11 Lies Thai Prostitutes Are Telling You

Last updated: May 28th, 2015 | in Thai Girls

Lies Thai Prostitutes Are Telling You

You can’t trust Thai people. You just cannot trust them. They’re all the same. Even Asians say you cannot trust the Thais. Never believe what they’re telling you, every third sentence is a lie. Jesus Christ, why are those people lying so much?

I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. And still, there are so many guys who still believe all sorts of crap their Thai girlfriends are telling them. And more often than not that would be their Thai bar girlfriends. Yes that’s right, even though everyone seems to have heard and seen it all, there are and always will be guys who don’t notice the lies they’re being told by prostitutes all for the one short-term or long-term purpose of getting their money. And then at one point they fall in love with their hooker and stop even questioning things.

They think (and even say it aloud) that she’s different than the others, care about them and wouldn’t have any reason to tell them the untruth. Maybe it’s also the way they’re saying it, with a nice and charming smile on their face and the fact that their arguments and explanations are always convincing.

Here are 11 of the most common lies you get told by Thai prostitutes and if you hadn’t read this, you would probably believe it or not even think about that it could potentially be a lie:

1. Thai Prostitute doesn’t tell you her real name

Thai people only use nicknames in everyday life and so they would introduce themselves as Gung instead of Supaporn or sometimes a shortened version of their formal name, i.e. Nam or Fon instead of Namfon. These nicknames are usually given by their parents and never get changed – except in some occasions when they deal with Farangs. The other day I met a girl who introduced herself as Ploy (พลอย) and as I said oh that’s quite a common name isn’t it she said yes, and it’s also easier for Farangs to pronounce than her “real nickname” which is Bplʉ̂m (ปลื้ม). She wasn’t even a hooker, by the way.

2. Thai Prostitute doesn’t tell you where she’s really from

So now that you got her nickname, whether that’s the real one or just the one for Farangs, of course the second question is usually “where you from?”. So you tell her and throw the ball back asking her so where are you from? She laughs and says “haha, I’m from Thailand!” You smile and say you know that but which province. An estimated 70% of the bargirls are from the poor northern or northeastern provinces and sometimes, when they feel that you “know much” (rúu yǝ́, รู้เยอะ), they don’t want to admit that and just say Bangkok. Later when you find out that she’s really from Sisaket and confront her with it she might say something like that she misunderstood you and thought you were asking where she was living.

3. Thai Prostitute lies about how long she’s been working in the bar

Have you ever met a Thai girl who told you on the first night that she’d been working in the bar for more than three weeks? And that she likes it? If you did, you were probably lucky for her to be honest as you don’t seem like the typical gullible tourist to her. The girls know that Farangs like the idea of meeting girls who have just recently started working in the bar in the hope of them to not see her as the typical prostitute and start falling in love with her, paying her bar fine every night or even make her stop working at the bar at all and paying them a “salary” (ngǝn dʉan, เงินเดือน) every month. Here again, when the Farang finds out she’s been hooking for more than a couple of weeks her excuse would be that she worked at a different bar before or at the karaoke in her home town.

4. Thai Prostitute doesn’t know how much for the bar fine

She says no one’s paid her bar fine yet because of no. 3.

5. Thai Prostitutes tells you her wrong age

We always admire how the girls here look younger than they actually are. And they know that – because we tell them. So she says she’s 23 when she really is 28. Bargirls usually think they will meet their customers only once and so it doesn’t matter if they lie about their age. Another thing worth mentioning here is that many bar girls have children and come to work in the bars because their Thai guys have left them. You wouldn’t usually assume she has a baby just by how young and childish she looks – until she comes out of the bathroom at your place and you discover the stretch marks on her stomach.

6. Thai Prostitute “no have boyfriend”

She says she doesn’t have a boyfriend which is usually another typical lie as she’s in a relationship with a Thai guy and even lives with him together. He doesn’t have a problem with her working in the bar and going for short time with customers, usually he even tells her to do so and she would pay for his bills. These Thai guys usually don’t make much money, if they work at all they make less than 10,000 baht a month and that’s clearly not sufficient to pay the lease for their nice motorcycle (4,000-6,000 baht a month), their mobile phone, bottles of whiskeys and sometimes even drugs.

