Breaking Up With Your Thai Girlfriend

Last updated: December 9th, 2017 | in Thai Girls

Breaking Up With Thai GirlfriendIf you have ever been in a relationship with a Thai girl (or woman) you know how great it is hanging out with her and she giving you the feeling you are the coolest man on earth. You might also agree with me when I say that Thai girls make better girlfriends than western girls.

However you will come to this point sooner or later, after a few months, or after a few years when you ask yourself if you wanna stay with her for the rest of your life.

Or if you think you have enough of her for whatever reason: You are bored and want to look for someone new, she has cheated on you, she just sucks your money, she is boring, she becomes fat etc. Then you know it’s time to give her a run and to break up with your Thai girlfriend.

But breaking up with your Thai girlfriend is a lot more complicated than getting into the relationship in the first place. And here comes the thing. Another “phenomenon in Thailand” like I call weird aspects that I only know in Thai culture – and here’s another one:

A Thai girl will never break up with you.

Means if she doesn’t break up it’s only you that can make the relationship end. Sounds pretty weird but that’s the way it is. I’m not saying that Thai girls are always happy and accept all your mistakes give your bad behavior a smile, Thai girls do get angry but usually that’s just for the moment and the next day the world is fine again. Your Thai girlfriend will always forgive you.

Whenever I had been in a relationship with a Thai girl for a few months it was me who broke up and what I usually say is that I don’t feel ready for a serious relationship at the moment. I never tell her the real reasons, like I want to meet other girls, that I already have another girl or that I don’t feel attracted to her anymore. This way you avoid her getting mad at you or just not accepting you break up with her because she thinks it’s her fault and she has to make you feel better. I just feel that’s the easiest way and the good thing about it is I often keep her as my friend or gik.

Giks, well obviously after a few months my girlfriends find out I have some and if they do, they indeed tell me things like “if I know you meet her again, we will break up” but then even if she does, she won’t break up. She might get angry, not do your laundry and not talk with you for one evening, but she won’t break up. So why is that? Why can we do whatever we want but our Thai girlfriends don’t break up with us?

My explanation is that she thinks in the long run she will „win“, means the longer you are together the more likely you are to fall in love with her and don’t go after other girls anymore. And besides that, as long as she’s on a financially solid ground – whether she earns all her money through her own job, partly with your help or exclusively with your help – then she’s also willing to endure a lot. Because having enough money for a decent life is always the top priority in Thailand.

Maybe you guys have different thoughts.

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37 Comments on "Breaking Up With Your Thai Girlfriend"

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jester
jester
its funny reading this… i do think a lot of it is indeed true, ive put by girl through some tough times over the last decade and she still stays. having said that she is still a psycho and i put up with her rudeness daily too. BUT… the only times i have seen the above not be true. is if women depend on their guy for money… as soon as you turn the tap off they Fcuk off pronto. Oh and i stongly think its time we all stop calling the bad ones WORKING GIRLS or BAR GIRLS… let… Read more »
Joseph
Joseph
I do not know if I agree with this article. In a lot of ways, I wish what was said was true and I would not be writing this comment. I did not meet a bargirl, I met a working girl (worked at a bank, definitely not a bar girl) who was the girlfriend for 5 years. She had all my social media passwords that I gave her to show I was doing not anything. She provided hers in turn which I never checked or wrote down. She checked my phone and saw Iwas chatting with a girl, my coworker,… Read more »
Steve
Steve
Never trust a bargirl We were together for 2 years I got engaged to a bargirl We bought land and house Soon as I paid for the house she stopped talking to me She tell me she is pregnant-and shows me video of her doing pregnancy test. She had got into a lot of debt buying things for the house-400000 ( or so she said) I said she would have to wait for the money. Next thing she moves to bangkok and working in a restuarant? I suspicious and when I said I would send a friend around to see… Read more »
Mick
Mick
I have been seeing a Thai lady off and on for a couple of years we met in a bar so you know where this is going Anyway I was thinking about making a serious relationship with her we got on really well and the sex was good etc anyway to give you the 10 cent version we started to talk about getting serious I asked her about getting a job she was home helping her family but she said she did not want to work a normal job (red flag) I then checked out her social media stuff which… Read more »
Steve
Steve
Thank you Mick – your advice is invaluable. I am going through something similar although not to your degree and I have to say…..there is nothing more you can do with abar girl than, be nice and bang them. I have recently returned from my second trip and the girl I am seeing is extreamly possessive, uses all the love language, does not charge me to have sex but is as cunning as hell, as soon as I parted (two weeks ago – and after putting a ring on her finger as a promise that I am serious). – she… Read more »
Paul
Paul

