Breaking Up With Your Thai Girlfriend

Last updated: December 11th, 2018 | in Thai Girls

Breaking Up With Thai GirlfriendIf you have ever been in a relationship with a Thai girl (or woman) you know how great it is hanging out with her and she giving you the feeling you are the coolest man on earth. You might also agree with me when I say that Thai girls make better girlfriends than western girls.

However you will come to this point sooner or later, after a few months, or after a few years when you ask yourself if you wanna stay with her for the rest of your life.

Or if you think you have enough of her for whatever reason: You are bored and want to look for someone new, she has cheated on you, she just sucks your money, she is boring, she becomes fat etc. Then you know it’s time to give her a run and to break up with your Thai girlfriend.

But breaking up with your Thai girlfriend is a lot more complicated than getting into the relationship in the first place. And here comes the thing. Another “phenomenon in Thailand” like I call weird aspects that I only know in Thai culture – and here’s another one:

A Thai girl will never break up with you.

Means if she doesn’t break up it’s only you that can make the relationship end. Sounds pretty weird but that’s the way it is. I’m not saying that Thai girls are always happy and accept all your mistakes give your bad behavior a smile, Thai girls do get angry but usually that’s just for the moment and the next day the world is fine again. Your Thai girlfriend will always forgive you.

Whenever I had been in a relationship with a Thai girl for a few months it was me who broke up and what I usually say is that I don’t feel ready for a serious relationship at the moment. I never tell her the real reasons, like I want to meet other girls, that I already have another girl or that I don’t feel attracted to her anymore. This way you avoid her getting mad at you or just not accepting you break up with her because she thinks it’s her fault and she has to make you feel better. I just feel that’s the easiest way and the good thing about it is I often keep her as my friend or gik.

Giks, well obviously after a few months my girlfriends find out I have some and if they do, they indeed tell me things like “if I know you meet her again, we will break up” but then even if she does, she won’t break up. She might get angry, not do your laundry and not talk with you for one evening, but she won’t break up. So why is that? Why can we do whatever we want but our Thai girlfriends don’t break up with us?

My explanation is that she thinks in the long run she will „win“, means the longer you are together the more likely you are to fall in love with her and don’t go after other girls anymore. And besides that, as long as she’s on a financially solid ground – whether she earns all her money through her own job, partly with your help or exclusively with your help – then she’s also willing to endure a lot. Because having enough money for a decent life is always the top priority in Thailand.

Maybe you guys have different thoughts.

28 Responses

  • dee says:

    i have been together with a thai women for 7 years. we have a lovely daughter together who is now 5 years old. this women was a real lunatic all the time. constantly nagging on me, whatever i did, it was never good enough. stopped talking to me for days when we had some troubles. i kept going on for my daughter who i love very much, trying to keep the peace. but it got worse and worse. in the end she didnt want to go out with me and my daughter anymore. i always had to go out alone with my daughter. in the end i was so fed up with the whole situation that i decided to stop the relation. in this 5 years she when we had the daughter, she was not able to manage to get my daughter the swiss passport. i spent a lot of money for laywers to aknowledge my daughter. but due to a id problem from the mother, we never managed to proceed in this case. since i finished the relation in 2016, i havent seen my daughter anymore. the mother moved to another city and got herself a new sponsor. so it looks like that i got cut out, like a sick part of the body. since then she is ignoring all my approaches to get contact to my daughter. i am willing to support my daughter and pay for all her expenses. but i would like to have father daughter relation with her in return. i am very dissapointed that the thai mother refuses all the chances my daughter could have here in switzerland for her future life.
    what to do

  • Chris says:

    what about a Thai massage worker would you say they are the same as bar girl.Ive been in a relationship with her for 18mths.she gave up her massage work to travel and be with in Thailand .I got her a visa to visit me in Australia which she did last year all was good.I have visited her many times and met her family on three occasions .now I have told her I cant afford to keep sending her 20000 THB a month as I’m retired. with that said she made a few phone calls and is now back doing massage. I cant stand the thought of her doing this job again.She has given me a promise that she will not do SPECIAL MASSAGE because she have boyfriend ME ?? AM I being naive.

  • Kennedy says:

    Have to agree. Have tried twice to end a relationship but she won’t accept it. She has turned on the tears and piled on the guilt. Then comes the anger and lots of bitchy comments. Then remarkably, she announces that she forgives me! After that it’s as if nothing had happened. I’ve tried not returning calls or messaging online, then after a week or so she is back. Everyone tells me to block her and move on, but this seems cruel. Maybe witness protection is the answer.