7. Thai Prostitute doesn’t feel well

You had a great night at her bar, paid for a lot of drinks and of course also her bar fine. You take her back to your hotel and after one hour of romancing, all of a sudden she starts coughing. “Mâi sàbai”, she says. Not feel well or how we would say: I’m sick. Strange you think, she was fine all night and seemed as active and talkative in the bar as usual. You suggest to walk with her to the pharmacy but she says no, it’s late already and she wants you to sleep. She will go back to her room and she got medicine there, too. “See you tomorrow na.” You’re still confused but don’t worry too much as you’re really tired and just agree. Do you even think about the possibility that this was her seventh lie this evening?

8. Thai Prostitute doesn’t let you see her room

After a few months seeing her and regularly paying her bar fine you probably want to know more about her private life. So you ask her if you can see her room on her day off. She says she is shy because her room is very small and dirty. Or it’s too far away. Or even in a dangerous area. But more typical these days is that she tells you she’s staying with her friend who doesn’t like her to bring men to the room. From my experience, in 50% of the cases this is true as they’re trying to split costs for the room rent but at least in half of the cases it’s just another lie as she’s staying with her Thai boyfriend.

9. Thai Prostitute “stop go with other Farang”

So one day you come to her bar and she’s not there. You ask one of the girls where she is and they say it’s her day off. The following day you ask her why she hasn’t told you it’s her day off, you two could have spent the whole day together. She says she only knows one day in advance when she got a day off. You ask her why she didn’t call you, she says telephone money finish.

A few days later your friend tells you he saw her going with another Farang the other day. You confront her with that and she says they only went for dinner. “He not boom boom me”, she says. “He old and lonely, we only eat together. Why you always think I lie? I love you. I have you, only one.”

10. Thai Prostitute needs money

Her brother is sick and needs to buy medicine. Her dad can’t pay the lease of the motorcycle this month. Her son needs to buy clothes and books for school. The water buffalo has died. And she kindly asks you for support because she “no have money“. These stories might not always be a lie but sometimes it turns out that it’s not her dad in upcountry Isaan who can’t pay the lease for his motorcycle, but her Thai boyfriend. Or the medicine that her brother needs isn’t actually her real brother but just a close friend of her and the medicine he so urgently needs is called ya-ba (yaa-bâa ยาบ้า). If you find out later and confront her with it she might say: “I told you already. You never understand me.”

11. Thai Prostitute loves you

When a bargirl tells you that she love you too much, that’s not because of your character but because she appreciates your financial support. Never forget why these girls come to work in the bar in the first place: They do it because they want to earn money and not because they want to find the love of their lives. Sure they’d be happy to stop working if you take care of her and pay her a monthly salary so she’ll keep on telling you “I love you Teerak. Thank you for everything you do for me”. Just try and stop giving her money and ask her to take up a job in the mall, supermarket or cafe. Bar girls are lazy and once they got used to their lifestyle it’s very unlikely that they are willing to change it for you. Unless you find one who really just started working in the bars 2 weeks ago.

In the end it comes down to the thing that Thai prostitutes always try to tell you what you want to hear, rather than the truth which might often lead to conflicts and someone potentially losing face or in this case even worse (!) – missing out on potential money.

About Redcat


Redcat lives his dream by living and traveling in Thailand. On Thailand Redcat he shares his experiences and advice to all aspects of (night)life in Thailand. Redcat is also fluent in Thai both spoken and written and is author of the books Thai Beginner’s Course and Thai Love Course.

46 Responses

  • Mookieson says:

    Don’t go out with bar whores first mistake .everything you guys are staying very true 110% right . Bar girl good for one thing and one night forget them . So go out with nice older lady’s in thailand take care of you and make sure come from a nice family . A lot of them out there .thai man treat there woman like shit and the ones who are not whores and prostitutes are looking for kind man to take care of and they will take care of in many why. I know I have one for 5 years never ask for money just love and kindest a beautiful lady and great family. I am a old man I know better no young girl wants to be with old man . So stop kidding your self and complaining about bar girl .You get what you pay for . like the old store go no money no honey And up to you a other slang Thai girls use. just remember one night only with bargirls and forget them pay them and leave.

  • Mark Waugh says:

    I have an Indian friend who visits Thailand all the time. Indians are cheapest and shrewdest bunch of guys you will ever meet. They lie as well as the bar girls and actually make some of the girls fall for them. According to him, if a Thai girl can pass the Indian test ( no extra dough till things don’t start to fall in place ) she’s a keeper.

