children close to twenty living with her.she has visited me here for three months and stayed with me even when I was truck driving interstate, she said she didn’t want to stay at home but wanted to be with me. I had visited her twice in two years for… Read more »
Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart

If you love a 45 years old woman with 2 children, stay with her. I do not look for a woman, but for a pretty and younger girl. Older women are smarter. I do not want that!Thailand, Philippines, South America girls are younger and very sexy.Take a look! Beauty is very important to me.

Alan
Alan

I intend to stay with her as she is sincere and also beautiful

Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart

So, do it! The life is short! She can be a nice lady!

Jack
Jack
I’m going to make some assumptions here. The majority of you here are middle-aged, white, below-average, beta dudes. Let’s not toy with the notion you’re alpha-game quality, because if that was the case you wouldn’t be paying ~$1000 to go to a place where you can barely speak the language just to have sex or to find “true love”. Like how so many of you have mentioned, things go downstream when your d1ck starts doing the thinking. You really think a Thai girl, brought up in a heavily-influenced east-Asian culture, surrounded by very handsome Thai men, will consider a long-term… Read more »
PB
PB
I love what you have to say, you are so very right. I am 54 spent 3 weks in Thailand , didn’t see nearly half what I wanted to see, so back I go in March. For my age I look reasonable. Not ripped but no fat and still have most of my hair. at 178 cm and 105 kg (again no real fat). I got slammed at nightclubs but some real beauties, at first I thought they were frelancers , but they were not. Best 7 days in Patong and the same all over. You are 100% right in… Read more »
BKKBroken
BKKBroken
Let it go. I finally did mine and sleep better. You held up your end of the bargain. What you saw in the end might have been a preview of things to come. I flipped over to Thai Friendly site and within two days have 5 real Thai ladies with jobs, good family, and great looks chatting me up. I’ve settled on for now who is actually well educated, has a govt. job, and has never asked for a thing. Dream come true. I can’t figure out why I was falling for the bar girls, but it may have been… Read more »
Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart

I agree with you 100%.

Newbi
Newbi
I am experiencing something similar to these stories bit with a twist. I went to Thailand for a career break not looking to go whoring just partying and travelling. Anyway ended up with a freelancer from a nightclub in koe Samui that caught my eye.. Stayed with her 22days in the end! We went holiday together to Chang Mai, had a proper GF experience. Both of us 34, and I’m not unlucky with lady’s back home so not an old man young girl thing. she’d been ‘working’ since 22. Already bought her family a house, car, herself a car etc.… Read more »
Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart
Listen to me, a whore still a whore and will never change. Especially Asian girls. They love your money, not you! Why you do no try South America. Girls have more self respect of their bodies. I will never lose my time and money for a whore. I was think about Philippines, they are the same. Money, gift etc.. Or they let you down. I know a Brazilian girl, she is hot and never ask for money. It’s the opposite, she want to pay to eat for gas etc…In Tahiti, girls are pretty and much more serious. Of course, in… Read more »
BKKBroken
BKKBroken

Steven,

Go to Nana Plaza for what you seek. GO GO bars. Check out Bangkok addicts website for the information you seek. The open forum is a gold mine of information and all the questions you have are answered and updated information there.

The Russians a re fat and ugly compared to the Thais. Why go to Thailand to have sex with a nasty Russian girl. Pimps everywhere too.

Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart

If you want just to have sex, go to Holland. You will find everything you want

Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart

I knew some Russian girls and they were pretty. But I prefer Latina. A lot of curves and very hot and..They do not ask you for money if you want to marry her. I knew 2 girls. One from Sao paolo and the other one from Rio. They did not like the US. I understand the reason why!

What do you think about Philippines girls….?? Always for money too.

Try an Italian and you will get a respectful girl. They are really beautiful.

Steven
Steven

Thanks for this article. Please help me. I will be in Bangkok next month. Is it only possible to have Sex with thai girls in my hotel room? I really dont want the hotel to know that. And also my friends and so on.
Thanks a Lot

BKKBroken
BKKBroken
Steven, Everyone gets hung up on that at first. Don’t worry about it. The desk will make a record of her visiting and keep her ID. This help keep you safe and is for protection. You could go to a short time hotel for an hour or two, but they are nasty. No one is judging you or keeping count. Make sure you look at hotels that won’t charge you a joiner fee if the girl goes to you room. There are also hotels that won’t let you do it. Google girl friendly hotels (whatever area your going to) and… Read more »
Steven
Steven

Thanks man, youre really a big help.

