Top 4 Best Lesbian / Tomboy Bars in Thailand

Last updated: December 11th, 2018 | in Bangkok | Nightlife | Pattaya | Thai Girls

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It’s no secret that the Thai lesbian scene is thriving and one phenomenon here in Thailand is that you see mostly Dee-Tom couples. Dee (Dîi / ดี้) is the Thai word for the hot chick with long hair and Tom (Tɔɔm / ทอม) her girlfriend that looks almost like a guy with her short hair and guy’s clothes, and she is the one that takes up the male part in the lesbian relationship (means she is also paying for most of the bills).

Now obviously there are not only girls who really like that kind of Tom girl (or “Tomboy”), but also lots of guys, foreign and Thai alike. I have several friends that asked me where to find some lesbian clubs to meet Toms.

So here is a list of some of the best lesbian / Tom bars in Thailand.

Zeta Bar / E-Fun – Bangkok

Bangkok Tomboy BarBoth of these bars are located on RCA, Bangkok’s favorite local nightlife area in the Ratchada district. It’s a 20 minute taxi drive from Sukhumvit and not only does it have some of BKK’s most popular night clubs (Route 66, Slim&Fix or Mello Yello), but also the first lesbian only bar called Zeta that opened its doors in 2006.

Only recently another hugely popular lesbian / Tomboy bar called E-Fun opened right opposite.

Unfortunately there is a strict “no-men” policy so the only thing you can do is have a drink at one of the many other bars or restaurants nearby and try your luck with arriving or leaving Toms. Both venues open daily from 9pm till late.

Oscar Karaoke & Pub – Pattaya

Pattaya Tomboy Bar

The best and most popular place to meet Toms in Pattaya located off Soi Buakhao. When I walked into this bar last week, one of the many hot (and handsome) Tomboys giggled while asking me: “Are you a Adam?”. That’s how they call guys who like Toms here in Thailand. This place is mainly a karaoke, but they also have a big main room where it feels more like a bar – or pub how the Thais like to say.

It’s 520 Baht for a bottle of whiskey including mixers, 200 Baht per hour for one of the Toms (feel free to pick more than that) and if everything is going well you can take them out by paying the bar fine of 1,000 Baht.

Oscar is hugely popular, mainly among Thai girls and even Farang girls who are willing to pay somewhere between 1,000 and 3,000 Baht for sex with some of the hottest Toms in Pattaya. But of course you are also welcome as a Farang guy – just expect to get some surprised looks when you enter the bar.

Shela Tomboy’s Club – Pattaya

Pattaya Lesbian BarPattaya’s second best Tom bar is located right opposite Hollywood Club in North Pattaya. Bar Shela Tomboy Club is one of the only lesbian bars that I know that doesn’t have a strict “no-men” policy means you can go inside, have a drink and enjoy your time with one of about 30 Toms.

Bar Shela is open everyday from 9pm to 6am and the busiest time is around 2:30am when lots of working girls come in after finished work or finished with their guys. There are even short time rooms that cost 500 Baht and include the bar fine.

If you know any lesbian / Tom clubs in other major cities like Chiang Mai or Phuket please leave a comment and I will add it to the list.

Daisy
Daisy

I am an anthropology undergraduate from the University of Cambridge and looking to research tom-dee spaces and identity in Thailand this summer, could you suggest a good way to get into contact with locals who would be willing to talk to me about their experiences?

Pat
Pat

Are those Tomboys open for a threesome??

George Williams
George Williams

Are there any ‘tomboys’ who would like to meet a straight Englishman (teacher)? Any contact or advice would be appreciated. George.

reb
reb

where is tthat shela bar in pattaya ? i was laot looking for that bar biut no one know where is even motor man? can you tell me a thai address

N
N

Tranzguy here! Wondering where I might meet nice lesbians? Not interested in women for hire! Thanks N

Laure
Laure

Does thé Zetra still open i wouldlike to go thanks for let me know have fun girls!…

Di
Di

You can try to visit Snoopy bar at Pattaya. As I remember it’s close to At Mind hotel and Holywood disco bar)

Di
Di

I thought that all Tom’s are lesbians) And not interested in any relationships with men… But hope you’ll find one)

pjolloper
pjolloper

Quite a lot of girls I have had some relations with have had lesbian relationships when not ‘at work’ It seems as common as the Thai boyfriend on the side.

Di
Di

Hello, I was in Bangkok at January 2014 and both recommended places were closed (((

pjolloper
pjolloper

Thought so. Really looking for a ‘man friendly’ Tom in Pattaya. (I’m probably dreaming though..I just like the androgenous look – but not katoey

pjolloper
pjolloper

Anyone know if bar Shela is still open (or is it now the ‘simply bla bar now) and any other tom bars in Pattay please?

gre5dot5
gre5dot5

I’ve heard both Zeta and e-fun are now closed.. is that true? Are there any other lesbian bars/clubs in Bangkok?