  • Dr Mark says:

    Mookieson (words seem from a Thai woman) makes a good point – one I have heard repeatedly from my Thai wife and other “legit” Thai women. The Farang idiots who really “fall in love” with postitutes do really open themselvesup for heartache and a royal screwing. But what about us “thrill seekers”? I have posted here before about my experiences. In the past year I finally divorced my “hi-so” Thai wife, not because she is not a good person but because she decided that we dont need sex three years ago. Of course some of that is my fault. But the point of this post is about addiction to the excitement of the prostitute world. I have a very lovely girlfriend in Pak Chong – a business owner who never asks me for a baht. But one month in Pak Chong I get stir-crazy and need to return to BKK for a week or two. In BKK and Pattaya I have very dear friends who sell sex – some full-time some after work. I have known 4 of them for years, and one is my daughter. They never lie to me (wouldnt work if they tried) and they always take care of me (not only sex but day-to-day living. My long-term conclusion is that this small group of prostitute friends care about me much more than any of the “hi-so” or normal Thai women I have known. I confess to being a bit twisted but for me a prostitute true friend is better than a “hi-so” lady anyday.

    • David says:

      Just when you think you’ve seen it all and it can’t get any crazier … along comes a guy who non-nonchalantly admits he pays his prostitute daughter for sex !! Only last night I met a fellow Aussie married to a Hi-So and he asked me to fuck his wife so he could go with a freelancer who had taken a fancy to him in the nightclub … Pretty boring by Thai standards. I have to agree that the peasant prostitutes are a lot more fun and give a better experience.

  • Mookieson says:

    You guys hang out with shit and will get shit back . Plenty of good thai lady’s than are looking for love to take care of you. Yes these people are poor and need money. Good ones don’t ask for money and if you love them just give a few hundred dollars a month not even a dinner out in the USA or Europe . But don’t date whores or sluts they will suck your blood out. Just use you big head not your little one.

  • Ruby says:

    All true about from No.1 and No.2, Every Thai hooker always tells me Isaan. It helps their story of povery

  • Dr. Mark says:

    As usual these posts are informative and give an accurate picture of personal experiences. I have been around Thailand a very long time (1964 on) and now have a retirement visa and a nice house in Bangkok. I am married to a “hi-so” Thai which has advantages and disadvantages. Just as a point of reference this “hi-so” lady from a connected family with money got divorces after a 15 year marriage, then worked Thai Friendly to hook 5 Farang (European and Kiwi) to take her on holiday to Singapore and expensive resorts. Of course they got the full treatment, and sent her money to boot – which she didnt need at all.
    For the past year I have had a “side relation” with a “semi-bar girl”. This is one who has a good day job but frequents the Soi 7 Beergarden” two ir three nights a week to fuck Farang and take a minimum of 4000 baht Long Time. She tells most of the lies Redcat lists except she always admitted that she had a daughter and came from Chiyaphom. She always adjs me to go with her to see daughter and family. She tells me when she gets a “customer” at Beergarden and gives me details of the date. She often complains “many man at Beergarden have a big and make my pussy hurt”. The only really phoney part of the deal is when she takes off for a few days “on business”. I never get the straight scoop on what is up with that, but I presume a short holiday with one or more guys.
    I admit to being a thrill seeker, and for sure this girl is one too. She koves it when a handsome young Aussie takes her to the Landmark and fucks the heck out of her, and hates it and even cries when she takes money from a nasty, drunk, fat old Farang who want a blowjob and nasty stuff.
    I should knock this relationship off. She is 35 years my junior, and keeps my mind too occupied. I have avoided giving her any “big money” but there is always the need in the background ( the latest is that Father needs 30000 to upgrade toilet. I do believe that he does. I dont care if one or five other Farang send this girl money. She is lovely and works hard (at her 6 day a week job or at her Beergarden hookups). She gives real value for money spent.
    My point here is that Thai society creates this situation, whether from a rich Bangkok girl or a poor country girl. 50% of the coeds at Maha Sarakham University sell pussy on the side to Thai men. When i ask my “hi-so” wife why she took money from her boyfriends her reply is “they were stupid”. So there you have it.