1.So brothels like we know dont really exist there? Or what exactly is a BJ bar?

2. Im only interested in the super hot girls. So hot young thais with Fake boobs (but no LB).
Where do i find them Most likely?

And 3. Have you ever heard of raja hotel, where a full floor is full with russian girls? If yes, could you recommend it?

Tank you!
Cherrs, Steven

BKKBroken
BKKBroken
Joe, Joe, She is the youngest daughter, and from what I can tell the best of the three siblings. Her parents have a home and land. She has no kids, and has actually never been married. Her past does not bother me, and she is very attentive to me and never asks for anything when I am with her. I have to drag her into malls to try and buy new clothes or shoes for her. She always appriciates everyyhing, and when we go out she pays sometimes. I’ve been around all of SE Asia for the last 30 years… Read more »
BKKBroken
BKKBroken
I went to BKK in July. Experienced monger in the past and was looking for just some fun and partying in BKK. Ended up hooking with a bar girl and took a liking to her. Came back home and missed her, but racked it up to experience and rarely though about it again. Scheduled another trip three months later and ended up with her again for a week. Her mother was ill and needed Gall Bladder surgery. I was skeptic, but she started showing me pics of her mother in a makeshift clinic in Isaan. My friend had a girl… Read more »
Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart
A whore still a whore.I will never fall in love for a prostitute. Asians always ask for money. It’s the reason why they do not care if you are 30 or 80 years old. They are liars! Trust me. know, they look pretty, but go to Columbia and you will see a lot of pretty girls who do not ask for money. Anyway, all the women are prostitutes. They marry you for your money and security…A little bit of love. But men are naive! I trusted girls before and I was wrong. You can chat with girls on the internet… Read more »
JoeJoe
JoeJoe
The only answer is what are your feelings about her. You know her better than anyone here does. Is she attentive to you? Is she protective concerning your spending money? Does she have a lot of gold as per rings, bracelets, necklaces, etc.? Does she have a home in her village? Does she have land? Does she have children? If so how many, how old and who is taking care of them? Does her past bother you and could you live with her past knowing she was a bargirl/freelancer? The only advice I would give to you is: 1) Don’t… Read more »
Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart

As I always said. A girl prefer security than real love. They love you because you are their life insurance. Nothing more!

JoeJoe
JoeJoe

Is security a way into love, or can love make your bank account secure?
thai culture is different, Isaan, they need security first, is it a attraction, i promise you that love come. I not a love hunter as before, I prefere a safe and secure relationship whith respect and love. As I write before, she gonna do everything to make you feel good.

JoeJoe
JoeJoe

you are absolutely wrong but only partly right. A former bar girl is a woman with invaluable experience and great knowledge of people, a bar girl is also much better sexually. It is of course the safety ovh security they seek, as a man or woman does not? guess what, a Thai bargirl is a woman like all women. Do you have entirely wrong to be sentenced all wore ladies, that finding good and bad people, you seem to have encountered the bad types. Understand you, you have been burned.

Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart
Ok! But I married an American woman and I did not know she was a whore 15 years ago, using drugs etc.. She was very nice to me, but she was stabbing me in the back at the same time about money Sexually, of course she was not bad. A whore is a professional…..But when I knew she was an ex whore, I kicked her ass very fast. She sued me in court asking for my property.Bad luck for her, I was smarter and went to jail.So, I won! And I will never give the name of my respectable family… Read more »
joeJoe
joeJoe
Know that it is respect for each other in relation to a common STD test this, I feel that you should do regardless of color on one’s partner. A former bargirl to their tricks, trying to manipulate the first year, then as she realizes that it is useless, she is not your Hgf or Lt. My wife was working, precisely worked for 10 years in the industry, all the tricks to get “what she wants,” she does not exercise this technology on mine, know that I perceive bg as timid beyond their safe place, bar and friends . A woman… Read more »
John
John
Its pleasure to read your articles.There is in depth thought and lot of important information in it. I just wanted share my small story with you. In Nov 2015,I visited Pattaya. I am 35 .I just wanted to have some fun so I visited some go go bars. Initially I had no plan to hookup with any gogo girl.But one night it happened. I visited one of the best go go’s in Pattaya. I took one drink.Enjoy the dance and I was about to leave the bar.suddenly a very slim and sexy girl called me. I just stopped for a… Read more »
Marco
Marco
Have been to Thailand a couple times and had my fun, about 2 years ago a met a girl in the Grand Hyatt bar ( great bar by the way) and she was actually a cop off duty ( no crap as i saw her ID) looking for some fun time we spend some amazing three day’s together and when i ask her how much it would cost she never has ask for anything the first night i was a bit skeptical about it but she stuck to it. We departed she called me once but that was it. Sometimes… Read more »
Me
Me