You never lose a Thai girlfriend. You just lose your place in the queue..

oracle
oracle
Here goes…i got a stunner in isaan ….4 years..i held off….paid her out of debt..bought tv..fridges .washing machine …motorbike…her favourite “glow”..;lol….10,000 a month..but not a day went buy..she didnt mention houses and babies…she was 52kg..now shes 67kg still looks ok…the touch of an isaan women(hot one)..is divine and very hard to let go…i will never ever date a western women again…isaan chicks are lazy lol….love baby oil…and LOVE SHOPPING AND EATING….did i say eating….she wont talk to me me unless shes eaten three times a day…chicken /sticky rice..and snake fish/papaya salad lol…..there naive and laugh at anything…loreal is her go… Read more »
Steve
Steve

So true brother – I am finding it really hard to let her go……but I have to as she breaks my rules all the time. I am tired of the emotional roller coaster

Jeff
Jeff

Oh Dear!!!!! I can relate to this comment 1000%, I just broke off with my Issan girl, she was so pretty with long hair that hung down to her bum and 30 yrs my junior but ……..starting to drain me financially for this that and anything else she could think of….lucky my brain rules my heart and dick so I decided it was time to cut loose from her….and go back out there and play the field again

Andrew Davie
Andrew Davie

Tried not returning calls.
Month or so passed and she started messaging again.

Jean
Jean
im dating my Thai gf now and will stay 2 months in bkk I want to find a way to stay with her if it’s working well (Thailand or bring her back home) I red every post about it but still I’m not sure what to look out to see if she is really in love or as soon as I leave bkk and wait for to be back, she will just meet other guys. I guess I will never know but what sign will give me a good clue that she is serious? ( I know she told me… Read more »
Michael
Michael

It’s an unrealistic expectation to think any LDR would work. Don’t be a fool, lots of these girls freelance on the DL.

D. Stuart McCreadie
D. Stuart McCreadie
I have been coming to Thailand now for over 25-years; first working on MRT and BTS in Bkk and in the past 9-years in residence during which time I went from being naive to absolutely naive and now I believe still gullible where Asian girls are concerned. On reflection having travelled and worked in over 70-countries are Thai women, educated or otherwise, really any different to girls back home? Here I had experiences with girls from the bar and ‘caught a cold’ many times but it didn’t stop me coming back for more because in terms of quality they were… Read more »
shamus
shamus
Strange break ups… I spent 6-7 weeks with I thought was a lovely girl in Rayong…we clubbed (Thai) a lot and got a bit pissy… she also liked gambling… 500 baht here and there. She had her own business and appeared fairly nice. We has sex every day… nothing exciting like oral or anal… but she had a great bod (very pale) and came quick so I was happy. However over a 3 day period she got really drunk… lost about 5000 baht gambling and got a bit funny. The next morning she took several thousand baht from me and… Read more »
Barry A
Barry A
Most farang don’t realize that when they take on a Thai girl they are also taking on her extended family and in some cases their debts as well, In my experience Thai girls see the farang as a career move, bar girl or everyday girl. They have to survive and it’s hard for them to work the long hours that employers demand and still have enough time to keep their farang happy. As is said treat them mean keeps them keen. Sadly I cant do that and am still looking for the mythical self supporting girl. After 4 years I… Read more »
raj
raj
i had a long one and half year relationship with one thaigirl..i notice some good bad of her..thats true if thai girl really loves you that from all her heart but most thai girls having craziest mind for her bf.as i m having family already she many times jealous to my wife that i dont like i m already married she must understand that. as she divorced with her husband i m support her monthly about 30000b but she cnt stop thinking with her crazy mind about my family.from a month i m start ignoring her will see what happen… Read more »
briowalker
briowalker

raj, how’s your case now?

waty lkr
waty lkr

I too realy want to hav thai girl as my girlfren and also spend the rest of life with her.so needs ur help, where do i hav to get start?and is it possible to get a decent girl who can accompany for the rest of my life?