    • Gener Equality says:

      You will not understand Thai women if you do not understand their religion.
      1. Life is suffering. To have “real” Feelings for others, is to invite suffering.
      2 For Buddhists, love does not exist. Love is a feeling that must be overcome. In the monistic thinking “all is on”, separate objects are called “Maya” and do not exist. Buddhist love means to release all living beings from suffering.
      3. Thai women are born as women as they have bad Karma. If they help their parents economicly, they will get a chance to get reborn as men in their next life. They are nice to you to get good Karma. As more good Karma they save in their present life, as bigger the chance to get reborn as a man in their next life.
      3. Sexuality is only considered a physical need, like those of eating.
      4. Thai women do nothing out of “love”. All they do is for themselves – to get better Karma in their next life and to get a better life when they get re-born as a man.

  • Thai Boy says:

    “you never understand me! Really!” This sentence is classic after u knew the thai girl for a long time

  • Johnny says:

    I think there are actually a lot of decent bargirls out there with good hearts. The question you have to ask yourself is can you really or do you really want to be with a girl that has literally slept with thousands of men? Think about how many 747 airplanes she could fill with the guys she has slept with. If you are ok with this then my hat is off to you.

  • Herwig says:

    I have a Thailady, which has a daughter from me. Now 5 years old. Ibhath every month dont mind, if the lady hide something, but she take god care of the daughter. I pay my 15.000 Bhath every month and made them a house where to stay. I visit them very often, but I have my private
    live, so lies dont disturb me, as long I see the daughter feel well

  • James says:

    What the hell do you expect from a whore, other than sex?
    Passion? Honesty? Love? Those are each independent variables that have zero bearing on a whore’s relationship with you.

  • [email protected] says:

    I retired young (38) and never had time for a traditional social life, so I decided to visit Thailand for a 3 week vacation. I’m not a drinker or partier but I’m fine in a bar. It was still early in the evening and I noticed some very young and pretty women making their way around the bar. One caught my eye. Within a minute or two she was standing in front of me smiling.

    We were out of the bar in less than 5 minutes of meeting one another. She and I went to dinner and she mentioned it was her very first night in the bar. After reading many sites similar to this one I thought ‘sure it was’ and smiled. I jokingly said “I bet you don’t have children and you’re under 25” She smiled and lifted her tshirt and exposed a flat, toned stomach. She then put her National I.D. up to my face and 19 was her age. (I checked for her sex, too) I apologized her teasing her and she said “I like you”.

    We finished dinner and I asked her to show me around Thailand. She admitted she wasn’t from Bangkok and didn’t know the area well, so I suggested we go to Pattaya and tour. We had a great time in Pattaya and finally made it back to Bangkok very late. I asked her if I could pay her bar fine for the next couple nights and that she stay with me. She agreed. We went back to the bar and I dropped the baht and we went back to the hotel. We were both tired, so we fell asleep, I awoke and she was gone. I thought “I was scammed” However, a little while later she entered the hotel with a large bottle of water and some fruit. She obviously showered and went somewhere — maybe home — to get clothes because she was wearing a nice jean skirt and tshirt with sandals; she looked gorgeous. I brought up the ‘fee’ and she responded “pay whatever you like” I was torn between the thought that I might look like a cheapskate or and idiot for overpaying, so I told her I’d pay her bar fine for the total 3 weeks and giver her 150000 baht. She started to cry and told me that she didn’t want me to pay her bar fine because she wanted to find a different job. Eventually, she quit her bar job and she found work at a restaurant.

    After the 3 weeks I left and we kept in touch. Two months later I flew back to Thailand and she met me at the airport. We took a taxi to the hotel and she told me she had to work, but will be able to meet up later. She even brought back dinner. All went well.

    I’ve since moved to Singapore and have a nice home. She has come to stay with me on a visa. She can’t work here because she really doesn’t have any qualifications, nor secondary education. Her English is pretty good, but I’ve been teaching her the proper way to read/speak English, so she can communicate better.

    She’s very protective of me and I can tell she’s in it for the duration. I used to tease her about her jealousy, but it’s authentic, so I stopped teasing.

    We’re very compatible and happy with one another, and if I make her 5% as happy as she make me, I’ll have succeeded.

    For every 100 Thai girls that lie, there’s one out there that doesn’t. Perhaps, I was lucky in finding one that doesn’t because I certainly sacrificed my social life to make enough to retire young. Was it worth it? Absolutely!!