  • jester says:

    Relationships for Thai are very focused on money/face and whole guy must support thai woman and family crap. ironically very few thai men support their thai women, so this needs to be broken away from. its only some idiotic americans that started this trend years ago and now the entire thai women species is out of control. Vietnam and Laos women are no where near as bad as thais, as they have not been corrupted so much by idiots. Stop giving women money full stop!
    I have endured a 10 yr relationship and never give my woman money…. however! i used her to build a business empire and she now earns close to 1 million a month as do i. so think smart folks… use them to make money and make sure you build a biz with them where both persons depends on each other. she cant leave me or her salary will tank, likewise for me i need her.. we now have a mutual beneficial agreement… no one wants to lose! so we endure each other… be smart

    • Jay says:

      Hi Jester,thats an interesting approach and the first of its kind I have read relating to thai and farang relationships. I would love to learn from you and how you did it. I have a thai girlfriend at the moment and wonder if this would help. Thanks for any help.

  • jester says:

    its funny reading this… i do think a lot of it is indeed true, ive put by girl through some tough times over the last decade and she still stays. having said that she is still a psycho and i put up with her rudeness daily too. BUT… the only times i have seen the above not be true. is if women depend on their guy for money… as soon as you turn the tap off they Fcuk off pronto. Oh and i stongly think its time we all stop calling the bad ones WORKING GIRLS or BAR GIRLS… let me tell you something, i have dated girls that work in banks, offices, hair salons you name it… they will ALL ask for money at some point, they are all no different to bar girls, they are ALL expecting more from foreign men, meaning financial freedom. otherwise they have no reason to choose us and our boring conversations, they would much rather be chatting in Thai to their Thai guy about FOOD, Thai Soaps, laughing for the sake of laughing (slapstick) or sleeping all day. We are in no way interesting for them, we are a ticket to freedom first and foremost. my advise NEVER ever give your girl money, and then if the relationship lasts the above will ring true..

    • john says:

      Dear jester,
      I am John from Singapore, would like to seek your opinion…

      i am with relationship with my Thai gf (she is a sex working lady) for totally 2 years and 10 months.This is my first experience relationship with Thai gf. I NEVER give her money except bought her diamond necklace , diamond ring, branded watches , many golden bracelet for her birthday and valentine day. I wanted to test out the relationship whether can it lasted long till marriage. She keep saying to me that her friend’s boyfriend give her friend money every months but she didn’t insisted me to give. I do not want to give money because if using money to keep the relationship is not good for the future. I had been visited her families and relative in Bangkok for 2 times. But i did not bring her to see my parent because i do not know how to tell my parent that my gf is a working lady. Others that her job, she is like any other girl no smoking and drinking. We are together happily. We keep our long distance relationship for 2 years. We LINE each other everyday morning , anytime and before go to sleep. She will be traveling to country like JAPAN,TAIWAN,MALAYSIA to work. During this few years of relationship i always very sad because of the feeling she was fucking with someone else…. She always comfort me that she only love me husband one person. She only go for working to earn enough for our future. As you mentioned above our conversation was only I miss her , she miss me, have i eat , have she eat, what she has eaten , what i had eaten, what time sleep and what time wake up etc.. I think is bored conversation but i am ok. She usually texting a lot to her friend when she was videoing call with me. So i will keep our conversation short. She some time will reminding me that we will marry in 5years times. I earn enough money from Singapore and she earn enough from her side. Till last June we are still very happy together . I even visited her in Bangkok during the JUne month and also visited her relative. The relatives also suggested I should visit her hometown at Issaan during their new year songhkan. But after I came back after the 2 day later, a mystery happen. She told me that she going to break up with me because she going to marry her TAIWAN bf because she had pregnant for 3 months. She told me that she was with him for about 1 year. For all this while I never noticed and sensed any fishing regarding she has any boyfriend. Even the relative and parent also didn’t know that. She was shy and she say she wont go see any man that is why i am trust her 100% wont do that. She several times because could not locate me for whole day or whole night she will crying worrying me go see another girl and worry me will break up with her.. Now then she had pregnant with another man. She said to me because I do not bring her to see my mother and i never give her money like any other friend’s bf. I am not like her real bf that’s why when other guy like her then she will like him. But all this years she was happy with me and keep comforting me that she only love me husband only and tell me that we work hard for our future… I till now cannot figure out the logic behind this…. I am so sad… heart broken into pieces…. cannot eat … cannot sleep… she blocked me because do not want me to call her and text her… I cannot believe my eyes that she is the one always worrying me will breakup with her for another girl. Even the last visit in Bangkok she also worry about this. Therefore I am like so confident that this relationship will last long…. I really cannot accept this …. I treat this relationship truly and never cheating her heart…. Bro here please enlightenment me….