Ck
Ck

Just break the 4 month relationship with reason I unable to support her the financial.

From the beginning she also never ask for money. But she start telling a story after 2 months together. For me I also think that this relationship will not lasting because she was the person like to spend but no working!

fidelitycheckonlineKim

They usually get around to telling a sob story eventually…. where you the only guy she was telling it to?

miles
miles

It is really easy to break with a Thai girl till her that you will convert your self to a Kratoy .

Food
Food

OMG I laughed so hard at this comment pffftttttttt
I’m Thai and this made my day omg XD

mr v
mr v

Sorry can i ask whats the name of the girl in the pic? Im “dating” a girl looks similar…

Miles
Miles
Well Guys there are always exception but generally spoken Thai girls are lazy not sporty at all ( it is a miracle that they became Asian volleyball champion last year)easy to get down on not at all fate full low education university level is the same level as college back home . 80 % of the girls have done any form of prostitution like bar girl ,escort service,coyote girl,sugar daddy ,mia noi, part time hooker,massage girl etc…Prostitution is every where in Thailand at work shopping mall’s etc.. Phuket.Pattaya , sukhumvit NaNa is just peanuts 75% of the prostitution is for… Read more »
Mervyn Lee
Dear Redcat, Need your help on this. She was a total sweetheart, cooks for me, cleans my room, wash my clothes. All this when I was staying in Thailand for 5 months. I was so happy with her everyday while I was in TH. Everyday I can stay in her room and she never once ask me for money. We traveled everywhere in TH, pattaya, chiang mai and even her hometown Phitsanulok (met her family) I feel she is different from the other girls but I know i can never truly be with her. Due to social stigma and age… Read more »
Derek
Derek
I’ve gotten used to the idea (even comfortable) with ‘paying’ directly, because indirectly cost me more. e.g. Renting a girl versus marrying her, giving her parents a huge dowry, bahts of gold. I learned this lesson in the PI when I first met a girl working at the local supermarket. (Not bar girl) Her parents pressured her, in turn she was a brain dead zombie (a pretty one) who did everything her parents asked of her, which in my case was; borrow money from said foreigner. I courted her in traditional Filipino fashion being held on display where the parents… Read more »
Mark S
Mark S

Yes I think it’s important to find a girl who has her own money and can support herself. I don’t enter into relationships at the current time (keep it casual / dating) so it’s not an issue for me atm but if I decide to get back into one it will be with a girl who has a job and doesn’t expect any contribution for me, it’s harder for me though as I’m over 50 and a lot of the younger girls will be looking for ‘something’ even if not a direct payment every month.

jester
jester
Relationships for Thai are very focused on money/face and whole guy must support thai woman and family crap. ironically very few thai men support their thai women, so this needs to be broken away from. its only some idiotic americans that started this trend years ago and now the entire thai women species is out of control. Vietnam and Laos women are no where near as bad as thais, as they have not been corrupted so much by idiots. Stop giving women money full stop! I have endured a 10 yr relationship and never give my woman money…. however! i… Read more »
Jay
Jay

Hi Jester,thats an interesting approach and the first of its kind I have read relating to thai and farang relationships. I would love to learn from you and how you did it. I have a thai girlfriend at the moment and wonder if this would help. Thanks for any help.

Robert G.
Robert G.
Yes it is all about the money! My case is if I don’t send her money she thinks I don’t care and she always threatens to stop with me. I tested her and sure enough, she stops. And yes I think she wants only money, I even got her K-1 visa, and still she thinks if I not support her I don’t care for her. No matter what you do, To be with a Thai girl you have to give them some money or they will look somewhere else. I have been going to Thailand for the past ten years… Read more »
Mark S
Mark S

Hey,
I think what Chris is saying is that if you stop financing her she’ll break up with you. That assumes you are financing her in the first place which you are right you didn’t mention.

I would guess that most guys in Thailand are giving their gfs some sort of financial contribution but I don’t really like the idea either. I prefer to keep it casual with girls and that way I don’t have to pay for anything other than a cheap date.

chris

Not true. Stop giving her money or a place to live shell drop your ass