    • Johnny says:

      Reality check. She left and showered because she went somewhere to meet a regular guy she sleeps with. Dont be a fool. Find a regular girl. Trust me. I dated a bargirl for almost a year. She was a nice girl but she still would whore around some. She wasnt sure I would stay with her so she keeps in contact with them. You would never know if your girl was seeing somebody. My best advice is if you cant see your bargirl you dont know what shes doing. Shes probably getting Fu***d. Its hard to trust a non-bargirl. Bargirl 10x worse. It doesnt matter how good looking you are, how good your body or how much money you have. She will be insecure and string other guys on.
      Anyway, this is my experience. Best of luck!!

  • Kitty-licker says:

    I live in a village near chiang rai and there are a number of girls here who are getting regular monthly payments from guys in various countries. One girl is on 60,000 baht a month from five diffetent fools; all of whom believe they are the only one and come once a year to see thier ‘girlfriend’ when they spend loads more cash on them. A fool and his money are easily parted, and there’s nothing more powerful than pussy to make it happen. I guess that’s why I’m broke!

    • Matt Doorman says:

      lol… funny. God for her! Did you talk with her?.. 300,000 bt a month? Even I am not stupid enough to send monthly payments to a girl I see a week of year. Imma give this one as a won to her…

  • Steve says:

    Funny thing lying about their age. My girlfriend told me she was 23 and last August was her birthday. She had a birthday party and I bought a cake for her with candles, 24 of them. My friend from Australia who also had his Thai girlfriend with him was sitting next to me, and he motioned me to come outside with him. Went outside and he told me his Thai girlfriend said my girl was only 19 turning 20 and everyone thought it was funny that I had 24 candles on the cake. Not being able to speak much Thai, I did not notice. I said nothing about this to anyone, but that night I saw my girlfriends ID card on the bed next to her purse. She saw me when I tried to have a look and a brief “friendly” wrestling match occurred with her trying to grab it away from me. She knew she had lied and I was about to see. Sure enough, she had just turned 20 that day. I asked why she lied to me. She said she was frightened I would leave her if I thought she was too young. Bless her dear little heart. Sometimes lies are not that bad. We are still together 8 months later. Living together, not internet stuff.

  • Ste F says:

    Very interesting about Thai s . First of all if anyone is serious about falling in love with a Thai lady then it’s a must to learn the Thai language .
    Not all Thai girls work in bars or sell sex for money . Plenty of them work in shops and banks . Just like in the UK we have hookers but not all English girls are hookers .
    Thailand is a playground for farang keep it that way . Stop falling in love with hookers stop giving away cash to them
    They are women with no or very little moral standards . So forget about marrying them or falling in love with them . Unless you don’t mind they lies and can play them at their own game

  • TIT (This is Thailand) says:

    I’ve been cumming and going (cumming due to the girls and going because of poo pa laa) for more than 14 years and now live here. I’ve heard the question ‘how do you know when a Thai is lying’? Answer – because they’re saying something.
    I met a bar girl in Chiang Mai one time and asked all the usual reasons why she might be working there. Every question- sick brother NO -child to support NO -Debt NO….and so on. I exhausted ALL the reasons why girls usually work in the bar. So then I asked ‘So why are you working in the bar’ she said I like 2 things….money and sex !!!!
    She was very pretty, nice figure, no kids (no stretch marks wink wink).I told her she could pull any guy but she said I don’t want a boyfriend.
    The following year I went back to see her, no sign, she’d gone. Walking towards night Bazaar I heard someone calling my name, I turned to see ‘XXX’ in a grey uniform worn by staff in one of the nice restaurants. What’s going on XXX I asked. She said I finish work bar….but why? Because I have nice boyfriend………So you see, there is ONE nice girl out from the bar!

    • Redcat says:

      In this case when she says she has a nice boyfriend she means he is taking care of her (financially) and just sends her to work at the market to keep her busy – while he can do his business or just have fun with other girls.

      • TIT (This is Thailand) says:

        Cynic lol……have you heard about the new Christian prayer for bar girls…. it goes ‘Lord I lay me down too cheap, I pray thee Lord my Gold to keep, If I should leave before he stirs, I ‘ll nick myself a thousand more ……Oh and one more lie……’of course I’m a real woman ……chick with a dick’

    • Steve says:

      I have met a couple of similar girls. Worked in the bar for a while and then either got sick of the work or started a serious relationship. Every person is different and should be judged on their own merits. Be cautious and make them gain your trust over time.