      • Annonymous says:

        You have been lied too. It is common for sex workers to take up multiple farang boyfriends that will provide them with extra financial support. In your case you did not send money but gave her jewelries instead which are also worth a lot of money therefore worth keeping and lying to. The number 1 rule is to never love a sex worker unless she is able to quit her job for you and do a normal day job that does not involve selling her body. Even so I wouldn’t except a prostitute girlfriend as I cannot stand the idea of her behind fucked by a thousand different men before me. You are young and naive but this is not the end yet. She have never love you and was using you as one of her many farang boyfriends to support her materialistic lifestyle. Accept it and move on.

  • Joseph says:

    I do not know if I agree with this article. In a lot of ways, I wish what was said was true and I would not be writing this comment. I did not meet a bargirl, I met a working girl (worked at a bank, definitely not a bar girl) who was the girlfriend for 5 years. She had all my social media passwords that I gave her to show I was doing not anything. She provided hers in turn which I never checked or wrote down. She checked my phone and saw Iwas chatting with a girl, my coworker, and accused me of wanting to be with her. Then she reviewed anyone who was female and not related to me by family and started contacting them using my devices. The she would delete the conversations so I would not find out, and not say anything but would start acting distant around me (not answering phone calls, claiming she is too busy with her boss, etc). I only found out cause other female friends asked what was up with your girl contacting me, and yet another who refused to chat with her tell me she put up a fake facebook page to act like she was a friend of the girl (herself) who was dating me to get more information. When confronted, she would defend and say why she could not, that if she is a girlfriend, she can do it. As one of the other posters said, stopped giving her money, and she left and found another saying she does not want me because I am a “liar.” The irony was so thick you could cut it with a knife. She now blocks me on all forms of communication and widely posts on her social media photos of herself with comments about how the next guy “spoils” her. Yea stupid me. I purposely avoided bar girls because you know the games played but apparently it is not just reserved for bar girls.

  • Steve says:

    Never trust a bargirl
    We were together for 2 years
    I got engaged to a bargirl
    We bought land and house
    Soon as I paid for the house she stopped talking to me
    She tell me she is pregnant-and shows me video of her doing pregnancy test.
    She had got into a lot of debt buying things for the house-400000 ( or so she said)
    I said she would have to wait for the money.
    Next thing she moves to bangkok and working in a restuarant? I suspicious and when I said I would send a friend around to see her-she admitted to being a bargirl.
    A few days later she said she wanted to go on hoiidays with me. But I had to pay long time every day plus expenses.
    My view is that Thai bar girls will take and take and take. They are only interested in the money.
    They cannot wait for the money.
    They are greedy and cannot be trusted. Check other websites for similar stories.

  • Mick says:

    I have been seeing a Thai lady off and on for a couple of years we met in a bar so you know where this is going Anyway I was thinking about making a serious relationship with her we got on really well and the sex was good etc anyway to give you the 10 cent version we started to talk about getting serious I asked her about getting a job she was home helping her family but she said she did not want to work a normal job (red flag) I then checked out her social media stuff which I never did and found out she was engaged (fucking big red flag) when I fronted her about it she lied through her teeth and I still don’t know the full story
    She then blocked me on fb to try and hide any other issues I could ask questions about (A huge Red Flag) all the time telling me she loves me (Bullshit) So we have gone our separate ways she still wants to stay in contact (keep me around for a rainy day) Well that ain’t happening, so my advice is to find one that works in a normal is independent and try and build a relationship from there, Once a bar girl always a bar girl is my approach now and I advise don’t get emotionally involved with bar girls if you can (I know it’s hard sometimes but just use them like they are using you)

    Cheers Mick

    • Steve says:

      Thank you Mick – your advice is invaluable. I am going through something similar although not to your degree and I have to say…..there is nothing more you can do with abar girl than, be nice and bang them. I have recently returned from my second trip and the girl I am seeing is extreamly possessive, uses all the love language, does not charge me to have sex but is as cunning as hell, as soon as I parted (two weeks ago – and after putting a ring on her finger as a promise that I am serious). – she is off with four different guys, over three days each and covering multiple others whilst out of the bar.