Vin, if you like her, why not meet her every now and then like you do now. My opinion is to stay unattached for some time first, this is important so you will stay in the lead. I know it’s difficult to wait but your patience will be worth in the end.
My advice is to go for her, see her every few months, don’t relocate yet.
Skype worked out well for me and my gf and we be patient for 2 years, living in Thailand now.
Good luck and enjoy

Vin
Vin

I did just that. I went back to Thailand two weeks ago and spent a week with her traveling to Northern Thailand in Chiang Mai and Chiang Rai and really got to really know her at a personal level. Even got to meet her family and childhood friends. Now I feel much more comfortable connecting with her. I will probably plan another travel trip with her in the future.

addme
addme

Hi.
How many customer have a normal barlady per week/month in the year rates bolow.
Workplace Bangkok or Pattaya.

20-25 years old
25-30 years old
30-35 years old

Xelena
Xelena

Hi….may I ask you if girls give pleasure to foreign girls? Same bars? Thanks

gp
gp

I think some do but make it clear from the start

Vin
Vin
Luke, I am in the same boat as you. I was in BKK for the first time in April and was really taken back by a bar girl I met there. I was only there for 3 days with the intention of checking off a bucket list item. The week prior to that I was in the Phillipines doing the same thing and got out without any attachments. The three days in Thailand I bar fined the same girl 3 consecutive days. She was not a stunner by any means but something captured me. I am 33 Asian guy living… Read more »
Dr. Mark
Dr. Mark
As I have posted I am a long time in Thailand guy and have seen most everything woman-wise. I married a high class educated Thai woman from a connected family. As far as I can calculate she has gone through about 30 million baht in 7 years (houses, cars, purses, shoes, you name it). My young Issan girlfriend is a graduate engineer, but sells pussy at the Soi 7 Beergarden 2-3 nights a week after work. In two years with her I have gone through maybe 100,000 baht with her. I am crazy about her because we are both thrill… Read more »
JL
JL

vin, i feel you. i am going through exactly the same scenario as yourself. im not sure whats best to do for now.

Felix
Felix
Strange how lots of people advise ‘Don’t fall in love with a bar girl.’ and ‘Look for a normal girl away from the bars.’ Why would a poor Thai working in a shoe shop be any different to a poor Thai girl working in a Gogo? If you want to find a ‘normal’ nut-crunching Western bitch then stay away from Thailand. Good luck with that. Meanwhile thousands of the most beautiful women in the world await the falang in beer bars and Gogos. They are gorgeous! Love them, and take one for a wife. What could be better?
gp
gp

nice one Felix. If they’re poor they’re poor. I get the impression that some comments on this site are from judgemental idiots. If they don’t like foreign women, fine. Just let the rest of us get on with it.

john deppner
john deppner
Hi there.. as a long term visitor to Thailand I can see what’s going on here…Please listen all you guys!, I know the system…never fall for a bar girl. I have a been there and done it, although many years ago ..and over the last few years I have heard endless stories of heartache and financial disaster. These girls are beautiful, often gentle and totally captivating but they have a focus… Its not reality!, treat it as a night or week of fun and there are endless fun encounters to be had without fucking up your life. Ok..do the few… Read more »
edward partridge
edward partridge
old saying no fool like an old fool or a fool and his gold is soon parted.that said. i ve been down most of those roads and still go back for more possible emotional mayhem ,i tumbled to the dire circumstances their families live in and how the girls do what they do to keep the home fires burning and of course the compulsory babeeee as well .for those not of the hard nosed variety,looking the other way is not always the easiest option,and of course,thats when the shit hits the fan most times.. suppose it boils down down to… Read more »
Pablo
Pablo

don’t fall in love with a public convenience

Chutima
Chutima

Sorry to butt in here guys but I think you are not the first and won’t be the last farang to fall for our beautiful young Thai bar girl and the game she plays! Everything you have said, I’ve heard a million time from farang. you hear the calls for money? Over and over but you let your ‘small brain’ rule your big one! Poor poor farang! He never learns!

luke
luke
hi, thailand eh wow what a place i recently returned from a week long trip to Bangkok and Pattaya with the one intention of touching up as many young thai chicks as possible. so a little background as i would like some opinions of my situation please ? I’m an aussie guy 45 years old but look younger separated from my wife 3 months ago (9 months away from divorce) been to Thailand twice before but with lady in hand so this was my first adventure as a single guy. 3 days in Bangkok was great had a couple of… Read more »
Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart

Age is not important for an Asian girl. Money is important. If they do not have self respect why do you expect she will respect you?