  • farfor says:

    1. my phone no battery
    2. i dont put internet
    3. my mother is sick
    4. i am single

  • richard jakeway says:

    i had a thai girlfriend she said she never had a boyfriend when we were in bed 1 morning her phone rang she spoke in English she said it was her ex wanted 2 go 2 here home 2 see her house why would an ex boyfriend want 2 see her home biggest load of bollocks ive ever heard she should be on stage sweeping it

  • Eve says:

    Thought all Prostitutes lie. It’s part of their job.

  • LiveLifeFreely says:

    I have read a lot of your articles on this site and I really thank you for putting all this information together that is helping so many people like me. I planned a short Thailand trip and am currently in Thailand. Two days here and most of what you have written makes sense to me. The first night, I picked up a super cute thai girl from Tilac bar in Soi Cowboy for “long time”. We had dinner together (of course I paid), then had a wonderful time in the hotel where she really took good care of me. I asked her to stay the night which she did. In the morning we had another go. In between we had a lot of conversation using the google translate app as her English was poor. She sounded quite honest to me telling me that she separated from her husband and that Thai men are lazy who depend on girls like them to provide for the family. She also had a kid. She didn’t lie about her age (28 years and I know as I saw her ID at the hotel). She cuddled with me and gave me a complete GFE! Did it feel like she cared and really liked me with all her heart? Absolutely!! No doubt at all. “You want me to stayyyyy?” she asked. I said no, sorry I need to checkout from this hotel. “Up to youuuuu” she replied, sadness on her face and her voice. She even bathed me. Got dresses and still no mention for money. Back in California, the strippers don’t even let you touch them before you give them the money (not a fair comparison but such distinct behavior). It was ME who said I need to pay you. I paid her the money and a 1000 Baht more as a tip and her reaction was priceless. She left and I didn’t think much of it until last night. After a lot of frustration (I arrived late at 11:00 pm, most beautiful ones were gone), I got another bar girl from Baracca who was stunning. Immediately I notice a complete behavioral difference between this girl and the previous girl. She was upfront about money and asked for it as soon as we entered the room (something to do with not trusting Indian men with money. I hate the reputation they have created). This one wasn’t really into me, I could tell. She tried as much as possible to delay sex and really took her time with shower (which she started alone) and lots of other bullshit. In the bed she was hoping I would forget the blowjob! After sex she says, “I will give you back 1000 Baht. Let me go home”. Fuck I was surprised! She insisted on giving back the money as I had paid her for long time, but I said keep it and that she is free to go if she wants. She apologized repeatedly and left. Not even a good bye hug. After she left, I started thinking. The girl from Tilac (Nam) was nothing but excellent and this one was not even close. Thoughts ran wild and I started comparing and realized that Nam had given me such a good time! I realized that only after getting this cold company from another girl. Ever since I came to Bangkok, I have seen farangs holding hands with Thai girls and walking. This girl hadn’t even walked besides me but behind me where as Nam had walked hand in hand with her head on my shoulder like we were some real couple on a honeymoon! Two days, two completely different experiences. I thought of going back to Tilac and getting back Nam again tonight but I know its not a good idea. I don’t want to fall for this girl. After reading your articles, I am back on track. Even though I still don’t think she has lied about anything mentioned here, some of the lines in your writing across many articles really stand out. “Thai girls number one priority is taking care of her family, everything else comes later”, “A thai bar girl will make you feel like they really like you, its their job to do that and get more $$$ from you”, “Thai bar girls like being bar girls because they have friends and cousins working with them”, “They are not looking for a prince charming to come rescue them” etc. I had made up my mind to go back and see Nam again. Now thinking about it, if I do go back to Tilac, I would probably get her back to my hotel, pay her double the price in tips and then tomorrow leave Bangkok feeling like shit and sad. Staying in touch with her is stupid and will hurt my otherwise good personal life. Man what did I get myself into! I guess thats what I signed up for when I came to Thailand as a sex tourist, I just didn’t see it coming. For hours I felt bad and really missed Nam (what the fuck is wrong with me?) My two cents for anybody who cares: As a young man inexperienced with prostitution or one night stands, don’t come to Thailand with a naive mind. Be mentally strong (or rather emotionally detached?) if you are coming to Thailand for a few days of boom boom. I never thought this girl would be on my mind for so long or would matter so much! Its my last day and I don’t even feel like going and getting a new girl. Thank you for you writing that helps people! Thailand is an amazing country and Thai women are even more amazing. Bar girls (or prostitute as one might want to call them) or any other thai women, are lovely. The bar girls are doing what is best in the situation that has been presented to them. Coming from poor families with no education and responsibility of a family is no joke. Good or bad working girls, my heart goes out for them.