      In short- I deserve it, but I made some serious sacrifices to get there and take her to places she wanted to go.

      Anyway – I am a sucker in love, but not in business. I am home now and about to dump her when she gets back from her latest customer whom she calls (goo flein) translation being “regular”.

      Over it, I will treat all bargirls as pure business from now on. What they quote is what I pay. No extras.

      Note – I spent a packet on her.

  • Paul says:

    You never lose a Thai girlfriend. You just lose your place in the queue..

  • oracle says:

    Here goes…i got a stunner in isaan ….4 years..i held off….paid her out of debt..bought tv..fridges .washing machine …motorbike…her favourite “glow”..;lol….10,000 a month..but not a day went buy..she didnt mention houses and babies…she was shes 67kg still looks ok…the touch of an isaan women(hot one) divine and very hard to let go…i will never ever date a western women again…isaan chicks are lazy lol….love baby oil…and LOVE SHOPPING AND EATING….did i say eating….she wont talk to me me unless shes eaten three times a day…chicken /sticky rice..and snake fish/papaya salad lol…..there naive and laugh at anything…loreal is her go to conditioner…im an idiot…i got a stunner and im wanting to break up with her..purely on the fact that i wont adjust my lifestyle for her benefit( going back to work)…it cost money..time.. emotion and responsibility in marrying and having a family…something i a free spirit with many options available…i wont forget her…but her dreams will be someone elses soon…i think best way to break up is just tell her to her face or farang style change number or dont answer calls for a couple of months and out of the blue give it to her…youll always think about that light tanned…tight breasted…moist lips…sensuous body…long dark haired…princess …under the covers…its fcking my mind state as i write this…only people who have dated a beautiful isaan woman can fully understand the mesmerizing spell she can cast on you…its a fckin shame think some other bastard…is going to enjoy a once in a lifetime chick..and ive had a few…sawadeeka!!!!

    • Andrew Davie says:

      Tried not returning calls.
      Month or so passed and she started messaging again.

    • Jeff says:

      Oh Dear!!!!! I can relate to this comment 1000%, I just broke off with my Issan girl, she was so pretty with long hair that hung down to her bum and 30 yrs my junior but ……..starting to drain me financially for this that and anything else she could think of….lucky my brain rules my heart and dick so I decided it was time to cut loose from her….and go back out there and play the field again

    • Steve says:

      So true brother – I am finding it really hard to let her go……but I have to as she breaks my rules all the time. I am tired of the emotional roller coaster

  • Jean says:

    im dating my Thai gf now and will stay 2 months in bkk I want to find a way to stay with her if it’s working well (Thailand or bring her back home) I red every post about it but still I’m not sure what to look out to see if she is really in love or as soon as I leave bkk and wait for to be back, she will just meet other guys. I guess I will never know but what sign will give me a good clue that she is serious? ( I know she told me she had other foreigner bf but they broke up because it was too hard for them to trust that she won’t see someone else. Any intelligent opinion please?

    • D. Stuart McCreadie says:

      I have been coming to Thailand now for over 25-years; first working on MRT and BTS in Bkk and in the past 9-years in residence during which time I went from being naive to absolutely naive and now I believe still gullible where Asian girls are concerned. On reflection having travelled and worked in over 70-countries are Thai women, educated or otherwise, really any different to girls back home? Here I had experiences with girls from the bar and ‘caught a cold’ many times but it didn’t stop me coming back for more because in terms of quality they were far superior to the likes of my ex-wife and girlfriends prior to that UK marriage, Here I met two educated single girls, no baggage from good families, both wanting marriage and I have to say after a period of a year or so they were just like my ex; not money grabbing but dictatorial and used their womanhood to get want they wanted. With both families being wealthy there was another problem because they wanted the farang connection and were pushy to the enth degree; all the while no let-up from the girls plus chaperones, yes ‘chaperones’ always close at hand! In the end I broke off both relationships as courtship was just like those in my early UK days. Moving on I met girls from the bar and messed up big time there too but I found that most had really bad experiences with foreign or Thai guys and had suffered one way or another insofar as pregnancies, unaware of the farang having a family at home, not being as flush as the guy had them believe, promises of marriage etc. In one case a really stunning girl met and married a guy from the US who went home alone after the ceremony to break the news to his family. Within seven days he was back demanding divorce otherwise his parents were going to disinherit him! Well doom and gloom aside I met my wife now of 15-years, educated, great family, loving, doting and totally dedicated to our home, tight as the proverbial ‘duck’s a…e’ and still looks as good and trim as ever because she believes it important for our marriage. So I would say that in the final analysis women are women the world over and there is no secret formula simply look to yourself first as often the answer lies there.

