It’s no secret that the Thai lesbian scene is thriving and one phenomenon here in Thailand is that you see mostly Dee-Tom couples. Dee (Dîi / ดี้) is the Thai word for the hot chick with long hair and Tom (Tɔɔm / ทอม) her girlfriend that looks almost like a guy with her short hair and guy’s clothes, and she is the one that takes up the male part in the lesbian relationship (means she is also paying for most of the bills).

Now obviously there are not only girls who really like that kind of Tom girl (or “Tomboy”), but also lots of guys, foreign and Thai alike. I have several friends that asked me where to find some lesbian clubs to meet Toms.

So here is a list of some of the best lesbian / Tomboy bars in Thailand.

Bangkok: Simply TomBoy & 69 Infinity

Simply TomBoy is located in the gay district of Silom and without a doubt the best Tomboy bar in Bangkok.

On the weekends, you can find up to 60-70 toms, and most of them look super sharp. The fluctuation is because they are working here as freelancers and receiving up to 1,500 Baht per night from the bar. There is no admission fee, but you’ll still need to bring plenty of cash as they will want to drink lady drinks in order to hang out with you (200 Baht per glass). There is live music on most nights.

Two more notes: Not all tomboys here speak decent English, and the bar opens at 10pm but doesn’t really get going before 11pm or midnight.

Another Tomboy bar in Bangkok that operates in a similar way is 69 Infinity in the Town in Town area.

Of course, you may also find some Thai tomboys in BKK’s most popular night clubs.

Pattaya: Win 89, 4 Seasons & Oscar Pub

Win 89 is the best and most popular place to meet Toms in Pattaya, located off Pattaya 3rd Road. When I walked into this bar last week, one of the many hot (and handsome) Tomboys giggled while asking me: “Are you a Adam?”. That’s how they call guys who like Toms here in Thailand.

It’s 1,400 Baht for a bottle of whiskey including mixers, 300 Baht per hour for one of the Toms (feel free to pick more than that) and if everything is going well you can take them out by paying the bar fine of 1,000 Baht.

4 Seasons is the second best Tom bar and located just 200m down the street from Win 89. This is one of the only lesbian bars that I know that doesn’t have a strict “no-men” policy means you can go inside, have a drink and enjoy your time with one of about 30 Toms.

Just like Win 89, 4 Seasons opens at midnight, and the busiest time is around 2:30am when lots of working girls come in after they’ve finished work or finished with their guys.

Oscar Pub on Soi Chaiyapoon is mainly a karaoke, but they also have a big main room where it feels more like a bar – or pub how the Thais like to say.

Oscar is hugely popular, mainly among Thai girls and even Farang girls who are willing to pay somewhere between 1,000 and 3,000 Baht for sex with some of the hottest Tomboys in Pattaya. But of course you are also welcome as a Farang guy – just expect to get some surprised looks when you enter the bar.