    • jim says:

      well written and good understanding but just remember MONEY is not everything if your happy go with it

    • Scugs says:

      Well well well, so good to read all this, because its absolutely true from everyone here especially last guy (Living Life Freely). He I am going to Koh Samui for a holiday for 10x days. I never went there for Sex but once I discoverd Massage Parlours every 500 yards I was hooked !. I banged 3x different girls every day, not bad for someone who is 63 years, (I am in Good shape) but the inevitable happened ????????????
      I had hired a motor scooter which gave me complete freedom around the island, but I soon got to know where all the favourite places were and gravitated to them. But heres the clincher !!!! one night was riding around the Chaweng, and stumbled across the street called “THE AVENUE” it was not a big or long road but full of bars with red lights and pumping. I could not go 2x metres with out girls jumping out in front of me trying to drag and entice me into the bars they were working. Probably 20x bars all up with lots of very sexy good looking girls in each one. I parked my Scooter and started walking around finally settling on one bar bathed in Red light. I saw a young girl with just the body I liked and asked I want her. Madam asked how long ? I said short time cause Im a cheap skate. (900 BHT plus Bar fine 500 BHT) and I was away. she lived just down the road. Had an amazing time we kinda chatted cause they don’t speak English real well, and little did I know it but I was getting primed. (but could not see it)
      WEEEEELLLLLL guess what ?????? Im got up next morning just totally SMITTEN with her and totally convinced this girl was for me, yea she was 29 and I am 63 ??? did I see there problem NOOOOO! I was just falling for this girl. So the next 4x nights we spent together staying at my hotel. I took her for breakfast and people were looking at me there and I know what they were thinking ? but you know what, by this stage I was so IN LOVE !!!! that nothing else mattered. This was my future wife and I was going to make it work, (because she said she loved me and she was not like any of the other Thai girls, ( AH DER !!!) of coarse my heart had completely surrended to her and being from Australia we trust what people say as being the truth !!!! right !

      The one thing I had going in my favour was that I was 63 years old and had a lot of life experience, not to mention a 20 year failed marriage that took me to HELL and back. But my heart took off I had never experienced anything like this a feeling of complete exhilaration, freedom Love and just everything else you could imagine, piled on top.

      We stayed in contact and she kept ending me sticker texts saying she loved me, and would I take care of her and Blah Blah Blah —- I didn’t care I was Drunk in Love Man ! this has to work. pretty much a couple of weeks later she asked me to buy her a Motor Bike , I was pretty annoyed about that and said NO! and made my disappointment known to her. Then back to Lovey Dovey stuff and I forgot all about that request. I was trying to figure out away I could get back up there to Love my future beautiful wife, but because I didn’t send mopey she told men she had to keep on working in the Bar to make money for family. So Im thinking Ok, she works 7x nights a week there are a lot of guys from all over the world Fucking her, maybe not every night, but most nights so this started taking a toll on me. The only way she would stop working the Bar would be as if I supported her every month with money, BUT ?????? would she stop working the Bar even if I sent her money, because I would be there to check if she was or was not ?????? Mmmmmmmmmm this is not looking so good anymore.

      I finally had to send her a DEAR JOHN message to say it was all going to be too hard to do. I got back a pretty firm response to say I had not helped her one bit !! and she was not pleased.

      But can I say this even to this day she is in my heart and I would drop everything to be with her. And believe me I am not stupid but this girl brought me undone in 4x days. My heart is still trying to figure out a way I could be there, but my experience and sensibilties are fighting just as hard against it.
      I had a friend who lives in Hua Hin and Im asked him for advice he said without a bit of hesitaion, !!! she is lying to you and will; relieve you of all your money and then the clincher she will LEAVE you.

      Finale: Do not ever fall ion Love with a BAR GIRL !!!! they are there for the money and looking after their families in North Eastern Thailand. You will come off second best and very
      Hurt !!

  • barry says:

    Troy, good comments. Most women are prepared to prostitute themselves for financial gain, often called “security”.