    • Michael says:

      It’s an unrealistic expectation to think any LDR would work. Don’t be a fool, lots of these girls freelance on the DL.

  • shamus says:

    Strange break ups… I spent 6-7 weeks with I thought was a lovely girl in Rayong…we clubbed (Thai) a lot and got a bit pissy… she also liked gambling… 500 baht here and there. She had her own business and appeared fairly nice. We has sex every day… nothing exciting like oral or anal… but she had a great bod (very pale) and came quick so I was happy. However over a 3 day period she got really drunk… lost about 5000 baht gambling and got a bit funny. The next morning she took several thousand baht from me and came back 8 hours later happy. She gave me back the money…I didnt know she had taken it and she took me out for dinner. We went clubbing again that night and both got a bit pissy again… She told me all this when we got home and wanted sex… when finished she went on more… apparently she had lost the money but did several tricks in pattaya to get it back… hum! After an hour she wants more sex and this time oral… hum… no problem. I’m seeing a pattern here… get more booze from the fridge …talk more… not happy jan! So its time to dump her but she doesnt seem to listen… she wants more sex… I gave it to her anal… never saw her again after that, very quick breakup… still miss those boobs though.

  • Barry A says:

    Most farang don’t realize that when they take on a Thai girl they are also taking on her extended family and in some cases their debts as well, In my experience Thai girls see the farang as a career move, bar girl or everyday girl. They have to survive and it’s hard for them to work the long hours that employers demand and still have enough time to keep their farang happy. As is said treat them mean keeps them keen. Sadly I cant do that and am still looking for the mythical self supporting girl. After 4 years I have had no luck, Spent a lot of money but had a good time trying. On a positive note age is not an issue for a Thai and when I consider my chances in Europe as an over 60 male I must concede my opportunities here are a lot better even if I do have to pay out a bit.
    My advice, go in with your eyes wide open, try to keep your options open and keep your ticket out open. Don’t try things here that you wouldn’t consider doing in your country of origin. Finally if you can’t afford to play the game don’t come here thinking it’s a cheap solution.

  • Robert G. says:

    Yes it is all about the money! My case is if I don’t send her money she thinks I don’t care and she always threatens to stop with me. I tested her and sure enough, she stops. And yes I think she wants only money, I even got her K-1 visa, and still she thinks if I not support her I don’t care for her. No matter what you do, To be with a Thai girl you have to give them some money or they will look somewhere else. I have been going to Thailand for the past ten years and I have not found a woman who not look at me without checking out my finances first, unless she’s a working girl. My woman now thinks I don’t care because I have not sent her money in the last month. It takes about 4 days before she will call me and think everything is ok. And ask for money. Even though she has her K-1 visa, I am not the only man in her life. My advise is to find a Thai girl that never worked in the sex industry. Thats your best chance. And if your rich enough she will be yours. I know because it happened to me.

  • raj says:

    i had a long one and half year relationship with one thaigirl..i notice some good bad of her..thats true if thai girl really loves you that from all her heart but most thai girls having craziest mind for her i m having family already she many times jealous to my wife that i dont like i m already married she must understand that.

    as she divorced with her husband i m support her monthly about 30000b but she cnt stop thinking with her crazy mind about my family.from a month i m start ignoring her will see what happen in future

  • waty lkr says:

    I too realy want to hav thai girl as my girlfren and also spend the rest of life with needs ur help, where do i hav to get start?and is it possible to get a decent girl who can accompany for the rest of my life?

  • Ck says:

    Just break the 4 month relationship with reason I unable to support her the financial.

    From the beginning she also never ask for money. But she start telling a story after 2 months together. For me I also think that this relationship will not lasting because she was the person like to spend but no working!