Guy Bodart
Guy Bodart
Do not be an idiot, you will never find a virgin girl in a bar. Only prostitutes! As all prostitutes they are very nice too…When you pay When a girl talks to you about money, just let her down. If you go to Thailand to have fun it’s good. But if you are looking for a serious girl, investigate her. How many boyfriends, HIV or if she says she is a virgin, you chose the doctor yourself ,not her. Money buy everything in those countries. South American girls are really great and more serious. But you must talk about marriage… Read more »
Cal
Cal

Luke, dude, love your story, but please use paragraphs and punctuation next time. Man, that was a rough read. lol.

captain aotearoa
captain aotearoa

I’m planning a Thai trip for 2015…Thai women are so much better than women here in New Zealand who are the biggest slut-bags on earth. so slutty are they kiwi girls that they make the Thai bar girls look like wife material.

Sven
Sven

Bar girls are all different. I lived with three over the last 14 years. i am now happily marries to a girl half my age for the last 6 years. Treat them well and responsibly and you’ll be fine.

Graham Petley (UK)
Graham Petley (UK)
Good to see a balanced comment on bar girls. I went to Patong in April with no intention of forming a relationship but it happened. I went back in June for a week to see her and it was good. I even met her family who live near Khon Kaen. Quite a hike from Phuket. They are very poor. 3 weeks later she has returned home to live, on the basis of our relationship. I thought this was great until reality kicked in. She will be lucky to earn 10000 baht per month. I will send money but I am… Read more »
dakidd
dakidd
Graham…ask yourself this question?..what would a hot slim thai girl be doing with an old buzzard like you? ill tell you…$$$$…dark skinned girls..need falangs…no farkin hope otherwise…there the aborigines of australia…looked down upon..your the meal ticket..hope of a better life…stop using emotion and use your small brain for a sec…enjoy the ride..expect the worst…enjoy the time you have…mate …thailand..in my opinion is a tourist destination and for old codgers wanting to check out..with there own slice of paradise..im 38 with an issan girl for 3 years..i pay every month..but i write that off.. she makes me feel good…i go up… Read more »
Jack
Jack

What Vince said!

Vince
Vince

dakidd, it doesn’t matter what opinion you have about Graham and his story, you totally miss respect towards him with the words you’re writing. Your brain might be bigger than Graham’s but it’s full of shit and frustration. And if you think that people like Graham deserve to get burned then you dafuckingkidd deserve to get buried under the ashes of your own frustration.

gp
gp

Thanks Vince. I couldn’t be bothered to reply to dakidd as it seemed obvious he’d been burnt or is just a bitter person all over. I do object to saying he has a bigger brain but see your reasoning!

wanderer
wanderer

awesome website! Can you list any more bars like Climaxxx that you consider good for meeting non-pro Thai girls looking to meet foreigners? thanks for all your excellent info!

futuretaveler
futuretaveler
hey, I read many of your article here cause I will probably go to Thailand next winter with one of my friend. Ty for all the good info and tips about the way of life in Thailand. Still it really made me wondering. Is there some regular bar in Thailand where you can hang out and talk to girls that are not prostitute and see outside of there without paying (if they are interested)? Like regular working/student girls or they usually don’t hang out in bars? I’m not judging at all and it’s not the 20-50$ it would cost me… Read more »
naser
naser

There are many thai lady cheaters.

Yes friend, i have burned my finger, she was a bitch, who slept with me and cheated. These bitches are cheaters and i think its passes from generation to generations. She is so dirty and always speak about family poor and baby sick. I gave her money and she cheated me a lot. I am just hopping that i don’t get Aids. Shame on her and her family.

Mikko Salo
Mikko Salo

Please do not blame her for you being a dumb dush bag.

tuk_jirayusakun@yahoo.com

you are all nothing. Your thai bar girls are dark skinned race. superdark like charchoal, brown living below proverty line that thai men do not want and even other asian men do not want to buy. Thailand is a land of black majoriy and white minority. it is africa in the east.