  • troy tucker says:

    Surely you can’t generalise every single bar girl like this, I do agree somewhat with many of the comments. Remember though that Thais have been brought up to believe that its disrespectful to not take care of your parents, sure they could work at the 7/11 and earn 9000 baht a month (180 pounds!!) for six days a week work with rigorous hours. Or they could shag a few men a week and earn triple. Although it is a choice to turn to prostitution, when considering the other options i’m sure many people would fall for the same trap, its a shame but its mainly because of the minimum wage system in Thailand which is 300 baht a day. Consider this, live in England – Marry a Western women, half of what you have is automatically hers – western women expects you to go out and work whilst she stays at home (research suggests that 77% of all women married in the UK have this expectation). They cheat on you, steal from you and take you for everything you have just the same. Now take a thai girl – so she will lie to you to save face just as Western women will, she wants your money as Western women do, but in my experience they aren’t very supportive of you and they can be extremely poisonous. Thais actually avoid confrontation and would rather not say anything. My point is that all women have the potential to do all of these things, its just more commercialised throughout Thailand, there is actually so much of it here in England, but the government and mass media won’t allow us to see that – because we live in an amazing and beautiful country (bollocks). You can always find a diamond in the rough, never be afraid to see beyond the immediate.

  • wingman says:

    Some pearls of wisdom:

    You do not pay a whore to fuck you, you pay them to leave!

  • tchib says:

    So stay away…
    Why spending time and money with such people?

  • thibault says:

    heard about baby milk scam in cuba, wonder if its the same.
    cuban mother dont open beg for money. she says she dont have enough to buy baby milk. yuma (gringo) buys it for her.she just sell it back to the shop for cold hard cash. shop owners is in the conspiracy, he just buys back the milk at half price, meaning half the money goes into his pocket.

  • Grumpy Old Man says:

    Oops. Forgot!!! Its an Asian thing, all the working girls lies, and all business people lie. Just take the baby milk in China. Chineese people go to Hong Kong, to buy baby milk. Take the tuk tuk driver in Cambodia who say that that hotel you want him to bring you, is full. He want you to a place where he get return commission.

    By the way, perhap people in our farang countries lie lesser, but, do we always tell the truth? Just take the ads. The sporty guy who smoke cigarettes and is very healthy, etc etc.

  • Grumpy Old Man says:

    Its important to ynderstand that white lies is a part of the culture. Often its done to keep face. Both parties involved as a matter of fact. When they lie to each other its often about thing in daily life.

    The difference is when we farang meet prostitutes, they lie to get money. Its like a second hand car salesman in the West. The more you lie, the more money you make.

    Agian… thais lie/ tell people what they want to hear, to avoid loosinf face, og make the other thai loosing face,

  • thibault says:

    “Sure they’d be happy to stop working if you take care of her and pay her a monthly salary so she’ll keep on telling you “I love you Teerak. Thank you for everything you do for me”.”
    .. thats not even true.they ll just take your money AND conbtinue working at the bar. you ll just have given them security, and thus options: she ll probably just freelance and be more picky with her clients, because she s less pressured.
    but she ll be found every night at the same spot in the same bar/disco.. why? because she likes that, and cant think of any other way to live.
    ask any guy what is his dream life? drinking all night and banging anything that moves. well, guess what, thats PRECISELY the life they are living. sex, drugs and som tam, all year round.

    • Redcat says:

      Of course they’d stop working in the bar if you give them a salary every month and she is going to live with you in the same place. But then it’s more about the money you are giving to her and not so much about “love”, that’s what I was saying here. As soon as the financial support stops she would normally go back working again. Don’t get it mixed up with the guys who are going back to their home countries and sending money every month, of course then it’s rather common that they don’t change anything and continue working in the bars like you described it.

    • Roland says:

      True. The only things that happend when you send money is that she don’t need to fuck old guys anymore and can fuck for free with younger and more handsome. Seen this plenty.

  • Grumpy Old Man says:

    You forgot one of the best: I dont like Thai men, and one more, I dont like young men :-D

  • Dobberdude says:

    Spot on as usual….I know a former bar girl (i think she is “former” )who married a dumbass UK chap who sends her 15,000 baht per month but she really doesnt want to stay with him….so I suggested she try getting a real job. You would have thought I told her to work in a sewer. She would rather go back to selling pussy than get a real job….Bar girls are LAZY!

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